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Sister Addicted to Internet
May 3, 2000
12:05 pm
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Gellah
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Does any one have any advise on how to deal with someone who is addicted to the internet, has neglected kids, familiy, relationships, has developed online relationships, even left the family and little kids to go visit with one of the "relationships".

She is in complete denial. She is giving excuses which are not valid and she completely denies she has a problem. She has stopped talking to me, her husband, her kids etc. She is constantly lying as well. My brother in law tried to make compromise, but it's not working and him and the kids finally moved out couple of days ago. She STILL does not accept the fact that she has a problem and we don't know what to do about it.

The people she is chatting on the net with are perverts and write nasty emails to her. She is not this way and now she is totally different then she used to be. We are thinking of doing family intervention but not sure of the success rate or results. Anyone else gone through it? Any advise appreciated.

ANy thoughts? Thanks.

- Gellah

May 4, 2000
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An addiction is an addiction. Hopefully one day she will turn from the computer and see shat she has lost.

This is to be treated like any other addiction. No one can help her but herself. If it isn't her computer who ever owns it should take it back.

Sounds like a symptom of a deeper problem.

She needs rehab but like any alcoholic...it is up to her to want to change.

Bravo to her husband for leaving. Best for the kids that's for sure.

Keep us posted.

May 4, 2000
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Although an addict will not be able to be helped unless she wants help, there are some things you can do to help her see that she has a problem.

If you are very concerned, gather her old friends and family together who know about her problem and are concerned for her well-being. This includes her children, if they are old enough to understand and if they themselves are concerned. You should include them in your conversation with her because otherwise they will not only feel neglected, they will feel helpless as well. Then, bring her into the room and have each person stand up and tell her how they feel about the situation and why they are concerned. Sometimes it's also good to get a mental health specialist in the room too, so they can control and monitor the situation and offer suggestions on opening a line of communication that is without judgement or anger.

Janes is correct, though. Addiction is a symptom of a deeper problem, not a problem itself. If the deper problem is addressed, the addictino will fade away on its own. I remember when I was addicted to alcohol. I came home one night, drunk, and my father actually pulled me aside and as he talked to me, he began to weep. I was moved. I stopped drinking. But I later became addicted to drugs because my deeper problem was never addressed. Only after I sought counceling was I able to halt my downward spiral. So...stage an intervention. talk to her. Then, ask her to seek help. That's all you can do.

May 4, 2000
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