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scared to be alone
December 2, 2000
4:26 pm
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andrea
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my boyfriend just ended our five year relationship....i am still alitle numb...i am trying to be strong but i am so scared of being by myself....the sadness and loneliness are pretty overwhelming at times...i thought we would be together forever...i know this sounds pathetic...

December 2, 2000
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More than afraid of being alone, it is just fear of the unknown, you were taken by surprise that this has happened. Start some writing, go out and see a movie, cry so that you can start anew.

December 2, 2000
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Andrea,

Believe me when I tell you that I too felt that way after my five year relationship. I felt out of sorts, depressed, heart broken you name it. I felt very much alone and terrified. I actually thought one time I was going to die. Being in a relationship for that period of time, I guess it feels as if you lost part of yourself which you now should rediscover. It is not bad to feel lonely afraid. I was not the type that would nornally go out and do alot of socializing. I changed my routines and did go out and yes I made friends. Keep busy, and yes Molly is right , I did do alot of writing and yes it helps pass time and boy, did I write alot. If anything, I was afraid to LIVE. Today, I am a very happy person and I don't mind being alone. Sometimes I enjoy my space. The word I think is called independence. Be independant and do for YOU. Take care. All the best.
Cerry

December 3, 2000
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This is such a hard time for you. Everyone deals with this type of pain differently, and you need to find what works for you. Don't be afraid to be "alone". I am guessing that being "alone" to you means not being in a serious relationship. You don't have to be truly ALONE though.

Keep pals around, and develop new platonic friendships. It distracts you from the newness and lonliness of being without your significant other, and you'll also discover new cool things about yourself and create many great memories that you can relate years and years from now.

Honestly, you will eventually find another fun person to date and share intimate time with, it just takes some time to heal. But you can never replace the time you have spent with buddies, and you will look back on your single times as some of the greatest experiences of you life.

Peace.

December 3, 2000
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Being alone and being lonely are two different things.

The time that I had to myself, in my little apartment..playing MY music..eating what I wanted doing what I wanted was the best time of my life.

Gd out if you want to go out..stay in if youwant to stay in do what you want to do...or is the fear because you have no idea what YOU want....

Discover what you want...make it a search and sidcovery mission. You will never find yourself made happy by another person...that happiness is only from within you...

Now is the time to find you.

Good luck

December 4, 2000
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someone. please give me an idea of what i should do. something that will just make this dreadful feeling that has been sitting inside me for months go away... i just can't stand this anymore and i'm to the point just wanting to do something drastic to make it go away. and there is absolutely no one that i can talk to to make me feel better because i've spoken to everyone. and it's really not helping.. im tired of feeling completely lonely and completely unmotivated to do just about anything. i stepped out and spent time with my friends and it just doesn't help at all.. i just end up sitting in front of my computer for days and hours and hours.. and it's just eating me up.. i thought coming here would be of some help .. and i thought making discussions with these people would help but it's not really helping at all... i'm just wanting to quit with everything and do soemthing extremely stupid or drastic to make this feeling go away. this has to be the lowest point in my life and i have never hate myself more than ever.. what do you suggest? i really, really need some kind of help.. and this is the first time that i have stated my problem on here.

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