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self-mutalation
March 27, 2001
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Hi anyone out there going through self-mutalation. The first time I did it I was a teenager now in my thirtys and it kind of started up again. I guess maybe self hate, anyway I'm working hard to get to the heart of the matter. t4c

March 27, 2001
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hi
i've never done that and i know i couldn't no matter how bad i feel. however, i do other self distructive things.
i reply because i'm curious as to why? is it because you feel so bad? and does it bring peace?
take care.

March 27, 2001
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Boy sure could use some knowledge on this there are lots of young ones looking for support here. One of my clients stated that she had done it as a teen, the first she could recall was out of anger, as a cry for attention. She was from a broken home where mom, busy with mr. wonderful new guy, just dumped her in boarding school. She states that it was all about finding love, she found hers in the needle, so she quit cutting, but would still do things to draw blood when feeling nervous. I have no experince other than slight, but my hypothesis is that it is just this side of suicide, in controll ?? I don't know if that makes sense to you, try thinking back to the first time, who introduced you, and your emotional circumstances. Today, it is a familiar coping mechanism, we are creatures of habit, but come on now your thirty. Its time to do the work, lets get with a good counselor, figure it all out, and come back and help these children. We all I believe need to be needed, and this is a good place to use the gifts that I am quite certain you have. Be good to your self.

March 27, 2001
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Hey, I just wanted to let you know that SI (self mutulation) is NOT uncommon. I am a teen and I cut. I have for almost a year now, and I can't stop. I have some friends who used to cut too, i still do know a few that do. You aren't alone. I don't know what else to say, but just don't cut to deep is all I have to say.
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March 28, 2001
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This behavior is apparently common among teen. Until I became a therapist I had never heard of self-mutalation. No matter the reason this behavior began or continues, Jesus Christ can take away the pain. Just ask for help and be sincere and he will help you. I know this is true!

March 28, 2001
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I think everyone that cuts is different in their reasoning. There are probably common ones that may be true though....

My thoughts are...maybe it's about cutting the bad out of yourself.

Or, maybe it's about punishing yourself when you think you've done something wrong or haven't performed well enough somehow....maybe somewhere in the past you learned that the ballbat was coming when you didn't measure up - so you just decided to pick it up and hit yourself now - so at least the "power" of that punishment was in your court - first and not in someone else's hands. YOU did it.

Or, maybe it's about wanting to feel better after abuse. Abusive people will oftentimes reward their victims with a "good time" afterwards - so we grow to mimick that in another form. I cut myself - now maybe I can feel better. Doesn't the equation go - pain and humiliation..... and then good feelings or numbing happens?

And I think cutting is an awful lot like "marking" yourself. Telling the world that you are a marked person and to beware. Or, if you don't want anyone else to see the marks and you hide them...."you" see them and may think.......yes, I am marked - see the scars? Outward scars are symbolic or inner wounds that no one sees......when we cut - we bring those scars and wounds to the surface......"Please someone acknowledge. I can't talk about it, but I can do sign language in this way....."

March 28, 2001
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Hello
Thanks to all the replys. Molly I really took to heart what you said to me. I though about it a great deal. The first time, I introduced myself. Emotional circumstances. After thinking about it for awhile I came up with I was a teenager with f
feeling for other girls (im a female). I had a major crush on my best friend and couldn't talk to anyone about I mean anyone. I felt so lonely and jealous of her boy friends. Anyway I also became an alcoholic. I really appreciate you telling me its time to do the work. I have gotten a conselor and I just got out of a rehab program. Ive been sober for a short time and yes I would love to come back and help the children when I have it more worked out. Thanks again!!!! t4c It sound like you are a good counselor. Ps. Ladeska Im going to also respond to your reply. I've got a meeting to go to.

March 31, 2001
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t4c
Change comes from the heart. After the heart is not hurting the rest of you won't be wanting to hurt you anymore. Love your self. Do something good for your self today. Try it, it's kind of fun!!! Go on a hike, ride a bike, fly a kite, go fishing, draw a picture, write a pome, look at the clouds, read a book etc....
best wishes.....
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