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SD - spill the beans on the vacation!
August 17, 2006
12:30 pm
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Shaney
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How was it? Tan? Glad you're back :o) Anything out of the ordinary happen? Did you seeeeee anyone?

August 17, 2006
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Shaney: hahahahaha.

Well, yes I got a tan. Pretty good one if I do say so. Went swimmng and snorkelling every single day, checked out a bunch of dif beaches. Saw a monk seal one day- very rare and endangered, and also almost had a head on collision w/ a giant sea turtle.

Did I seeeee anyone? As in Surfer Dude? The answer to that is yes too, but turned out to be another stupid dating adventure.

I emailed him before I left to see if he was still interested since we had a bit of a spat when he didn't show up here last month and didn't tell me why. Turns out he had stayed at the wedding for 3 days partying w/ his buddies, lost his cell phone, blah, blah, blah. And he was pissed at ME because I blew him off FIVE days later and didn't WAIT to see what had happened. And of course, he did manage to find a computer to get on Match, but couldn't bother to email me thru Match and tell me whats up. So a little clue there on how he thinks.

But anyhow- I waited a couple of days before I called him in Hawaii- had places to go, things to do, ya know? When we finally spoke he said he was glad I was there and would love to see me. So we made plans to get together that night.(my bday but I didn't tell him). I picked up wine and scraped up appetizers- the store in Koloa is not even close to Trader Joes- and invited him over to my condo.

Had 4 hours of nice conversations, watched the sunset, laughed alot- seemed to have a good time. He asked to see me the next day- said he would call when he got home from work around 2- he called after 6!! Said he was going to take a shower- would see if he had energy after that (???) and would call me after he got out of the shower. Apparently it was quite a shower because I never heard from him again.

I called him late the next afternoon-asked if he was done with his shower yet- got voice mail- and then called him Tues morning before I left- and still nothing. Not even an email. So thats that. I wouldn't have even ever called him again if he were someone here, but I thought since I was there for such a short time, I would try and find out what happened.

So I was disappointed but at least I met him. He doesn't look as good as his photo- he looks pretty beefy and buff- but in real life he's kinda skinny. He had shoulder surgery earlier this year so no big muscles. and... of all things... he stutters. I couldn't help thinking to myself- wow- I sure didn't see this coming! Couldn't even tell on the phone. So maybe he is shy? Who knows. He's a bit inept on the manners dept, but I shouldn't expect Sir Galahad should I?

But I still think he's pretty cute- has great eyes and a great sense of humor. He gave me a nice long hug and a little kiss when he left- so was looking forward to more! But none to be had.

Cheated on his wife though in his first marriage and is still suffering the backlash from his daughters over that and the divorce. To me it seems like he ran away to Hawaii- avoiding the ex's, gave up a big business to work solo, stuff like that.

But I still had a great time in Kauai- had could I not?

Thanks for asking!!

Love ya, SD

August 17, 2006
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SD - yeah, you SHOULD expect sir galahad....at least you DESERVE it.

you were on vaca.....he should have taken YOU out, and wined and dined you, not only to make up for standing you up in the states, but also because you were a guest in his native land.

I got ten bucks that if you had called up H.gal....she would have given you the grand tour of the area, and provided all the entertainment.....you scraped up appetizers for him????....sounds just so wrong to me....lol....I know you invited him.....but still, to me, a real guy would have counteroffered with taking you out.

Glad you are back, you were missed.

August 17, 2006
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Aha! I was wondering too. So Surfer Dude is like a wind - comes and goes whenever he pleases. Seems like lots of stability and comfortable routine. Just kidding.

Great to see you back!

August 17, 2006
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Yeah, I hear you, Rising. I think he's a bit socially inept, but at the same time, I wasn't expecting anything. It would have been nice if he had shown me a few places, or what I was really hoping for was to watch him surf somewhere, but I just don't think he had it that much together. I didn't know that he had been angry at me- he told me that when I was there- and since he never emailed to tell me anything about what happened when he was here- I thought he was probably just a flake.

Plus- when he was going to come here and STAY with me- we had never even talked to each other- he didn't ask if I would like to see him - just said he would like to come and see me for a few days. So he was taking a bit of a giant leap by inviting himself and assuming I would want that. I told him I thought it was surprising he would want to drive nearly 800 miles to see someone he'd never talked to.

But he must have liked me if he had been willing to do that. So the fact that he blew me off in Hawaii could be for many reasons. Maybe in his mind its payback for me getting upset when he was here in CA, or maybe because I didn't give him much time to think about seeing me when I was there- I emailed the day before I left- or who the heck knows.

He talked about a lot of very personal stuff about his ex wife, the relationships he has/ doesn't have with his daughters, and stuff like that. I am just surprised it went south so fast. It seems we could have just hung out as a friends type thing while I was there- its not like he has a really busy life- but I guess I'll never know.

Of course there's always the chance (a little itty bitty one, imho) that he was doing the mature thing and not getting involved with someone who is 2600 miles away. But he does come to CA 3-4 times / year so its not like we couldn't meet again.

I'm glad to be back, too. Thanks.

I was wishing I had a computer over there so I could report in!!

So- not so dif than dating experiences with guys in my own state. they grow 'em the same in hawaii as here, I'm afraid.

H gal would have been alot more fun!!

I still have to catch up on the other thread.

SD

August 17, 2006
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Hi Matteo: Still enjoying your vacation?

Yep, I think he's a bit unstable, but he's got the island life, and I can't say thats all bad. Has a nice little business that allows him to surf pretty much at will, spends a lot of time at home working on his yard, working on his house, etc. Seems like a bit of a loner.

I was hoping to see where he lives too- and he said he wanted me to come over. I drove down his street- he lives in a very nice secluded area in a valley, but I don't know which house was his. He told me about a Sheraton that is planned near him and they want to divert traffic down his street, so they are up in arms about it- and rightfully so. It would destroy the privacy of the neighborhood.

Oh well.

SD

August 17, 2006
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Ugh. The crap that this surfer dude pulls, just doesn't add up. I hate that. I can't figure it out to save my life, and I guess speculating doesn't really give us any answers either. We can just chalk this up to one of those fleeting romances that just didn't happen. We can just romance this story up a bit, and give it sort of a Casablanca spin, then file it away. OR, we can file it under "dumb-ass" because he flaked out once again, on our resident superfox. Anyway... I'm glad you had a wonderful trip, regardless of his being so wierd at the end. It would take more than some surfer dude to mess up my trip to Hawaii :o). Happy Birthday too, by the way.

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