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So Depressed Due To Hubby's Messy Habits
January 25, 2003
4:48 pm
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I've been married to my husband for 8 years and I'm sick of it already that I wanted to leave him. Everytime I clean house and made it looks nice. Hubby make a huge mess next day. For example, he clean out laundry room and shed for spring cleaning. Next thing, he goes out with his friend for dinner, leaving things on the backyard all night long. When he cook, he leave garbages on the counter instead of trash! He also leave dirty dishes on the living room table and on the floor to make room for him to lay on the couch. He always put dirty AND clean clothes on the floor - never use dresser or closet. He's using his van as his "tool shed". Everywhere I clean it up, he messed it up AGAIN, AGAIN.. I wanna scream!! I did tried NOT to clean up after he made the mess for a week or so, boy things were so bad that many flies developed. I'm so depressed and hated coming home. We have a five-years old son. By the way, he never take care of his teeth and we never been kissed since 7 years ago. I beg and beg him to go see the dentist - he never did. I thought of getting a divorce, but to me it doesn't make sense to do so just because of his messy habit? I would divorce him if he had cheated on me or something. But this case is unusal and I don't know if any other wives went through the same thing??

January 25, 2003
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Jina! Holy smokes!

You sound at your wits' end!

You cannot change him. Please, don't even try. Save your energy for school. Tell him what you need from him. Give him an ultimatum...if he doesn't follow through, consider leaving him...since that is what you have already entertained. He will only wear you down while you try to make life better for you and your family.

You need his support while you try to make your lives better. If he can't handle that, maybe he will change his mind if he gets a taste of what life will be like without you...when you separate.

You have only one son. Not two.

Don't be afraid to leave. There are also many (even better) financial aid packages out there to help single moms get through school.

Go for it.

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