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Should I stop thinking him
July 30, 2001
6:16 am
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It is the first time for me to write. I can't handle myself.
I am Korean and I am in Korea. I met one African English guy a year ago and we fell in love although with many problems. From the first, he deceived me in many things but as I had nothing to be interested, I became falling to him. As he is foreigner here, I took care of him.
Unfortunatly, we had some accidents(?) and by that time, I handled all the proceeds.
Even though, and plus, because I put so many efforts to him, I was shorcked when I knew he kept cheating me.

The other times, he push me to keep on the relationship, but this time we just broke up.
But I just can't let it go.
Is it because I lost the relationship or him?
Actually he was the only one for me before and I think even now. I can't meet someone easily. I tried but it doesn't wotk.
First few weeks I was angry and felt even dirty, but before one month passed, I started missing him.
And after knowing his new relationship which is going on now, I was deeply hurt. like lost my mind.

I don't know why he loved me just by tongue, and why I am not happy whiles he is happy.
I want to something different but it is not easy. and sound so silly, I want to ask him to go back. He said he want JUST FRIENDS WITH ME. I know what it means and also know it is impossible.

Is it because i miss him or i feel jealous? and i am more and more thinking him.
How can I handle myself?

July 30, 2001
6:56 am
cheer up it might never happen
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in my personal opinion i think you should try and get on with your life, i know it must be really hard just now and you must be missing him like crazy and feel mixed up, confused , rejected but stand up think why am i letting someone make me feel this way, hes missed his chance, his problem not mine, i know its a cliche but have more self belief, life is too short wait and see he'll come running back, remember you call the shots ! you are in control go out buy yourself something you have wanted for a while, have a little of YOU time and take it all in your stride !

good luck and take care

July 30, 2001
8:33 am
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Lasting relationships are based on honesty and the ability to trust someone without first having to wonder if they are lying or cheating on you again.

I view this relationship of your as tainted, and from the very beginning. It sounds like you helped him and he took from you without giving in return.

You must respect yourself and know that it is better to be alone than to lower your standards.

Feel pity and sorrow for the person he is in a relationship with now and be thankful it is not you.

Focus on yourself and learn from the experience. That's why it is important to really get to know someone before getting too emotionally involved.

Good luck to you.

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