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Sew is working on stop smoking; does this matter in the romance dept?
October 16, 2005
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Sew, I am working at all types of items now to quit this ugly habit that each cigarette has almost 17 or 18 toxins! as for my usual, I have read and read much to help me to learn and understand this bad habit. My way of doing things; got to learn more and get pumped up about it and make it into a challenging endeavor.

So far, I am still smoking but have cut down by 75%. I have changed my habits, ie, no more smoke breaks at work no smoking in the car, go outside for a quick smoke.

My house smells better. I smell deliciously wonderful (so I say).

funny, many people did not know I smoked cuz I was so meticulous about showering just before leaving home, not smke in public, etc. Others knew it.

So big question for non-smokers.....will this make me more "kissable"? Can one smell the smoke even if I play all these tricks to 'cover it up'?

I have a friend who does not smoke who is attracted to me, who just won't kiss much. I am wondering.....is it possible I really do smell of smoke more than I realize? And yes, I am doing this all for me, just for me.

And if it weren't for the anonomity of this site, I would never dare to ask such a question to any friends.

~Sew~

October 16, 2005
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Hi Sew,

I hate to burst your bubble here but....

I am a smoker and my b/f is not. He comments ALL THE TIME that I smell like cigarettes despite the fact that I use perfume, brush my teeth all time, chew gum, etc.

I think it is very difficult for us smokers to detect the smell because we are accustomed to it, however, people who don't smoke can smell it a mile away.

No different than alcohol I suspect. The person drinking chews a piece of gum and thinks they're kidding people, where as those not drinking get knocked over by the smell.

Anyway....I wish you all the luck with kicking the habit. I have tried (unsuccessfully) many times in the past, but I never give up hope.

You can do it!!!!!

Love,
Lolli

October 16, 2005
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Loli,

They say it takes some people 5 times of quitting to finally quit.

I have to do it. I want to. Badly.

So how did you burst my bubble?

I am not going cold turkey, but counting, timing all sorts of things to quit. I may even go for acqupunture or laser.

And I cannot afford it any more, either. I want that money to go for a New York trip; never been there.

Besides, I am the only one of two nurses woho smoke and I do not work with her on my schedule, so no more smoking at work.

I have to succeed at this. I do. I will, by hook or by crook!

Thanks,

~Sew~

October 16, 2005
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sewunique,

I don't smoke and I can smell a smoker (which is pretty bad) sometimes even breathing nearby in a public place. I would never date a smoker. I used to be a "seasonal" smoker; the longer I don't smoke the more it bothers me, both the smell and the smoke.

After you will give up the cigarettes, you will be able to smell better - your sense of smell will improve, and taste better. Your personal body scent will change as well, but that will take a while, your breath will smell nicer faster than the smell of your skin. If you didn't quit smoking, you are not there yet but you are on your way! Good Luck!

October 16, 2005
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Well out here in Lala land, smoking is sooo taboo. You rarely see a smoker, and people will even give dirty looks to those who do.

Having said that- I am a smoker. I smoke in my house, in my car, and rarely anywhere else. On the dating sites I rarely see any men who smoke, and most specifically state "No Smokers". Narrows the field to almost nothing. So yes, yes, yes, it increases your dating possibilities exponentially! Good luck. SD

October 16, 2005
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Matteo

the girls at work said that they can smell it on my skin, thought it was just becasue i was outside smoking there at work

with you saying this, I can hardly wait to see what happenbs

just got done doing a mere 5 miles with my new bike (!) and going for the water water water!

can you imagine; this 50 something year old with a bike? maybe i will tighten up that little roll around the waist lol

but my bike isn't shabby; black men's bike, so no one poo poo me!

October 16, 2005
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I am sorry, SD, I know, down here it is health and better health and hardly anyone smokes! State law no smoking where there is any food served,
so even the bars can't smoke. It is an incentive!

October 16, 2005
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Hey Sew,

I am thrilled you plan to quit smoking. That is very smart decision!!!

Yes, my 1st bf used to tell me that it is more fun to kiss non-smoker than smoker. Back then I was social smoker who smoked only occasionally, so he was quite excited when he knew that I was not regular smoker.

My present male friend was smoker when I met him who confessed to me once that he wanted to quit smoking. When I started praying to him I found out that within several months, he quit smoking. So Hooray to you now sweetie!!! I'm so proud of you Sew!!!

BTW: I need your support Sew, SD, and Lolli on the thread "Please keep Sweet Ella in you thoughts and prayers." I hope to see you there Very Soon sweeties!!!

(((Hugs)))

October 16, 2005
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hi Sew...ok..the cold hard truth...of course with me being a non smoker......and yes, i can smell the smoke, and no toothpaste doesnt cover it up...esp if you smoke alot per day.

I am so happy though that you decided to quit this habit!!! i wish you strength and support and a healthier life too with it.

You go girl!!!

love, camer

October 16, 2005
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Hi Sew,

When I said I hate to burst your bubble, I was referring to your question...Can one smell smoke even with all my tricks to cover it up?

My doctor just gave me a prescription for Zyban, which along with the patch is supposed to help tremendously with quitting. However, it is very expensive and I don't have the extra money at the moment. Zyban is the same exact drug as Wellbutrin but one is sold for depression and the other for smoking cessation. Unfortunately, my insurance will not cover it if it is prescribed as Zyban. I asked my doctor to prescribe me the Wellbutrin but he said he couldn't because that would be fraud. I think this is so stupid and unfair.

I told him that I could not afford the prescription and his response was that cigarettes were more expensive in the long run. I told him , maybe so, but it's a lot easier to come up with $5 for a pack of cigarettes then it is to come up with $125 for the presciption plus the cost of the patches, which run about another $50.

I don't understand these insurance companies. They want us to quit smoking but won't pay to help us quit. It makes no sense to me. Do they think it's cheaper to pay for chemotherapy? I don't get it.

Anyway, like I said, I wish you the best of luck and I'm sending cyber strength your way. 🙂

Love,
Lolli

October 16, 2005
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Hiya Camer!

So a prayer or two would be appreciated! I just want this DESIRE to go away! I just focus on that and should get busy with other things!

Love,

~Sew~

October 16, 2005
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Lolli,

Go in and tell your doctor that you have drepression! I would, really.

YTes, the medical health care system is set up for curing, not preventative medicine. Therefore, the drug companies exist so well. Don't get me started, lol!

Doctors treat diseases, not usually preventive medicne.

Health insurance companies pay for illness and chemo. That is how the system is set up. You'd think they want you to get sick!

So now, preventative health care, taken from what some whould say is 'new age' stuff, which it is not, it is now called preventative, so insurance companies won't pay.

The "well baby visits" is now determined to be preventative, taking that new phrase. What used to be regular baby check ups for growth and immunizations, now is considedered preventative health and they, the insurance companies, some, now do not pay for that either. So what do they pay for? Why do we pay such high insurance costs, premiums and health care is suffering today and prices are sky rocketing?

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.... and I am a health care professional, and I get mad. 'Spose others get hotter than I do.

We are in a rich country where we do not, can not, nor dare not take care of our poor!

sad, sad.

October 16, 2005
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I meant to say that we have to pay for such high health care costs, just to get half way decent, or not? health care? Then what about the poor who cannot afford to pay any insurance? Some too poor to afford insurance and yet do not qualify for medicaid or SSI, because, god forbid, they have pride enough to work, but just barely have enough to live on to go on.

Sorry, I left out the connection at the end of where I was going and jumped my thought.

October 16, 2005
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Okay, Ras, you got it here!

Will stop over that thread and post for you!

Thanks for your input on the smoking cessation plan I am in the process of implementing for myself.

It is the cravings that is so bad!!!!

October 16, 2005
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Sew, Are you ignoring me?????

If so please tell me so, so that I do not post any more to you!!!

~Love, Ras~

October 16, 2005
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Ras,

please be patient!!!

I was posting about the father who lost his child

and I type slow
hold on lady!!!!

Sew/C

October 16, 2005
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Ella thread, right?

calm a bit ras,

October 16, 2005
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Heya Sew!

That is so awesome that you're working on quitting smoking! You go girl!

I used to smoke. It was only for a few years, and I was young(ages 13-18). But I am still so glad that I did quit! It's been over 3 years now.

I used to not mind smoke. I could eat in a smoking section, drive with a smoker, (even kiss one!)etc. But ever since I quit, the smell gets me so sick! I can honestly smell it 3 or 4 cars away (when I'm at a stoplight or drive-thru)

As for dating: I will NEVER EVER date a smoker. I just can't. But please understand that it's nothing against the person. Just my personal preference.

I wish you luck on your endeavor!

Love, Amanda =)

PS) When I quit, I went to my doctor and asked for help quitting. I was put on Wellbutrin. It not only helped me quit smoking, but it helped with other nervous habits as well. (Like biting my nails, grazing all day on snack foods, and even some slightly OCD behaviors that I was expressing... Oh, and it helped me get out of a depressive funk to boot!)

October 16, 2005
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Amanda!!~!!

How awesome you are here! I wonder what you are doing and how you are.

You can smell it three or four cars away???????????? You gotta be kidding!

Well right now, I either smell it constantly cuz oit is in the house (windows are open and it is 80 digrees outdoors to get the smell out!) or I smell it cuz I smoke a cig or few still outside my house and maybe it is still on me? Or I just crave it I think I smell it?

Whish me luck on my endeavor with this ugly smelly habit!!!

So what are you up to and how are ya?

Love to my kindred spirit, sweet Amanda girl!

~Sew~

October 16, 2005
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Sew,

Things are going very well for me. I'm healthy, I got a new (better!) job, things at home are stable, I paid off all my credit cards, and I'm not in any toxic relationships. (Don't plan on being in another one anytime soon either! LOL)

Yes, I have a strong sense of smell. It seems to be with things like smoking and alcohol. Garlic. Ummm, I dunno what else.

You will be so surprised at how great everything tastes after you quit smoking. (I think that's one reason why some people gain weight after quitting, stuff tastes so damn good!)

Talk to you soon,
Amanda

October 16, 2005
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Good luck with quitting smoking.
Have you figured out the savings yet?
You'll be in NY before you know it!
HD

October 16, 2005
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Thanks, HD

If I do daily, it 3.oo per day. If by the carton, 24 per week. $100 per month which is a lot of money to burn on cigarettes!

October 16, 2005
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I will be joining you very soon, Sew. Recc'd the book The Easy Way to Quit Smoking.

Love, Lass

October 17, 2005
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Great, Lass! where do you get the book?

October 17, 2005
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Sew:

I quit almost 4 years ago now and when I smell the brand I used to smoke it smells soo good. But, it's call will power. Constant and daily willpower.

You can do it; you just have to mke up your mind and find another habit to occupy your hands.

Best of luck to you.

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