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Sew, Mama are you here?
January 22, 2005
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Yucky muck ahead. I may make this my venting thread. I learned of a co-worker of mine, who passed away of cancer a few years ago, that she never vented, kept everything inside. My mom was the same...be strong is my family motto.

These threads really mke you stop and think. I know I can't cover all of the bases, but am losing at the ones I am to cover. My boys are the most important thing to me, and I am letting my life circumstances, and allowing my mother's illness to drain me. I am so concerned about my youngest. I can see addictive behaviors in him, I need to be there for him emotionally, and I am not now most of the time. I am so drained, that I end up thinking about how to survive. I keep it in, I fake being ok at home, because I have put myslef in this role, every single woman in my family, have been the strong survivors!! The men are awesome in their own ways, but the women hold it altogether...being a single mom raising boys, I have to get thruogh this. I don't know how to move through it, be therefor me and be there for them. My 23 yr old is back home with me!! in a 2 bedroom apt. He goes back to school this Monday, but I am supporting him. I moved from the house, to a 2 bedroom apt with my one son left at home, now 17, becasue I thought my older 2 were out on their own. My oldest is now back, and it is causing major financial problems...it was my decision to allow it, but he is not working because "he does not have his car working". Bless his heart he is trying to fix it and knows he has to work and go to school both, but I am in the middle, my 17 year old is in the middle, and I am coming unglued. My 17 year old says he is beyond depressed, he is numb. We are going to therapy next month, but I have allowed my life to get out of control, and I just want it back without having to support everyone. I was doing ok, and here I am again. I actually took control, moved out of the house into something I could afford...and now I am right back where I strted. I do not know how to think about all of this. Just in a fog.

January 22, 2005
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OMW,

I am glad you are venting. It is good to see you expressing yourself, and talking abouot you!

What a bummer you are going thru with this all piling up like a stack of bricks. Set a good fooundation, so they don't all fall over on you. What is it you need to do, to prevent that? Whatever that is, get it in your head and go with it. I know you do it. You are strong, just right now it is all so much at one time. I am here for you sweetie, just take care!

Isn't funny? Now i am older, I am able to tell my girlfriends, I love them and we call each other fun names. When younger, I wouldn't dare. But now I realize life is too short and so precius. And realize how much I value my freindships and they do in return. Not so bad being 50+. I saw you posted on the other thread. Gonna stand by me with this? I'm not sure of it all. Words and feelings and flaghtery. And honesty.

This is a good thread for you as you say for venting or just 'being'. Many have their own threads and it is a wonderful way for freinds to find each other.

Sew/C.....any news on the email situation??????????

January 22, 2005
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Good point about the bricks...very good! RE; the other thread, my advice is to go with it. There is anonymity here. See what happens. Workin had an interesting interpretation,but I too would be floored if someone said that to me. He posted on on the Sex Drive & Men thread. I have my own thoughts about how he communicates, I learned to feel my feelings on that thread while chatting with him, but when I asked him to share himself, he went into his own mode of communicating. So I decided not to go there. But everyone is different Sew, which is what these threads are about. Keep talking to him if you want too. It is a thread, open to everyone, not just him. I asked the question thread originally, just working through some past issues.

No, have not rec'd an email response yet. In God's hands. This I am not worried about. Thanks for asking.

January 22, 2005
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I am going to try this diet. I think it is affordable for me. Been eating less red meat. Used to be vegetarian in my early twenties, may go that way now, somewhat. Have you tried the diet where you make a pot of soup with tons of veggies and no meat or meat broth? You can eat it seven times a day, few calories. I'd do it now and share it, but unfortunealty, it sits inside my cupboard door back in WIS. Some things you just forget to pack when you are leaving hell.

My goal is to loose 10 pounds in the next thirty days. This will be hard as I have been skinny (hate that word), thin, all my life and mever had to do a diet. So I will ride along with you all.

January 22, 2005
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The diet I mentioned above is great. Once you start you can lose 10 lbs in amonth, but it takes a week or so to get it going, at least it did for me. And,,,no exercise required!! To lose weight and not exercise appealed to me, but now I want to exercise to firm up what I lost, and for health benefits. I have heard the veg diet is healthy with protein once in a while too. Guess we could start a diet thread...with weekly weigh-ins?? HA!
I haven't heard of that soup for a diet pre say, but have heard of the diet that is given to patients who need to lose weight fast before heart surgery...called the cabbage soup diet. This really pulls weight off fast, but then hard to keep off. It is fruit all day,1'st day with all the soup you can eat. #2 day is veg all day with as much soup...every day is different for 7 days.

January 22, 2005
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THAT'S IT1 THE CABBAGE SOUP DIET1 Thanks for being so informative! Yes, it is used for cardiac patients.

Do you have that diet?

It is a known fact that protein and carbs substain your energy levels and keep the sugar levels even. Milk and cookies. Protien bar (with carbs in it of course). Etc.

Oh, I been doing Yoga, great stuff. It elongates the muscles, not body build them type. It increases mobility to the joints. It stretches you and provides good oxygen to the muscles and to your brain. Pilates is good too, but I stick with the yoga as I like the philosophy and the meditaiton part as well.

January 22, 2005
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Do you want to try a diet thread as was your idea? It is a good one.

January 22, 2005
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I have heard so many good things about yoga, I probably should do it, never have.

Cabbage soup diet:
cabbage, carrots, onions, green peppers, 1 pkg onion soup mix with water.
#1 day all fruit, as much soup as you want, as much fruit as you want.
#2 day all veggies, as much as you want, as much soup as you want. At the end of Day 2 you can have a baked potatoe with a small amount of butter.
#3 day, all the veggies AND fruit that you want, and all of the soup that you want. By now you should be a regular in the bathroom as your system is getting a cleaning!!
#4 day, to replace potassium lost from days 1-3, banannas and non fat milk, all day 5 banannas only, and 3 servings of soup.
Day 6..all of the chicken and veggies you want..2 servings of soup.
Day 7...steak only all day one serving of soup.
The idea being that protein eats the fat.

January 22, 2005
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Hi Sew and OMW: I'm catching up.

January 22, 2005
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Girl, are you quick at getting back on the diet or what? Thanks. Yoga is great, even for geriatrics and those with arthritis. It can be modified. They even have "chair yoga" on TV for the elderly. See if you can find a channel that has yoga, usually early morning and tape it to try it out befor you buy a book on it.

I am going to the store now and get a grocery list made for this diet. Then to clean the house. Abit late, but who else is here? Just me and my cat and she won't mind.

Might get on here later, might not. See you later. Take care in that snowy weather in NV!

January 22, 2005
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I have a question on the yoga part. Is it like calanetics? (spelled wrong).

January 22, 2005
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Hi mamac,

I guess you could say that. It is stretching into different positions, using correct breathing techniques and balance. But you can do it sitting in a chair. If I had a TV guide, I'd find what channel. It would be great for you! It is not using weights nor jumping around. the movements are slow and purposeful. Pilates wouldn't be for you, notr for me. Besides, that is harder. See if you can find it on TV.

Gotta go to the store. I'll be on later tonite. I have a project I am working on here on Committment. Fun, fun.

(((((((((((hugs mamac)))))))))))

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January 22, 2005
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You go girl!!
Hi mamaC have a good day, will check back later on this thread, Sew, forgive me but I added on the Commitment thread.

January 22, 2005
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No forgiveness necessary, all posts are open and you are welcome any where with me or anyone esle!!!

January 22, 2005
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Did you get your stuff to make cabbage soup?

January 22, 2005
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Good evening,

Are ya here?

January 22, 2005
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I'm sorry I have to go. Have a kid throwing up in the bathroom. Dang I hate when they are sick. Will be back later tonight, 9-10 cst.

January 22, 2005
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I'm baaaack!!! Got groceries. Only $64. for tons of veggies. Will make the cabbage soup tommarrow. Just had Italian white bean soup, yum and veggies and cheese in a wrap. Now I'm full. Bad news, had to get salsa and corn chips to snack on later with Perie water for a late nite snack: to justify that; it's Saturday nite and I'm on the board here with everyone. Have to go to your other thread with the commitment thing. I just found my answer in Webster's. Now I know why it's been bugging me and confusing me. See you over there?

Sew

January 22, 2005
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Hi Sew:

Well, I had a wonderful night of both twins throwing up. Can't wait till tomorrow.

Hey, thanks to you both for the diets and suggestions. I truly appreciate them.

Gotta get to bed. I'm up at 5am and over to sis' to watch the sick kids. Oh lucky me. And for some reason my hubby is going to wait up. He never waits up. Oh, and no, none of that tonight, wrong time of the month. lol

I'll try to catch ya'll in the am or sometime tomorrow.

OMW: How r u doing? Holding up ok? Remember when there is only one set of footprints in the sand......you know what i mean.

Later Ladies

January 23, 2005
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Sorry I missed you MamaC.

Baby twins throwing up? Now that's no fun at all. Hope you get some sleep tonite! And take care of yourself, too.

OMW,

Are you around anywhere? Seems like I have missed everyone I expected to see here tonite. I'll check back later one more time.

Sew

January 23, 2005
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Hello-0-0-, it is 2:30 am here, if you can believe this old lady is up...can't sleep. Yeah for yur soups Sew, let me know how it goes!
MAmaC, sorry about the sick twins..double trouble, bless their hearts. Hope you were able to get some rest anyway. I am trying to be ok...too stressed, it isn''t good. Sometimes I just don't understand how God works. When I try really hard to do what is right and I am doing my best...things do not work. I really don't do anything but go to work, and come home. Pity party I know. My boys don't sleep. They are both bipolar, the oldest & youngest. I feel too old and too tired to deal with much. So when I hand it over to God, I still don't know anymore. Maybe he is trying to carry me and I keep jumping out of his arms. Sorry, I don't mean to complain, but I am stretched to my limit here....always a stretch, and stretch a little more. I don't know what to do. Love and hugs.

January 23, 2005
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OMW:

My poor lady. I know it is rough on you. I've been there, minus the mom part tho. I know just words are not gonna make it any better. Have you been praying? I cannot explain why God lets us go thru such trials. Wait, yes I can. Hang on!

Ok, I'm back. This one is for you.
Romans 5:3b - 5 says: We also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverence; perseverence character; and character hope. And hope does not disappoint us because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit whom he has given us.

That just came to mind to let you know that God is with you. I also want to leave you with this Amy Grant song. I have it written and posted several places so that when I get to dispair as you are I can sit and read the lyrics over and over. Here's the song.

When the weight of all my dreams
Is resting heavy on my head,
And the thoughtful words of health and hope
Have all been nicely said.

But I'm still hurting,
Wondering if I'll ever be
The one I think I am.

I think I am.

Then you gently re-remind me
That you've made me from the first,
And the more I try to be the best
The more I get the worst.

And I realize the good in me,
Is only there because of who you are.

Who you are...

And all I ever have to be
Is what you've made me.
Any more or less would be a step
Out of your plan.

As you daily recreate me,
Help me always keep in mind,
That I only have to do
What I can find.

And all I ever have to be;
All I have to be;
All I ever have to be
Is what you've made me

January 24, 2005
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Thank you, for the verse and the Amy Grant song, will post this on my fridge!! You know it is hard to be a believer sometimes, in the world not of it. Part of my problem is that I haven't been as committed, God is there, I walk back and forth. But I know I'll be ok, it is just as you know too I'm sure, some days are rockier than others. God bless you, and thanks for this encouragement.

Sew, interesting conversation on the commitment thread. I tried to get jm to talk and i couldn't...some of the issues he faces are things I need to understand in the male world myself.
Have not heard from you-know-who, (MamaC, reached out and tried to say hello to my old friend, last Friday) have not heard back. So I am walking away.

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