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Sibling tearing family apart
August 1, 2001
10:50 pm
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foss65
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hi, my name is greg and i have a sister who is 18 years old and tearing our family apart. my mother doesnt know what to do. she has tried punishing her but that hasnt worked. my mom is constantly depressed and cries all the time about ti and i really dont know what to do. i often speak to my sister but she wont listen claiming that i only care about making myself look good to my parents. but really when i tell her to make responsible decisions its cause i care about ehr and the way she turns out. she says im like a 3rd parent. we've thought about having her move out in hopes that she will soon learn how important family is. she mainly cares about looking cool to her friends. but family is forever and friends are for short time. please respond to me.

August 2, 2001
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Family dynamics often create a situation where one sibling is a parent figure for another, it just happens, so she may feel like that, and acknowledges it, but it takes two.
This is really your parents battle, you didn't mention what your sis is up to , but she is an adult now and its up to your mom and dad, to say our house our rules, obey them or go into the real world and play grown up. I don't know if there are rules regarding the age of the child for the parent support group tough love, but your mom might give them a call. Your mother could also be enabeling this drama, by not wanting her to leave, it is hard, and confusing as to the way to handle an adult child.
So, its up to the parents to take a stand. In my opinion, there is little that you can do, when some one is hell bent on destruction. Tell her you love her and want the best for her, and will help her but you can't co-sign that which you can not support, including the pain caused to mom.

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