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scared to live alone..
April 24, 2009
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lost29
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in a few months i will be moving home with my three kids and my husband will be working on the road. even know i will see him once a month i feel scared i can't do it. i feel i can't live without him. thoughts run through my head, like is he having more fun..i also suffer from depression. is there something wrong with ME?

April 24, 2009
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No, sounds like you might be a little codependent though. And also reacting to a lifestyle change.

Has your husband ever given you a reason to suspect his faithfulness? You may need to discuss those concerns with him in a rational manner.

I think it's easy to assume that "the other partner" is "having more fun"... I do the same thing. But it's just a matter of me changes my attitude and saying "hey, wait, my life is what I make of it, and I say I'm having a good time." Really, think of it from his perspective; do you honestly think he likes being removed from his wife and children? Heck no!

April 24, 2009
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thanks have been reading up on the "codependent" part. the funny thing is he is the one that we don't have to worry about being faithfull. and no there is no way that he enjoys not seeing me or his children. thanks very much...

May 1, 2009
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hi lost29, i think most of us here in this board are scared to live alone. some of us had learned to deal with it, and have found strength through the years. but for people like you and me, living alone is like a ghost that gives us chills and makes us want to deny the reality.

if you are thinking that your husband could be having fun while he will be away, why can you not have the same? i think you deserve it. you should plan to have fun. it should be intentional. plan for it, and enjoy yourself. i don't know, what do you enjoy and amuse yourself with? go do it, have someone look after your kids, and go get some good fun.

my living alone reality is that my ex had left me. i am forced to be alone, with pain in my heart, and loads of memories in my hand. he had left and he ain't coming back. he left a home full of memories. it sucks, but i need to believe that i can go through this fine. i need to believe that, otherwise, i will just end my life.

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