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she said she cant fall in love, I know she does
December 16, 2003
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Hi Wireless,

Liba funny how you brought up the relationship where he was making tons of plans and falling in love after seven dates.

When I first began dating my husband. Really dating, as we were friends first we just kind of took things on a daily basis, but we were only able to see each other once a week at the time.

Anyway, long story short - after we were married for a while we were talking about dating. I have no idea why, we just were. But anyway, he told me that he knew on our third date he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. Knowing my husband, that shocked the socks off of me. Indeedy! He is just not one to dive into anything.

Fortunately, he never told me that (well, until then) because if he had I probably would have run. That was how my one really bad relationship with my C/A started out. Yet, both of my relationships that were successful, and resulted in marriage were with men that I had started out as friends with.

Wireless, just take your time. Work on yourself, you cannot make her love you any more than you can make it rain. Remember, there are plenty of other women out there who are so wanting a good man to love.

Zinnie

December 16, 2003
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Liba and Zinnie, Thank You...I believe you!

December 16, 2003
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December 17, 2003
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Zinnie, it is funny... whether your husband tells you after your married or on your third date that he knew he could spend the rest of his life with you, he is still the same guy. I am sure he is a nice guy and you are happy. If he told you on your third date that he knew he you where the one and you left, you would have left the best thing in your life because of fear. That is what I am going through right now. I have backed off and let go and love is not in my forecast with this girl who i care for. I have to do this. I feel she is the one whether I tell her after we are married or before. I just have to let go anyway.

Thanks for the input.

December 17, 2003
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Wireless,I am so proud of you for
looking deep inside of yourself and
having the courage to change the
things that you can. Your feelings
for her are precious to you, and it
is human nature to value what
means the most to you. Think of
the euphoria that you felt for her
as a blessing. I'll pray that you
will have a better oppurtunity
at the true love that you seek.
Remember there is nothing that
you could have done differently
except looking INSIDE for your
true happiness. It has taken
me 55 years to grasp that
principle. By being patient
it will only be a matter of time.

December 17, 2003
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harryo thank you!

December 17, 2003
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Harry O what you say makes me think of my own relationships. I have always backed away when I felt the relationship was getting to close. I never understood why but I think I do now. I was afraid of being hurt and rejected so I did to myself before they could. I always belived my relationships were doomed from the start because I didnt have what it too or what my partner needed. I felt I was not good enough for anyone and that I could not bring any good to the relationship once they knew the real me. I could never take heartbreak or felt that way so I tried never to get close to anyone after awhile and to this day I am still single at age 53.

December 17, 2003
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Harryo, I have let go of alot in the past week. She may be the one, I just have to live my life and remember not to go to her for my happines. For the first time in my life I have let go of the fear of getting close. I feel she may be the one, I wil support her when she needs me. I know she has fears, I care for her enough to listen and give her space. That is all I can do. Wish me luck!

December 17, 2003
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December 18, 2003
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I think I would have backed away at that point because I would have felt like he was coming on too strong too fast.

I felt a deep connection to him very early on in dating. We had been friends for about a year before we became romantically involved - which is why at the time I felt a deep connection early on; or at least that is what I thought.

But, I think had that popped out of his mouth at such an early point in the relationship I would have been concerned. Funny how now I look back and I think that.

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