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January 12, 2006
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As some of you may know, I'm going through a messy divorce. My wife (soon to be my ex) has borderline personality disorder. I made the decision to end the abuse I experienced by ending our relationship. I've cut off all ties with her. I don't answer her emails, phone calls, or visits to my apartment. Our only communications are now through our lawyers. Anyway, we had our first round in court today and it went very much in my favor. My STBX has been trying to intimidate me for weeks by claiming all the things the judge would do to me. In fact, just the opposite happened. I feel my position has been validated. Just wanted you folks to know that sometimes the "good guys" do win. I'll sleep easier tonight.

Peace.....Lt4Others

January 12, 2006
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Congratulations :o) lt4others. Justice does prevail sometimes!

It's a good lesson to everyone that intimidation by others, is usually just that, intimidation. In your case, her efforts didn't hold water, but probably caused a lot of undue stress to you.

I'm happy that your load is a little lighter today.

January 12, 2006
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Hooray, WWoooohhhhhhhhhhooooooooooo. I am thrilled for you Lt4!!! You really deserve all good.

Actually Lt4, I believe just the opposite. Good people may suffer in this life, but evetually They WIN!!!

~Ras~

January 12, 2006
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Shaney & Ras,

Thanks for your support. Shaney brings up a good point. Due to my stuggle with codependency, I let intimidation stress me unnecessarily. I try to offer my problems up to a Higher Power, but I'm not always successful in letting go. That's something I need to work on. Ras, I believe you're right too. All in all, good people eventually prevail.

Hoping he's "good"......Lt4Others

January 12, 2006
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Well, victory has its price and I celebrated a bit too quickly. My STBX is furious with the outcome in court. She showed up at my apartment this evening, ringing my doorbell and knocking on the door for 15 min. She then called my cellular and house phones repeatedly. I answered neither the door nor my phones. In the voicemail message she left on my cell phone, she promised to stalk me night and day until I talked with her. I'm taking that threat seriously, as it could effect my two children. They could have been here this evening when she vented her rage (fyi -- she is their step-mother). If her harassment continues, I'll obtain a protective order prohibiting her from coming anywhere near me, my children, or contacting me by phone. I'm forwarding copies of all her emails to my lawyer, as well as my employer's security department. If she attempts to accost me, I will not hesitate to call the police. I'm actually optimistic that this will work out in my favor, as she's demonstrating irrational behavior. The massive doses of depression, anxiety, tranquilizers, and related meds she takes make me question her mental and emotional stability. Please keep me in your prayers.

Lt4Others

January 12, 2006
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Dear Lt4Others:

I am so very sorry that you are being harassed.

I am very glad that you are being very proactive in protecting yourself and your children. Your ex sounds frightening. Please do not let down your guard.

Thinking of you.

M & S

January 13, 2006
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Prayers Lt4Others.

~LL

January 13, 2006
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M&S, LL

Thanks for your prayers. I did not rest as peacefully as I had originally hoped. Thoughts of my STBX kept drifting through my mind. Finally, I decided to get up get ready for work at 0430. I have a busy day at work and I will not let her control me any longer. I need to get on with my life. I will not live in fear.

While I was praying last night, it came to me. What am I afraid of? I kept asking myself that, over and over. In the end, I decided that the only thing I had to be concerned about was my own weakness and lack of resolve. The Higher Power would take care of the rest.

I hope all of you have a peaceful, enjoyable day. I'll do the best I can.

Peace be with you.....Lt4Others

January 13, 2006
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Lt4 - I can Very much identify with you. Each time I go thru a trial, I start trembling and shivering. It is really scary for both men and women.
Everywhere I go there is spiritual test waiting for me. Tests are really Scary!!!

I will keep you in my daily prayers. Please keep us informed & posted!

(((Hugs & Prayers)))

January 13, 2006
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Thanks Ras. You're very right. Recovery can be scary and a bit lonely sometimes. There are days when I feel I must be the only person going through something so crazy. Hearing other people's stories makes it easier. However, it also makes me a little sad knowing how widespread the pain and suffering really is.

January 13, 2006
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Although it's not quite over yet, today has been a quiet, peaceful day. My STBX was not waiting for me on the steps of my apartment when I left for work at 6 AM. Neither was she waiting for me when I returned home at 6 PM this evening. She had threatened to do both. Her threats have yet to appear as actions. I'll be perfectly happy if that remains the case.

Peace be with you all....Lt4Others

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