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Self-esteem boosters
May 23, 2006
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blyxx
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Any tips or techniques for boosting confidence and/or self-esteem?

One person I know suggested going to a public place and asking 10 random girls for their phone numbers.

I lack the courage to do that one.. I'd like to start smaller.

May 23, 2006
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Blyxx - Type in the search box up this page the word self-esteem, and you will find many threads about self-esteem.

Good luck!

May 23, 2006
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believe in yourself, look in the mirror and love the reflection.....the more you love yourself the more your self esteem will build.

Remember, no one is perfect, so never let the negative thoughts get in the way of all the positive things you have to offer.

May 23, 2006
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Hi Blyxx,

Sometimes it's about what we say to ourselves with out even realizing it we are bringing our self-esteem down with negative self speak.

Susan Jeffers wrote a great book,'Feel the fear and do it anyway,
' In it she explains Pain to Power vocabulary:

Replace; I should with I could,
It's a problem with It's an opportunity, I'm never satisfied with I want to learn and grow, life's a struggle with life's an adventure, I hope with I know, if only with next time, ect.

'The truth is that love and power go together, the kind of power I'm talking about leaves you free, since you don't expect the rest of the world to fill you up.It's not the ability to get someone else to do what you want them to do. It's the ability to get yourself to do what you want to do.'

I'm still working on this myself, by the way. Good luck.

May 23, 2006
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I do not recommend going somewhere & asking random people for phone numbers....

If you were to approach me (and probably most other ladies out there), I'd think you were nuts & a pyscho out to harm me. No one asks for a phone number out of the blue & randomly. What kind of woman do you think would actually give you her number? You'd probably get yourself pulverized by one or more of those ladies' boyfriends too.

Whoever recommended that advice to you was not thinking clearly. Get to know someone a little bit before asking for any phone numbers.

Self esteem booster? Have faith in yourself & believe in yourself.

Good luck

Juanita

May 23, 2006
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For me, self esteem requires having the peace and strength to say "No" to anyone who asks more of me than I can give. Sometimes, I must say "No" to myself when I find myself putting the demands or wants of others above my own needs. Yup..."NO" is the big word for anyone with low self-esteem.

Now in my late fifties, I have begun doing many things I lacked the confidence or courage to tackle, 20-30 years ago: ballroom dancing lessons (I have even begun "exhibition" dancing in front of an audience!!) and learning to shoot a handgun competently enough to qualify for a Concealed Weapons Permit. I have also adopted a young cairn terrier who was abused and neglected, terribly mauled by a larger dog and beaten by a man. He has all sorts of "issues" and was headed for euthanasia, until I took him. Have been working with him for nearly 3 months and he is making wonderful progress in Obedience and overcoming his aggression/fear reactions to other dogs and men.

All of these things might seem silly, but they are helping me to feel USEFUL and COMPETENT. I would encourage you to pursue any interest (hobby, pasttime, sport, endeavor) which has always appealed to you. Make time for yourself and build up that inner confidence and fulfillment. You will also make new friends who have similar interests...an unbeatable Bonus!

Love,

- Strong

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