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skigirl
July 8, 2007
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I am in a relationship with a guy. We have been dating for almost a year. He has serious trust issues. He almost seems paranoid about other people. One example, we went to his daughter's baseball game. We were getting along fine until a guy and his daughter sat down near us. After that, he got an attitude and was mad at me because I didn't pay any attention to him and he said my body language turned toward the guy. I never even looked at the guy, talked to the guy, hell, I couldn't even describe him to anyone. It is behavior like this that is freaking me out. He gets irritated when I look around because he thinks I am checking people out. He even thought I was checking out his brother because he said I "kept looking in his direction all night". Not sure what that means, but he was mad at me. Just don't know if I should beware of this behavior, or take it with a grain of salt. He gets mad, I tell him that he is crazy for thinking that, and things get better. Is this an ego game maybe? Not sure what to think. Any advise would help. Thanks.

July 9, 2007
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risingfromtheashes
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has he been burned before?

my BF was, and he has some insecurities, BUT, he doesn't act paranoid like this extreme.

This behaviour is unhealthy.

And I think it's important to understand that no matter what you do, he is going to get upset.

So, you can continue to do what you do....be yourself....and in the end, this may go away or it may just become so frustrating for you that you need to walk away.

I would recommend communicating with him and trying to understand where he is coming from and what makes him feel so paranoid. But in the end, his paranoia should not stop you from being you...you shouldn't have to change your behaviour (unless you ARE flirting)...and you shouldn't have to coddle him. Although you can be sensitive to him...but because his feelings are so extreme, I find it hard to think you can do anything to change him or make him feel more secure.

July 9, 2007
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You asked for advice, I say to dump him. These are tell-tale signs of someone who is very controlling and always puts you constantly on the defense. This behavior could in fact very easily escalate to physical abuse.

Trust your gut!!!!!

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