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smoking and lying about it
August 29, 2002
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I need advice. from anyone. i met my husband 4 years ago while smoking 1-2 packs per day. he was ALWAYS very specific that he hated smoking. That's when it started. I tell my husband everything except that i smoke. well my luck ran out and he confronted me. i really do want to quit. for him and for our marriage. it's my crutch, when all else fails there is a cigarette and somehow it makes me feel better....for a while. i can't bear the heartache i've caused him by lying. i'm afraid i am going to lose him. sounds stupid huh? obvious answer? quit smoking. i'm 26 i've been smoking since i was 12. not that easy. he has no idea what an addicition is. i am physically and more so mentally hooked. i just don't know what to do or say anymore.

August 30, 2002
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you are 26 and I am 46..you don't know what stupid is...stupid is as stupid does..that is me..this could be you in another 20 years..read /Blondie's thread: Blondie quit smoking< she was diehard to, you can too...i know they are your buddies..get new ones. I will die with cancer of the lungs..there is no hope for me. There is for you.

August 30, 2002
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fs, you *can* quit if you want to *for you*. Quitting for your husband is admirable, but not ultimately the reason that will keep you going when you'd give your right arm for a puff. Cool website...

http://www.thetruth.com/html/i.....x.cfm?id=1

I didn't smoke for as long as you did, but I'm your age, quit a bit over a year ago, and it sucked. Check out Blondie's smoking thread for some more details, humor and support from folks either going through it, who have gone through it, or might go through it.

Good luck, Lady.

August 31, 2002
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I think it's all there... Open it up and then click "View all posts for this thread" at the top.

August 31, 2002
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you won't have success for your efforts if you do it for some one else, it has to be for you. In fact so many behaviors once some one calls us on it, we act out like kids in rebellion and do it more. Just cuz we can. Most addictions are choice, some do have some physical discomforts when we stop doing the same old thing, because we are creatures of habit, to be human is to be subject to addiction. If it is parking in the same parking place, sitting in the same seat, or eating the same food. Smoking is harder because it is such a frequent reinforced behavior, twenty cigs to a pack, and how many puffs to a cig ? Over and over again. Best damn procastinator I have found ! It is usually a co - habit as well which makes it slightly more difficult, like picking up the phone and lighting one, or in the car and lighting one, or first thing in the morning with coffee, or the after eating thing. If you do choose for you to not buy another pack of cigs, there you go, want one then you have to bum one, that makes it more of a challenge, but substitution is the best way to break any habit. Every time you feel like the cig, do some yoga breathing and pull in your stomach, so you substitute a semi sit up for a cig , get a flat stomach and air. You can do it any time any where. We can test Blondie on this one, but three weeks, and I swear you should be past the point of really wanting one. Some people really don't want to so they hang on to it, so much better to quit before you are in the relm of you have to , for the sake of your health, that is just like some one on your back about it all the time. Just like food, you never really really crave stuff till some one says you can't eat it any more, then we get like kids, and try to sneak it, pass the Krispy Kreams

September 1, 2002
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Feeling Stupid,

I feel your pain, I am a smoker myself and I am in the process of finding a way to quit. I had quit at one point for 1 1/2 years, and I went back. I can tell you it won't be easy, you may need to contact your doctor. They have treatment plans that can help. Also, get you some nicorette gum, the nicotene is what has you addicted and nicorette will wean you off. Then get some fire hot cinamon candy, that too should help you. That will give you the nicotene plus the sensation that has us smokers hooked.

My mother found out I was smoking and had a fit. Even though I am an adult, I respect her and she was not too happy. She just recently informed me that when my Aunt Angie passed away it was due to lung cancer. I knew she was sick, but I had no idea that Aunt Angie had lung cancer. One year later, Aunt Angie's sister Aunt Gloria died from lung cancer as well. She was diagnosed with pneumonia and being treated for that. She was released from the hospital and a week after he was discharged, she had so much phlegm (mucous)in her chest and it rolled down into her lungs and choked her, she was dead at age 54. Another of Aunt Angie's sister's we called Aunt Babes, she died from heart disease caused by her being a heavy smoker, she was 46.

I'm saying all this to say, that those things will kill you, you must try to quit. I know it's hard, believe me, I am totally aware of your struggle, because I struggle as well, but we gotta be strong. I am setting Wednesday as my quit date. You might want to try setting a quit date, and going out prior to that and getting all of the things you need. YOU CAN DO IT! YOU MUST BE STRONG!

And what I am telling you I need to be telling myself too! I am not going to let this kill me and neither are you. You are not so weak that you can't even try are you? Sounds tough, I know, but I will talk tough to you because I do care. Your health, your livelihood, your LIFE!!!! is at stake and so is mine at this point, we will beat this together. I'll be checking back frequently on you, I want you to really try.

September 7, 2002
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I just saw an X-ray of my lungs after 25 years of smoking. Unfortunately, this is what it has taken for me to quit. I might suffer complications down the road, but I am now clean by 3 days. Cigarettes need to be banded from the market! They are killers!

September 7, 2002
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Stay with it, too much. Quitting is hard, I've heard it's harder to quit smoking than it is to kick cocaine or heroin. Evil addictive stuff in those cigs, *not* just nicoteine. Keep it up!

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