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October 25, 2006
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I have been reading the book, Who Moved My Cheese. It’s a cute and fun therapy book. One of the questions it asked was - What would you do if you had no fears?

That made me think about what are my true inner fears. I searched deep inside myself, and with tears coming down my face I admitted to myself and out loud that I am scared of being alone. I am scared I will never find a healthy relationship, therefore, I find myself in unhealthy situations where I live through more pain by trying to fix others and control situations that I can not fix or control.

If I had no fears –

I would love myself enough to know I deserve to be treated and loved the way I treat and love others. I would stand on my own two feet and tell myself, I am worth so much, I deserve a healthy relationship. I need to stop letting my fears paralyze me from leaving my comfort zone. If I never leave my comfort zone, how I am going to meet someone, staying in my comfort zone keeps me more alone then ever.... I must accept my life, love myself and move past my unhealthy desire to wait for someone I love to wake up and see me for all I can offer… I need to put on my tennis and walk out into this world and find friends, love and build a life that offers me everything I desire… I can’t let my fears control or weigh me down any longer...

What would you do if you had no fears???

October 25, 2006
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I read that book whenever I can. It is the ultimate self help book that can be applied to any situation including a break up. It is simple and makes such good sense. I love that book. My list would be endless if I had no fears. I would not be in many situations or feel unworthy if I did not have fear.

October 25, 2006
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I love this thread, lets see, if i had no fears what would i do????
I would march myself down to the school and enroll in some classes, fun classes like art, or photography, i would also take a communication class, i took this class back in college but i was so afraid to do my final speech i walked out, the feer took over, i would take that class again and this time i would hold my head high and know my speech is an awesome one to be shared with the class.

October 25, 2006
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I'll have to get that book- what a great thread.

Shortcake~ ditto on what you wrote.. and just another..

I would put myself out there.. leave my 'comfort zone'.. try new things/new opportunities (such as going into my own business).

October 25, 2006
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I love this thread!!!

Okay, if I had no fear I would:

1. Love myself to truly believe I am loveable and valuable and never let anyone take it away from me.
2. finish the novel I've been working on for the past five years.
3. enroll in the Oracle DBA class I've been promising myself to take.

October 25, 2006
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If I had no fear, I would skydive. If I had no fear, I would tell my husband the truth about the new car. If I had no fear, I would rob a bank and pay off all my debts. Oh, that was fun.

October 25, 2006
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I would not scream and run for the hills, every time I stumble across a doggone snake.

: )

October 25, 2006
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Have to look for the book.

I would smile alot more 🙂

October 25, 2006
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Strong...does that happen often?? 🙂

October 25, 2006
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I would probably laugh more, and would reach out more to help people. Nothing worse than having a desire to do something positive and be fearful and not do it! I so wonder where this comes from!!

Gee, these threads have me thinking today!!! I read one, and my brain goes to work. I think I'll just journal it all out.

you all are awesome.

October 25, 2006
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If I had no fear... I would just be able to get over the one person that is not good for me...

October 25, 2006
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it is a cute book i have read it also i think if i had no fears at all i would be a good swimmer and that i would finally have my drivers lisence dont laugh but iam 28 and still dont have it maybe its my fate i was never ment to have it and i would leave my marriage for the unknown in life

October 26, 2006
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ChloeysMomma,

I'm 38 and I'm just getting my license!!! I won't laugh. I also lived on a tropical island and am TERRIFIED of water. I've never learned to swim.

Cyndra

October 26, 2006
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Shortcake,

What an awesome thread! I have the book and have had the (corporate) training to accompany it but have never made time to read it although I'm an avid reader. hmm...wonder what that says about me?

Anyway, I'm doing what you want to do, in that I'm leaving my husband of 8 years because I'm feeling everything you are and still, I'm afraid...not so much of being alone but of what I may be doing to my son by separating from his father. But, I think I deserve to receive some or maybe even more than I give and I have to put myself (and my son ) in a position and place to have a chance to do and have just that. I'm digressing a bit as this is about the exact opposite but maybe you'll be encouraged knowing that someone else is going for the same things you want.

That said, if I had no fear, I would quit my job, move away from here and the other people I'm related to to become the event planner and creative spirit that I've always wanted to be. And jastypes, I would skydive too!

October 26, 2006
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Okay, so this thread had me obsessing a bit.

I decided that if I really had no fear, I would quit my job and become a full-time missionary to some far away place.

October 26, 2006
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jas...found a website yesterday...www.Globeaware.com....
volunteering for as little as a week or for as long as you want...and your kids can go if I read it correctly if they are not younger than 14. It looks awesome!!

October 26, 2006
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Thanks for this...because its made me realise...I don't have any fears really, which is brilliant and a real sign of my healing...so thanks!

But yeh, I have two big fears, spiders and ghosts (Yes, its real fun being around me at halloween!!!) Now, the spiders thing...would I sit in a room full of spiders if I wasn't afraid of them - NO, why would I want to? I'm confortable with my fear of spiders...I don't want to not be afraid of them!

If I wasn't afriad of ghosts though, I'd like to go along to one of those overnnight stays at a haunted castle...because although I am afraid of ghosts...I am interested to see if they really do exist...I'd like to see a ghost..even though I'd proably faint or pee myself or something if I actually saw one!

My god I sound like a teenager...imagine a 32 year old woman being afraid of ghosts!!!

October 26, 2006
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I would quit my job and go into business for myself. I'm wasting my potential where I work, now, and I know it. I wish I wasn't afraid of not getting that steady paycheck for a while.

October 26, 2006
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I am enjoying reading everyones posts. Thanks everyone. This thread has kept me thinking a lot about myself and my own desires to not be weighed down from fears.

The book is great, and it can represent so many things in your life. Work, Relationships, Fears, etc.

October 30, 2006
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After reading the whole book I keep coming back to this question. I have put even more thought into what I would do if I was not scared of being alone the rest of my life... This is what I came up with....

I would look at my life and relieze I am in love with a man who can't offer me commitment and the emotions that come with relationships right now. He has a lot of things he needs to get figured out in his life. I have talked with his mother and she thinks if I am willing to wait a little and just offer him friendship, no pressure and support while he gets himself back together, I might be the one for him. I want that to be true more then anything, there are so many reason to wait and there are so many reasons to move on with my life... Maybe I can combined those ideas... waiting while moving forward with my life....

Therefore, if I had no fears regarding my life and being single. I would support this guy as his best friend, love him, encourage him and be there for him. Give him his space, no pressure and use all that extra time to work on being secure within my own skin. I will continue to workout, read my codepend. books, write in my journal and keep in mind I am single and I will find my path soon.

Taking this road will allow me to not give up on my love, however, it will remind me I am single and I do have options if a new man were to come along. I want to stand strong, be proud I am single, learn to love myself, and keep all my options open.... I belong with someone and hopefully my higher power will help guide my heart and mind to him when its time...

Thats my plan, most of it is about focusing on me and my healing from codependecy.... Mean while, I will support this man and continue to be his best friend, knowing, he can not offer me what I want right now. I will keep my options open, but also remember, its okay to be single and love self... No reason to rush into any relationship... First comes my healing, then love... I will put faith in the fact, if its meant to be with me and this guy, time will guide us together, if its not meant to be, then I will walk aways from this stronger due to my continual codependency healing and education....

ShortCake

October 30, 2006
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talking about (taking ) a "short-cut" ... ShortCake (smile here) ...

"What would you do if you had no fears?" (thread title) ...

Ehhhhhhhh .... I´d probably forget about "life" or "living" altogether.

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