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Site Bullying and Secret Agendas?....Ma Strong
February 21, 2011
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risingfromtheashes said:

It would seem to me that CO's have better things to do than worry about what's going on in a person's private life.

 

That being said….If it is true, and if they have your laptop and you are truly innocent….nothing will happen and you can return to life as normal….knowing that in the future….you should be wary of posting on ANY forum…period....or website...or email...or anything....I mean gosh...we could tell a joke to someone and it's innocent but if they complain to our CO's we can get investigated? 

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That’s the thing. Those of us in the military really don’t have a “private” life. Our Commanding Officers and our other leaders know everything about us. There is very little they don’t know. If we are married/divorced/how many kids we have, if we have them. We give up a lot of freedom and privacy so that many others can have the freedoms that they do. They know every detail about us, every debt. Speaking of debts, this is a question that was brought up to me during the investigation. Ma made a comment on the Growth and Change thread with regard to my financial situation (as well as mental/emotional, etc.) The question that came up is “Why is that her concern?” I do not have an answer for that one, since I do not even know her personally. I did post on the Growth and Change thread that I have only one debt, and that is my student loan debt, which the military is well aware of, since they will be paying about half of it.

 

And then there is a post somewhere on this thread where auto says that Ma sent her a pm, saying she needs my real identity. For what? It’s not like I owe her money, since I don’t owe anyone a dime (other than the student loan I mentioned). Not to mention I don’t even know who would I send the money to since I don’t know anyone’s names (except for my best-best friend, and I would just give her the money anyway)? Does Ma need to know my real identity so she can write me a check? What? The only one I know of who signs my paycheck is Uncle Sam, so my financial situation is really no one else’s business here as far as I am concerned. And Ma also mentions that the man she dates is a retired Master Sgt. It sounds to me like she is trying to enlist help of others with certain “connections”, or what am I supposed to think? That seems to be an area of focus.

 

This is what I don't understand, Ma makes a post where she makes efforts to withhold information, which I thanked her for and told her I appreciated. I am not sure if she saw that post in all the others. But then I read something where she is wanting my real identity? I just don't understand any of it.

February 21, 2011
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risingfromtheashes said:

Either way...if you have that significant of a position in the armed forces that they have to track your online activity...maybe you should be more careful.


 

They do not "have to" track my on-line activity--unless there is any reason to. I did not post any of my own information. It’s not like I posted my name, social security number and email address. I did not do anything like that. If you look on the Growth and Change thread, and then again here, comments are posted with regard to me which I never released. I was not even posting on here with a response to anything relating to all of those comments before any of that information was put on here. Even on the Growth and Change thread, comments were posted before I ever even made the comment about "shooting myself"---which to me was sort of a joke, I was not serious about that. Everything was fine--I thought-- until the military police and the civilian police were notified. I did not call the police on myself, but it sure looks to me now by what was posted that there were plans to get the police involved with me even before I ever said anything. Ma says she needs my real identity or she would "do it". Do what? The military is always very concerned with the possibility of domestic or international terrorist threats. Like why would someone post here that they need my real identity? For what? That is the focus. They are especially concerned with someone planning to cause me harm. I admitted to what I did, as far as the comment about “maybe shooting myself in the head”, which I already answered for and explained. There are no concerns with me there. That part is closed.

February 21, 2011
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auto999 said:

 

 I became concerned about your safety when you made what I felt were credible allegations about being stalked, harassed, etc. on line by XXXXXXXXXXXXX.  Then, I became worried about your safety when I read a post that you wrote about shooting yourself. I thought that might be a reaction to what you said that stronginHIm77 was doing to you in the letter that was forwarded to me. I hope you understand how all of this has affected me.


 

I appreciate your concern, and I understand. I did not mean for you or anyone to be affected. This was why I posted again on the Growth and Change thread with an apology and explanation for writing what I did. When you said never to contact you again, I was simply respecting your wishes. I did not know what I did to have you make that decision about me, but I knew if I tried to contact you to ask, that would be disrespecting your wishes, and I did not want to do that. I would not want to upset you or anger you even more.  I don't do things out of spite, it's not my way. There was not even an argument, I didn't think. I was never angry with you or with anyone in any way. I was never even angry with Ma. I just realized that she and I would never be able to see eye to eye or make any kind of compromise. After she came back again, I don't think I even posted anything to her. Maybe you and I had a disagreement I was not even aware of. There was no way for me to know, because suddenly you said to not ever contact you. All I remember was asking a question, because I was a bit confused. I was asking for clarification, I did not understand something that was said.

Things could have been handled in a better way, maybe. Now the police were called on me, I have been involved in this investigation, and my life is being turned upside down. I have no idea what is going to happen now. They have given me an option of a possible involuntary transfer out-of-state, for my own safety. This will cause me to not be able to graduate from school in a couple of months or so. I would be taken away from my best-best friend and her kids. We don't know how much time she has left. The main reason I transferred was to be close by when my Mom was dying, and also to be near my best-best friend and her kids. She is a single Mom and she is living on borrowed time.  I have also been looking after my Dad, checking on him and helping him out ever since my Mom passed away. Not to mention the rest of my family is nearby. I have way too many people in my life that need me to be here.

If I get transferred again, I won't have a choice where I go, and I will have no one. I will be totally alone in a strange place, have to start all over again. I have already spent too many holidays away from my family and friends. I don't want to think about that right now or it will make me too sad. I didn't do anything wrong, but because someone here decided that they did not like me, I have to uproot my whole life.

February 22, 2011
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you are never alone china doll, i hope you dont get transffered but if you do i am sure many people apologize for throwing around hateful accusations, me included for uprooting your life. this site shouldhelp people, the moment it inconveniances us in any way it means we have all failed eachother

 

(((((chinadoll))))))

 

((((((((((((((group hug c'mon people show some freakin love)))))))))))))))))

February 22, 2011
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Thanks for the hugs, Z!!

(((zara)))

 

You are a good guy, I don't care what anyone else says!! WinkSmile

February 22, 2011
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lol wait a minute are MORE people spreading rumors about me?! what the hell man! lol smile chinadoll, the world is a better place when you smile 🙂

March 10, 2011
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Yes, Z!  I DO enjoy Starbucks- coffee.  I like the sweet drinks but there's so many calories in them.  Pikes Place Roast and their Columbian.  There's just nothing like it!  🙂

 

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March 10, 2011
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i will agree with you on the calorie thing, its like a gaining a pound in a cup lol

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