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Snow__ How's the move going?
May 20, 2006
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Hey Lady! Are you free yet? I'm not sure if you'lll have your computer up and running yet, but I want you to know that I'm thinking of you!

May 20, 2006
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Here too, how is the day of renewal going?

Strength, joy and love to all,
Kim

May 21, 2006
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Snow, hows tricks hun? Hope the moving wasn't to stressful!

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May 21, 2006
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((((((Snows)))))) sending hugs your way and hoping you are doing well! We miss you!

May 21, 2006
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Hi everyone!!!!

Im all moved, and Im sooooo happy!!! i love my new place, I love my new furniture, and Im sooooo glad to be away from HIM!!!

He tried to tick me off today. I had put all of his things out in my garage and told him he could get them yesterday when I wasnt there. i went out there today to check, and most of it was still there!! I called and he said he had taken all he wanted, and to do "whatever" with the rest of it. I was calm, and my friends and i loaded it all into the truck, and i took it to his place and put it in his garage when i got my exercise equipment from his house. AND..i didnt go inside to tell him i was there!!!

Im so much happier now everyone!! I think this is the absolute best thing I could have done for myself!!!

Thank you so much for thinking of me!! I missed all of you sooooo much!!!

Hugs....Snow

May 21, 2006
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Snow: I am so happy for you. You sound terrific. Love, SD

May 22, 2006
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Great SNOW! My thoughts and prayers are still with you. I think you're really really on your way to getting your life on track and letting go of the old crap this was holding you back from enjoying your life. Good luck, and GREAT JOB!!

May 22, 2006
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Thanks everyone..all these words of strength mean so much to me. I just feel so at peace right now, and Im enjoying it!!!

Im not naive enough to think he wont contact me again, but I know that Im better now, and have found more inner strength than i ever knew I had!!

Snow

May 23, 2006
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(((((((Snow))))))))

You have taken just a Giant Step for yourself! I am very happy for you. The new surroundings will help you so much in your struggle to recover control of your life...your heart...your happiness.

I am also totally impressed that you are back online so quickly. Whenever I have moved, it takes me DAYS, just to find the electrical outlets, let alone the phone cords, etc.

Stay Strong!

Love,

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May 23, 2006
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Strong.....LOL....I have a friend whos a computer geek, and he got me hooked up right away!! Plus, I bought a new computer desk, and well, I had to try it out!!!

I also knew I needed to check in here. This place keeps me grounded, and strong. Anytime I feel weak I come here and draw strength from all of you.

Ya know..I havent felt weak yet though. This new place is MINE, all mine. he hasnt been here, his stuff isnt here, it doesnt smell like his cologne anymore, its JERK FREE!!!!

My hope now is he continues to stay angry with me, and leave me alone. He has this wierd radar where Im concerned, and knows the exact moment Im feeling strong, and BAM he swoops back in. I feel different now though. More confidant, more independant, and well, Im getting over him. My girfriend thinks thats WHY hes so angry right now. he knows I dont need him, and Im doing all these things to move past him. Hes lost his control over me.

Okay..hold on..I have to go do a little happy dance in MY living room!!!

Hugs.....Snow

May 23, 2006
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You have definitely regained your control. You have the "HAND!" ...did you see that Seinfeld episode? Wow, you just did this miraculous 360, in all of about 3 weeks. I can't believe it. This distance is really going to make the difference, I can tell. This is your territory, your life, your stuff - untainted by Mr. Turd. Doesn't independence feel great! I know how you feel - when I moved away from the ex I felt like a new person - like my straight-jacket had been taken off!

May 23, 2006
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Shaney...I KNOW!!!! I cant believe it either. 3 weeks ago i was near suicidal, broken-hearted, devestated about Las Vegas (Im supposed to be there THIS WEEK by the way, and already be married), and just wanted to curl up in a ball and die.

And then he had the nerve to get mad at ME for yelling at him about how i felt about the little trip to Jamaica with the ex-wife. I snapped, and totally did a turn around. THANK GOD!!!!

For the first time in 20 years I feel like ME again, and ya know what, Im pretty cool....lol. Im just so happy, and so stress free these days. I have a new pet name for him..Hes the "sawed off basta*d". hes sort of short, and well, it fits...lol.

Okay..time to go turn the Tv onto the channel I want to watch, and lounge on my new comfy couch in MY LIVING ROOM!!! Life is soooooo good!!

Hugs...Snow

May 23, 2006
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Whooohoooo! :o)

May 23, 2006
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((((((Snow))))))

It is so wonderful to see you so happy with your new home and your new life!!!

Love,

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May 24, 2006
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Hi Strong,

Thank you soo much!! I thought about him BRIEFLY last night, and even thought for a minute I missed him. But..i got my journal out and read months of my entries,and well, i didnt miss him so much anymore.

No contact is definitely working for me right now, so is my new surroundings, and my new outlook on life. As long as I dont backslide i think Im going to be okay!!

How are YOU doing??

Hugs...Snow

May 24, 2006
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Snow,

I'm so glad to hear that everything is going well for you!

This is day eleven for me! I can't believe it! And yes, I've had lots of "moments" that I've missed him so, so much. But you know what, they're "moments", not days, or weeks, or hours. We can hold our breath longer than a moment!

Stay strong! We're on the right path!

Besides, we wouldn't want to get in trouble with Jen & Joe, right?

May 24, 2006
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Hey, (((snow)))!

I'm just back from a week away... glad to hear you're doing so well! You so much deserve it!!

Sounds like you are really luxuriating in your own little "queendom" -- very lovely to feel your happiness radiating out through cyberspace :-)))

Carry on, Snow... full speed ahead! love & happy hugs, kroika

May 24, 2006
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I'm freaking out. A co-worker just approached me and asked me if I knew what was wrong with my EXB. I said I had no idea, and asked why...She said she just called his voice mail and it said that he is out of our office INDEFINITELY. I have no idea what is going on, I don't know if he's okay, I don't know if I should call him. I can't breathe and my head is spinning. I'm really scared! What should I do?????

May 24, 2006
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Yikes...thats a tough call. Before you call HIM, try asking around the office, see whats going on. That would be tough for me too, i dont know if I could resist the urge to call.

Snow

May 24, 2006
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"Yikes!" is right. I found out that he won't be back until at least the middle to end of June. He's off for "personal" reasons. I almost started crying. I know that a lot of it is my fault. I don't know if I can forgive myself for this one. I never meant to hurt him. We really, really tried to work things out for a long time. I feel so helpless right now.

May 24, 2006
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snow
Just wanted to tellyou that I admire your decisions and strength. Keep it up, you have done what is good for YOU. God bless

May 25, 2006
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Irish...

Deep breaths! Remember that you are not responsible for the choices others make. NOT AT ALL. I hear in your words that you are taking responsibility for the choice ex-BF made to stay out of work. That is very immature and foolish on his part. And quite "dramatic." It could even be manipulative.

So, I would urge you to stay calm, let him work through his OWN emotional overreaction and try the best you can to maintain "No Contact." I agree with Snow...I would probably try to sniff around the office and find out more details, before attempting to call him, directly. Be patient. Don't overreact and remember: he is free to choose his own actions right now. He is not your problem to fix, guide, direct, suggest, support, etc. He is on his own. And he is an adult.

Be strong as you can.

- Strong

May 25, 2006
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Thanks you guys! I'm really trying to stay calm, and it helps when people remind me that this was not my decision.

It still sucks! (sorry) I do feel guilty which I'm sure he's banking on, but it doesn't help that there are people here at work who are more than happy to help me think that this is my fault.

I know we are all really busy with our own stuff, but please don't desert me right now. I'm feeling awfully alone in the midst of a lot of people.

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