Betrayed -
Have you heard of Sexual Addiction? Is considered the same (and I say worst) as alcholism. You husband is exhibiting the symptoms. Mine has been and addict for 40yrs and still trying to make ME feel guilty for my lack of trust (he wants "blind faith"). This is probably nothing new in your hubby but VERY old -from teenage years.Check it out on the web. It's not you but him. Don't fall in the trap of checking on him and try to control HIS problem or you will end up with YOUR co-dependent problem being bigger. He likes to be controled by you a bit so he doesn't get totally out of hand but not really totally away from his addiction. Read An Affair of the Mind by Lorie Hall and get the TRUTH AND REAL picture of who he is. He will deny it -guaranteed! Don't waste 20 years of your life on him like I did. Learn to love yourself first and then look for someone capable of loving. Sex addicts only love themselves!!!! NObody else!!!