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Sexual harrassment....
March 17, 2005
12:36 pm
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i posted a thread about a month ago (give or take a few days)that i thought i was being sexually harrassed at work. a guy i work with came up to me one day and ran his hand over my should and down my arm and told me that i looked pretty. well, i ended up just brushing it off and moving on. about 2 weeks ago, he started calling me sweetheart but only when other people were out of earshot. then two days ago, as i was walking into the building where my office is, he came running towards me as if he wanted to give me a hug. so, maybe this sounds innnocent on his part but i have been extremely uncomfortable at work. he is constantly finding excuses to talk to me even though we are in completely different departments and our job duties have at no time crossed lines. and he gets offended when i brush him off and continue to do my work. the day that he ran towards me for a hug, i became absolutely fed up with his behavior and i vented to a co worker about him. she was dumbfounded. it turns out that he used to exibit the same sort of behavior towards her. yesterday when i came back from lunch the hr manager was here and he called me into a meeting. apparently the girl i vented to called him because she was worried about me (although i am just assuming it was her because she is the only person i have told about him. the hr manager didnt say who called him, nor did i ask). so, they are doing an investigation on him now. i am so uncomfortable. i dont want to be here when he is confronted. our office is small and i am still going to have to see him on a daily basis. i have butterflies in my stomach and i am on the verge of tears. i just want to go home...

March 17, 2005
12:43 pm
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I think it is okay to feel how you feel. A lot is going on. This guy doesn't have the right to say those things to you, and if your gut is telling you something, it is for a reason.

He sounds like a little wacko anyways so be glad they are investigating.

March 17, 2005
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okay, the hr manager just showed up and he is meeting with the guy now. i am so nervous. i want to go home. i really just want to quit right now and not ever come back here. i would if i didnt need this job so badly. i feel sick... i need to talk...

March 17, 2005
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what is normal-

I hate the bastards that do this. I too have been in your situation, as have many many women and girls. I'm glad you told someone becuase I didn't and I ended up quitting one job because I couldn't take it. Maybe something will change in yoru office directly because of you speaking up about it. I'm so sorry for you and I feel for you because I know how awful that all feels. It is so uncomfortable. Please hang in there, you are alright, he is a complete jerk who has absolutely no right to violate you or make you feel ANY sort of uncomfortableness. I hate this.

March 17, 2005
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what is normal,

Rule one;, if you feel uncomfortable it's for a very good reason. Women have that sixth instinct. It's called self preservation. Use it girl!

Have someone walk you home, and pick you up in the morning. Start documenting everything, build a case. After a couple of days if he is still ‘hanging around’ file a report with HR, your immediate supervisor, and the police. Contact a lawyer and send a letter to the company and its insurance company stating your case.

Do NOT confront him. Also, enroll at a self defense course,...and if he gets to close, aim for the BALL$ and show no mercy.

You are correct, that is not normal behavior.

Be smart; be strong do not let him intimidate you. Remain focused and don't panic. Remember it’s him or you. And I rather it be you standing and him on the ground. Real men, good men don't have to impose themselves. And again, do not even think about it, if he gets to close, kick him in the ball$ as hard as you can. Then smile and walk away!!!

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March 17, 2005
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I don't have time to write because I am at work right now, too, but I hope that HR person is able to talk some sense into your employer. Pick your head up and walk tall because you have done nothing wrong.

March 18, 2005
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What is normal,....

how's it going?

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March 18, 2005
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what is normal-

How are you? how did things go? Thinking about you.

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