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snowballing emotions
June 14, 2006
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Any advice on how to STOP the effect of letting 1 feeling snowball into more and more irrational feelings?
I get 1 thought in my head, that is unjustified, then keep adding to it, then get upset about something that really was nothing.

HELP

June 14, 2006
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Starryslp, I guess it depends what kind of thoughts you are having. Is it something about your personal life, or just things in general? Could you give a little more insight here so maybe we can help?

June 14, 2006
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starry, just yell out loud STOP....and keep saying it, and try to stop yourself from analyzing....and worrying about things that haven't even happend yet.

June 14, 2006
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In my personal life. I start thinking things like my husband is going to cheat on me, even though he never never has even given me 1 reason to think that, and I get sick about it, and start thinking of plans he may have.

I start thinking that people are talking about me, when there is no reason why they would be

June 14, 2006
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Starry, are you in therapy for these thoughts, or has this just started?

June 14, 2006
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Just started

June 14, 2006
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Starry, you are on the right track. The therapist will help you. Not to judge you, but I think medications can help with this type of thinking. What you have in your corner is the fact that you understand this is a problem and not normal. I don't mean that in an offensive way, you absolutely can't help it, it is probably due to an imbalance in brain chemicals. I was married to someone who had these problems, and he tired to seek help but the minute they got to the root of the problem, he would quit going. He thought I had the problem or the counselor was a quack. People that do not respond to therapy are the ones that never help themselves. You are absolutely helping yourself here...do not give up it doesn't happen overnight. Just post again if you still need to talk, OK?

June 14, 2006
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careverymuch that was interesting could that be me? Now you got me wondering? I get depressed for no apparent reason, I want to cry sometimes just because, I get so upset sometimes for nothing, I stress myself out period on everything! I think I'm chemically embalanced? I had a therapist but only for a short period of time. Ummmmm serious I think I need medication?

starryslp I no how you feel. As you see I have similar issues. At least your going to therapy. That's a good thing. Just stay positive! That's what get's me threw the day. Always think positive.

It's weird huh?

June 14, 2006
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Chinita, Before and after I went through the problems with my ex husband, I had depression. I was seeing a therapist after because I had such a problem with the emotional pain that his disease caused me and I was also dealing with another very large problem at my place of work. It was that bad that the therpist suggested I go on antidepressants. They had to try several different ones, because they do not all work the same and for everyone. My regular doctor also diagnosed that I have SAD (seasonal affective disorder). When winter comes, I am very depressed and all I do is sleep. I do take antidepresants for 6 months out of the year and it helps tremendously. Maybe you should get back to seeing a therapist and tell him/her of your symptoms and ask if a medication might help? Just some thoughts.

June 14, 2006
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Wow now that is something I should look deeply in because I have a straight roller coaster ride with my emotions and feelings constantly. In the winter I do find myself even more depressed around that time of the year. I don't no I'm always up and down all the damm time. Thanks for the advice.

June 14, 2006
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You are welcome Chinita. With antidepressants, I find that things that used to bother me either don't bother me very much or not at all. The brain chemical serotonin level is raised by the medication and that is the "feel good" chemical in your brain. Some people just naturally have a low level, lower than what is considered normal. Exercise can help raise your serotonin level also. The lack of light in the winter also has something to do with the serotonin level. Good luck to you and hope you find some relief! Don't give up!

June 14, 2006
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I won't! I'm determined this time around to have a descent life a so called normal life. My main problem is "MEN"! I have been threw so much heartache, pain, depression, I can't think of how much stuff I've been threw and put up with. I'm getting older and have a different aspect of life. In my case I was fall and hurt myself but I still get up with my head up and I start trudging threw it. I've become very strong but yet my heart still aches from all of it. It's so hard to explain. I just feel like expressing myself so excuse me if it's too much. Thanks though for listening. lol.

Sorry starryslp. I've got issues too.

June 14, 2006
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Sounds like you may be paranoid due to lack of self esteem. Looking for trouble that may not be warrented. Finding whatever is negative to feed into your insecurity. JMHO. Maybe you could try to figure out the good things about you and realize people like you for who you are. Positive thinking results in positive feedback.
Try it you might like it!!!

June 14, 2006
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Chinita, don't worry about explaining too much, I think I understand, really. I can relate even though I can't go into detail right now. If you are determined to have a decent life, I believe you will, you sound like a fighter..

Care

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