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SHOULD I HAVE QUIT?
September 12, 2001
6:19 pm
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kellie
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SO GLAD I FOUND THIS SITE I NEEDED SOMEWHERE TO VENT. AH WHERE DO I START? ITS MY SECOND YEAR IN COLLEGE AND I CAME BACK HERE LOOKING FOR A JOB. I QUICKLY FOUND A JOB AT A LOCAL GROUP HOME. I WORKED WITH MENTALLY DISTURBED CLIENTS WHO WERE ON THE VERGE OF JAIL. I HAD PROBLEMS MYSELF (LIVED THRU PAST ABUSE) AND WANTED TO HELP. THESE CLIENTS ATTACKED ME CONSTANTLY ONE TRIED TO STAB ME AND I WAS FORCED TO HOLD HER IN RESTRAINT SO SHE WOULD CALM DOWN. I HAD TO FREQUENTLY SOLICIT HELP FROM MY COWORKERS TO CONTROL THE CLIENTS. SIMPLY I DIDN'T KNOW WHAT I WAS GETTING INTO. I WAS ALWAS STRESSED OUT AND COULDN'T HALF CONCENTRATE ON SCHOOL. SO ON MY DAY OFF I WENT ON A JOB HUNT AND FOUND A JOB AS ASST. MANAGER AT A LOCAL PIZZA HUT. MY FORMER CO-WORKERS AND SUPERVISOR HAVE HARASSED ME ABOUT IT EVERSINCE. I WENT TO PICK UP MY LAST PAYCHECK AND ONE OF THEM REMARKED THAT WAS "TALKING ABOUT I QUIT BECAUSE MY GRADES WERE FALLING BULLSH*T I JUST COULDN'T HANDLE THE CLIENTS." AT A MEETING THEY WERE HAVING IN THE SAME BUILDING I HEARD MY SUPERVISOR TALK ABOUT "THEY DONT WANNA END UP LIKE ME." I FEEL AS THOUGH MY REASON FOR QUITTING AIN'T NONE A THERE DAMN BUSINESS AND AS LONG AS I'M WORKING AND PAYING MY OWN WAY IT SHOULDN'T MATTER. BUT NOW THEY GOT ME FEELING BAD CALLING ME QUITTER AND LOSER AND ALL SORTS. NOW I'M WONDERING IF i SHOULD HAVE QUIT. IF I'D HAVE STAYED LIFE MIGHT BE A LITTLE EASIER RIGHT NOW. WHAT DO YOU THINK?

September 12, 2001
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yes, yes, yes......
Some of the most disfunctional work environments I have seen are in the helping field, the only offices that out do that is real estate, but their in denial. We all want to help, do our fair share in working with humanity, buttttttttttttt we come first. Do not think twice about what was said. Some people, don't get it, that not every one is able to do the same thing, or prepared for what might happen. You need to be able to get up in the morning and do what you do with out worring about if your going to live through the day. Some people in recovery, and especially those who go into the field, think they can contribute, but some people don't really want to get better. Say good ridance, you did the right thing.

September 12, 2001
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I second what Molly said Kellie. How dare they even think for one minute that they can keep u trapped where you're no happy. As for what they say behind you back ta hell with them what do they know anyway? You are a college student and you're concentrating on your studies. This really isn't a time when your major concern is what they think. You be strong don't let them get you down! Chin up knowing you did what was best for you.

September 13, 2001
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First of all you should only care what's in your heart not anyone else. You live with in you not the people talking about you behind your back. You go girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!

September 13, 2001
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Kellie,

I'd like to remind you that as long as God is there everything is all right. Those people who talked behind your back are ignorant, foolish, and jealous. They can't handle that you are able to find another job if you want it. Don't feel bad, you just keep on pushing.

God Bless,

PG Lova

September 13, 2001
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THANKS EVERYONE FOR YOUR REPLIES. LET ME SAY THAT IT'S STILL NOT VERY EASY TO DEAL WITH. I'M STILL UPSET JUST THINKING ABOUT IT. IT FEELS LIKE I KNEW IT WAS GOING ON AND YET I DIDN'T CONFRONT ANY OF THEM. WHAT THEY DID WAS WHEN I WALKED PAST THEM THEY JUST LOOKED AT ME. I DIDN'T THINK ABOUT IT I KEPT WALKING AND THEY THOUGHT I HAD GONE IN THE OFFICE TO GET MY CHECKBUT I STOOD OUT-OF-SIGHT TO HEAR WHAT THEY SAID. THAT'S WHEN THEY SAID IT. WHY DIDN'T I CONFRONT THEM. MY FRIEND SAID HE WISHES HE WAS THERE BECAUSE HE'D HAVE PUT THEM IN THEIR PLACES AND FOUGHT IF HE HAD TO. THE ONLY THING WITH THAT IS THAT I DON'T WANT ANY1 HANDLING MY BATTLES. THAT MAKES IT SEEMS LIKE I CAN'T HANDLE MYSELF WHEN I CAN. I JUST HAVE AN ASSERTIVENESS PROBLEM. WHY AM I GOING THROUGH SUCH CHAOS? I'M JUST A COLLEGE STUDENT TRYING TO BE NICE TO EVERYONE I MEET. WHY DIDN'T I CONFRONT THESE PEOPLE? IS SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME?????????????????????

September 13, 2001
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Why waste your energy? Small people do strange things, how else can they mask their smallness? I hate to say it, but there are lots of small people in the world, stand tall, and as you did before continue to choose your battles wisely, there is no sense in setting them straight, they wouldn't get it. Don't second guess your self, you made the best of it. You got your check, closed the door, and now its time to move on.

September 16, 2001
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Kellie,
Screw them!! I agree with everyone who posted. You were trying to help. I have been in the "helping" profession for over 12yrs. No job is worth risking your life or sanity for. Try not to care what your former coworkers think. People like to gossip unfortunately.

September 23, 2001
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Kellie, how is everything now? How's school? Please write back and let us know.

September 27, 2001
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Hell yeah you shoulda quit! I'm sorry Kellie life is to short to waste worrying about bozos.

September 27, 2001
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Hi Kellie,

Don't worry about what they say.... they might even be jealous that you are going to school. Look at it this way...

You didn't quite because you didn't like job, you did it because it felt uncomfortable and unsafe. I won't suggest you wonder about the "if's" and "why's" just worry about "you".

QUESTION: What are you studying at school?

Enjoy your life, don't worry about what others say about you.

Cerry

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