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April 8, 2005
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I have heard this from many men and had many men tell me this is a turn on and I am not quite sure why.

Question: Why do men like you to be looking up at them into their face when you are performing oral sex?

I don't want to look into some guy's eyes as he is doing that to me.

I have heard MANY MANY men say this is a huge turn on, and I am wondering why.

Is it some power and control thing?

April 8, 2005
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My boyfriend said it is like aknowledging that we are pleasing them and are enjoying it--ego thing. I'm with you though, no looking at me, please. I guess it's one of those 'extention of manhoo' things we'll never understand...

April 8, 2005
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Yes it is indeed a turn on for most as the men interpret your open eyes (looking at him) as "how do you like this/I like doing this to you/ let me see your reaction as I do this". Regards. Notsure

April 8, 2005
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It is a total power and control thing. He becomes the master.

By the way I have never and would never ask a woman to look into my eyes during that act.

April 8, 2005
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yes I've heard that before too, so they see it as us LIKING to perform oral sex on them and that turns them on more?

odd. I would think it would ruin it to see someone starring at you.

April 8, 2005
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Do you think it is degrading then DMurphy?

April 8, 2005
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It is how the woman feel about it. If she doesn't mind it would not be degrading but as a man I can tell you that I think it is. Guys want girls to be trashy sometimes and this is one way for them to feel that way in my opinion.

April 8, 2005
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DMurphy, you think a woman giving oral sex to a man is a degrading act? I'm trying to understand.

April 8, 2005
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Also, I wonder if it doesn't depend on why the man wants you to look? My boyfriend likes to see that I enjoy it, which I think is sweet, in a sort of insecure way, like he wants reassuring that he is not inconveniancing me or that I really do feel turned on by him. I've heard men wanting more degrading things though, like that they want to sense power and domination, like seeing the discomfort or submisiveness.

April 8, 2005
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yeah, probably depends on the person.

April 8, 2005
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I've never seen a thread get more posts quicker. We should all get our minds out of the gutter...;)

April 8, 2005
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Ha, sex sells, no i don't think oral sex is degrading but I do think that something about being on your knees and looking at the person while doing that I am not sure.

I do it though, I mean I like it better when the guy is turned on and going crazy anyways.

April 8, 2005
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artist 2

I am not saying that it is a degrading act. I feel that as a man for me to expect a woman to look up at me would be degrading towards her.

April 8, 2005
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I have to say that I love looking at my lover while I am performing oral sex. It's not that I stare at him the whole time, I just look at his eyes from time to time. He says that it shows him that I am enjoying the act of pleasing him, and that gets him even hotter. That in turn- turns me on that much more to see how he is enjoying it. But, I also have to say that I have never before been comfortable doing that with anyone else. The chemistry is just there that makes it work for us.

April 8, 2005
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These are all great answers, but I think the main reason is the acknowledgement of the connection between the two of you, what ever form of sex or love making you share together in.

If you cannot look at the person who is 'doin it' to you or you 'to them', then perhaps it is just having a sexual experience. Just a thought on that here.

In my opinion, there is nothing more sensual than looking into each other's eyes, during sex or anytime. The eyes, the window of the soul?

You guys really gave some great, straightforward answers!

April 8, 2005
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I gotta stop reading this thread... I'm starting to think about my BF in a very special way!

Oh, yes at any time during love making try to maintain eye contact--even trying is an extreem turn on.

Ok, time to go now....

April 8, 2005
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I like looking at him, and seeing him in such a state of bliss! It's a power trip for ME sometimes!

:o)

April 8, 2005
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I agree with sew.......I think it makes a wonderful connection and you can each feel what the other is feeling.....window to the soul...

April 8, 2005
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Yeah, and besides, if we're looking at each other, I know he's thinking of ME, and not some porn chick on the internet (even if I'm acting like one - LOL!)

April 8, 2005
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I'm with sewunique--it's about making a connection. That's also a principle of tantrism.

Making love with eyes closed is too much like masturbation.

April 8, 2005
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WD does make a good point!

April 8, 2005
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What? I try to never look at the person, I don't know why, I guess because that way I can detach to some extent.

I think it can be better without looking into their eyes. I'd rather look at their ass anyways.

April 8, 2005
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Exactly! Was thinking that but didn't have the courage to use the "M" word.

April 8, 2005
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Sorry, Aces! Cross posted...good call on the ass ass-pect. But I still agree with WD.

Maybe just do everything in a mirrored room??? Solves it all! (OMG, did I just say that out loud?)

Abandon thread! Abandon thread!

April 8, 2005
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OHHH I LOVE mirrors, I mean LOVE them, if I could do any type of sex it would be with mirrors.

NOW THAT IS sexy. I love watching it play out.

Good good idea, bravo!!!!!

Now gotta find someone to use that with.

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