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shy_rose could use some advice on courage.
July 5, 2009
7:28 am
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I basically live in fear most of the time, of being with others and their "expectations" and not being able to tell if they like me or not or have good intentions or bad, as well as being alone at home or anywhere.(Even though i would be fearful of visitors :)) I was wondering if anyone else had been in similar circumstances and how they went about resolving the situation. To combat the isolation this produces I over rely on my Mum a lot which I know is wrong.

July 5, 2009
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Rosie Posie, I don't know what to tell you. I spent a lot of time trying to be who I thouught people would like. It takes a lot of time and energy. Be you, no matter who you are.

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July 5, 2009
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Thanks for replying 🙂 I do that a lot. I think I have to try to remember who I was before and what I liked.I was in a relationship where i wasn't really allowed to do anything without being interrupted and questioned about it (like I was doing something wrong?). It's hard to hold on to those things around other people when they seem to respond more positively if you like something they like. Especially if you are lonely and want friends but are scared of them at the same time. I'm probably trying too hard.

July 5, 2009
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learning to love and accept yourself as you are is one of the toughest things around. Especially if you have been in past relationships where the real you hasn't been embraced. There are no easy answers..its a day by day thing. But at the end of the day..all you can be is YOU. So if you are feeling like you don't like that person..it will take a little time...but you are worth it. You are unique and have something to offer this world and will eventually find friends that will appreciate that once you do. And until that day comes..just fake it till you make it baby! Meaning..put out that positive energy..and someday..you might wake up and actually realize..its true! You do rock! Best of luck to you.

July 5, 2009
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If you find an interest,then go OUT and do it.Anything.Whatever it is you enjoy or you might enjoy.LIke learning something new at a college or joining a class or a club.This is what I done years ago and still do now.Then you do not feel you have to try and make an impression on anyone,because you are there because you are interested in being there.Then if you meet new people it is a bonus and if you don't,you've enjoyed yourself anyway.Also a conversation becomes more natural as you will meet like minded people.Give it a try.No it isn't easy because you have had your confidence knocked down.And the only reason anyone wants to do that to a person is to make themselves feel better about themselves,because it is THAT PERSON who is lacking in confidence.So that proves you are a strong,confident,lovely person,because people only do it to a person they can see is stronger than themselves.(in other words they are jealous of you and want to be like you)Believe that instead of ANYONE elses put downs.It's took me years to learn this.And I'm now glad the same thing has happened to me.So I can understand and hopefully help..Lots of strength being sent your way.Serendy

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