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SLEPT WITH MY THERAPIST
September 15, 2001
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I wish i had foubd this place a long time ago. i met a therapist 14 yrs ago and we slept together the secound time. She had all the right answers and this was supposed to be good for me. Well after a few sessions she said she loved me and we needed to stop therapy. so she moved in with me and my 1 yr old daughter. ours since has been to say the least a very hard on again off again relationship. when i finally move on she will always use the fact that she will and has always loved me and she risked her carrer for me.i always feel like she means it. i had even left this part of the country for a few years then we were in touch yet again. she still loved me.she said i should move back here and take the money i had and buy a place. i had no credit. no problem she would put it in her name. she loved me. she had always loved me. she had her own place and i was homesick so yes i did that. i voiced my concerns about what if? she assured me she would never take my home. 9 mos later she gave me a story, (that i now know to be false)and in she moved. life soon became hell i either liked what she was doing,emotional,mental as well as physical abuse i could leave after all she owned my home. When i said i would expose her she said go ahead no one will believe you, "I am a Therapist" and "I am A Christian." Who will they believe? She had a point. I stayed in that for over a year. Finally after she hit my daughter giving her a bloody nose(yes she was reported and she was right no one would believe us)i finally went into hiding left my home and all we owned. Life was quiet until this past Jan. She yet again came back full of remorse and ammends.That lasted till 3 weeks ago and the abuse started again. Of course there is much more to my story but my point is if anyone thinks that they're having feelings for the therapist run run run. I have allowed this woman to controll and manipulate me and my daughter for 14 years.She has also threatened that if I ever say anything she will chew me up and spit me out after all she is a therapist.

September 15, 2001
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OOPS DOES ANYONE KNOW OF ANY SUPPORT GROUPS OUT THERE. FOR OBVIOUS REASONS I WILL NOT CAN NOT GO TO THERAPYI REALLY AM AT THE END OF MY ROPE. I HAVE BEEN CRYING FOR 3 WEEKS. I FLUCUATE BETWEEN PROFOUND ANGER AND SADDNESS. I HAVE TO SAY I AM REALLY AFRAID OF LOOSING MY MIND. OR MY LIFE

September 16, 2001
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betray I am really sorry you are feeling so bad. I am also sad this has happened to you. But I don't think this makes all therapist bad or I guess what I am trying to say is I don't think all therapist take advantage of there clients. To me it sounds like you just came across a real bitch. If she was a doctor,lawer,preacher,etc.... she would have done this to anyone. I am so sorry it had to be you. I for one did develope feeling for my therapist, however she has only been perfesional about it. I don't know of any support groups but I have recieved alot of good stuff in here.

September 16, 2001
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THANKS FOR YOUR THOUGHTS. I HAVE IN THE PAST TRIED OTHER THERAPIST BUT AS WE ARE IN A SMALL AREA AND THIS WOMAN IS FAR REACHING. SHE WILL CALL ANY ONE TO DISCREDIT ME IF SHE FINDS OUT I AM GOING TO TALK ABOUT ANY OF THIS.

September 16, 2001
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Well there ya go you can talk to us even though many of us aren't therapist. Many people in here are I think. I kind feel like I wouldn't mind meeting this so called therapist. I need to take some of my anger out and she seems to be a good one to do it on. If you get my drift.

September 16, 2001
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Ok, so you made some choices that have
not worked. Now is the time to quit victim like thinking and take controll of your life. This is an abusive relationship, period. Sure she was your therapist, sure there are all sorts of ethical issues regarding that, sure sounds like a very sick person. Disconnected from all of that drama, its domestic abuse.
Seek support in those relms, shelters , legal, credit, yada yada yada. its up to you to be strong, make the choices you need to get free, release the dependency, and move on for the sake of your self, and most important your child.
make your plans, protect your self from further emotional pain, and sever the attachment. it may take some time, but if you want to reclaim your life, you can. I am so sorry this has happened , things will get better for you I am sure.

September 16, 2001
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yes thanks for the pep talk. i am sure things will get better. i keep telling myself that at least. i have sent my kiddo away to boarding school. seven hrs from home. will only now see her 4 days a month but at least she is safe and thriving in that enviroment.now that she is out of the crossfire so again thank you

September 16, 2001
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betrayedbyu,
I'm so sorry this happened and am absolutely appalled!! I'm a therapist myself and can't imagine engaging in such a behavior. I know we're all only human, some amount of attraction might be normal, I suppose, but this one really crossed the line. Not all therapists are like this, but after this experience, I can certainly see why you don't want to go into therapy. If she was abusing your child, you can report her to the Dept. of Professional Regulation (depending on what type of license she has). I'm also guessing that too much time may have gone by.

September 17, 2001
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suzyq,
She is a MSW and i have not had much support in the therapy circle to do much. I have been advised to forget.I wish I could. Her agency even knew about all this when it started and they did nothing. Now she is too well established in the therapy world as well as the seventh day adventist community. things may get easier for me though at least for now. i just learned she met a woman off the internet and now3 weeks later this woman has left her husband to move to NH and live with her. of course this woman does come with a fat checkbook. but that is about right. i have already seen some financial changes in my ex"s lifestyle. I feel like I need to save this person or at least warn her but my ex already said that she would destroy me if I did. Not sure what there is left to destroy. I really do feel helpless and I sure don't like it. I don't feel like I am playing or thinking like a victim.I have through out all this tried many many different things. I will eventually find one that works. But I am at a loss. But only for now.

September 17, 2001
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One day at a time!!!!!

September 17, 2001
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Just like all else in the world today, are you going to let evil prevail? She is still controlling you. It may be slow, but take a stand, one foot in front of the other.

September 17, 2001
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evil has already prevailed. yes she is still controlling me.i think if she wasn't i may not have found this board. nor would i be this hurt or this angry. if i knew how to stop it i am sure i would have a long time ago. as i am at a loss i can only hope for some advice as to how to stop the pain. platitudes are fine and well but not very helpful in a practical sense. thanks though

September 20, 2001
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Time for you to let go and go on with your life. Letting go will slowly bring the healing you need. As long as you hold to the hurt, you are holding on to the pain.

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