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SMALL TOWN
November 12, 2005
10:51 pm
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katarina
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does anyone live in a small town? well I do and everyone here talks that your having a affair if they see you with another man. I play golf with a friend, yes friend! I have been married for about two years. I just found out from my sister that someone came up to my mother and asked her if i was having a affair. give me a break I play golf. I'm not coming out of a hotel. i'm so upset right now. I feel like I should just quit going to play golf here and drive a hour to go to another course. I'm so upset. It is so stupid. by the way I'm not a cheater.

November 12, 2005
10:57 pm
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People that spend a lot of time speculating on other peoples lives tend to be very unhappy in their own. You should pitty people who need real life soap operas to make their lives more bareable!

I'm in a small university town and learned long ago for my own sanity the words "I don't have to explain myself to you", "mind your own", and the simple stony glare and complete refusal to explain myself to people who have no business demanding, asking for, or suggesting that they deserve any explanation regarding MY life!!! }:( Things like that make me so angry, I feel for you. Next time your mom should say "god I hope so for your sake! Wouldn't you be mortified if you where just going around jumping to conclusions and gossiping like vampid teenagers?!"

November 12, 2005
10:59 pm
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stand your ground. if u aren't doing anything wrong, then ignore the gossip. i sit with one of my husband's friends at highschool sports when husband can't make it. have been talked about too. pay attention to who is talking. this tells u what they would be doing in the same situation. i play golf with the guys to, mainly cause i don't know any women that play. (who cares)
and i fish. my husband is very competitive and won't let me fish with him so i fish with a nother crew. i go out of town alot to see a very good friend. my neighbors talk about me , saying i must be having an affair. it just tells me they are trash.

November 12, 2005
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Katarina,

Sorry honey for all the gossips you are tolerating. I know it is not easy when you live in small town. People in these places are very conservative and they not only do not mind their own business, but it is actually very noticeable to them to see observe things and take pleasure at talking and backbiting about others.

As for this guy and you playing golf with him, I honeslty would be wary of any opposite sex friends even if it is innocent. Remember that things start out like that, you both share hobby or interest to something, then gradually before you realize it, you begin to fantisize about that guy.

I know 2 co-workers with me who are both go-getters, very money hungry and ambitious man and woman. They take their breaks together, their office is next to each other, they lunch together, laugh together, almost all the time they are together and they are both are married.

So, caution is needed here. Things can develop and as they say "Satan is clever."

I hope I do not sound harsh or critical. I really care about you. I know I am single girl and if I see someone on regular basis, i start to develop crush, passion, love to them. I honestly believe that no one is immune including spiritual people.

~Blessings, Ras~

November 12, 2005
11:38 pm
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Katrina:

I'm sorry, but I have to laugh. I live in the exact same type town you live in. We have just at 1,000 folks here, and the rumor mill is wild. Usually you say did you hear that at the restaurant or the pharmacy. These are the two places in town w/ tables, chairs, coffee, and cookies or some kind baked good.

It is upsetting I know. Why not get a sense of humor. If someone comes up to your mom and asks if you are hving an affair.... call that person on the phone and say "Ah, did you hear the latest? I am having an affair w/ "jim" - NOT". If your mom hears something then blow it off as coming from stupid folks. Or say "Oh, (roll the eyes here) this is CITY, what would you expect, and next week I'm gonna have Satan's baby."

Folks do get the message. They don't like it and it will most likely not make the gossip stop, but they will know you are up on things.

Would you believe I worked for a large company and in the am the girls (not ladies) would sit around a table and if they could not find someone to gossip about they would make something up to spread around the plant.

Chin up honey. You'll be yesterday's news as soon as they see someone else comes along.

November 13, 2005
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Ignore 'em. It can be very powerful. Don't dignify it with a response (however, I loved all of the responses given on this thread!).

LL

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