Avatar
Please consider registering
guest
sp_LogInOut Log In sp_Registration Register
Register | Lost password?
Advanced Search
Forum Scope


Match



Forum Options



Minimum search word length is 3 characters - maximum search word length is 84 characters
sp_TopicIcon
SC guidelines
December 27, 2005
12:13 pm
Avatar
kathygy
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 30, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

I'm cutting and pasting this from the lib brews.

"
site coordinator
22-Dec-05

Hi Everyone!

I heard there was a question about guidelines... and since that's my 'forte' on these discussion boards, thought I'd pop in 🙂

Hope everyone is WELL & PEACEFUL, and focusing on THEMSELVES... 🙂

-- on to business & why I pulled up this thread:

On May 27, mzrella posted all of the information that was ever written on the guidelines... and it states explicitly (I think it does?), that ignoring people, is NOT RECOMMENDED... to read those guidelines & tips, please pull up "all posts" from the link at the top of this page & read what she copied & pasted. She asked me to give her a list of all of the guideline tips, and those are them.

Please review those if there are questions.

Again, hoping everyone is enjoying life, love, peace, and inner personal growth - - through focusing on the inner peacefulness that IS ALWAYS inside of us, and ALWAYS accessible if we let ourselves access it...

Love, SC

site coordinator
22-Dec-05

I suppose the guidelines that most reflect the question, in "question", could be these:

T he All About Counseling Guidelines are Enforced because these boards are a place to learn and use Healthy Communication (rather than aggressive or passive communication).

B y passive, we mean keep the status-quo by either not stating your viewpoints, or "stuffing" your viewpoints. Passiveness is "action" by not responding or initiating an action in return. Ignoring questions, constant cheerfulness which is many times used to hide or sublimate feelings for fear of objection or resistance.

A loof responses can be taken as an attack (passive aggression), things like: "Go read the guidelines," or, "Just ignore him, he'll go away." Instead, find out why the person is here. REALLY find out, don't just ask once or twice. We're all hurting in some way, and our behavior can be nasty when we're hurting. Can't it? "

December 27, 2005
12:18 pm
Avatar
kathygy
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 30, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

I'm afraid I'm guilty of telling people to 'go read the guidelines'.

I apoligize to all for saying this to people at times.

Although, its not always that easy to find out why someone is really here. There are times when I have asked and the person just ignored the question.

I'm not saying this is an excuse to tell someone to read the guidelines but just sharing some frustration with this.

love,
kathy

December 27, 2005
12:32 pm
Avatar
luv2luvher
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 30, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

The guidelines are a wonderful thing, it sets the line that we walk on and gives us the means to come in here and place ourselves out here. I think that a person may not be ignoring the question as to why they are here, they might just simply not know. That is why alot of us are here. To find out why. I know after coming here that it has help me to find out a lot of faults I have carried for many years. It has given me the strength to look deep into myself and come up with resolution to the errors in my ways.

It has also strenghtened me to the constructive critisisms that come when you place yourself out here. I know I had a real bad thread once where I had a lot of people worried. And I know I did not intentionally do it. I felt a certain way and that is what I wrote. But with that I found out people here that really haven't ever met me really do care for me and my saftey and the words that some times come out, whether they were said out of intentional hurt or constructive critisim, we must take it wit a grain of salt and learn how to either dismiss the comment or apply it to our lives.

SC,
I just want to say I am thankful for your site and I am gracious for you guidelines... I tried to stay on the straight line when I post and I appologize for out bounds posting that I might have done.

Much Luv,
Luv2

December 27, 2005
12:40 pm
Avatar
2bstrong
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 30, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Thanks for the post, kathy.

My thoughts are that we can't be everything to everyone at all times, and the reverse is true!

We do our best in visiting and posting here, and I would say that most everyone who's visited has breeched the guidelines at sometime, wittingly or unwittingly.

It's always good to "check-in" once in awhile, it fosters healthy communication.--2b

December 27, 2005
2:33 pm
Avatar
Matteo
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: 2
Member Since:
September 29, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

kathygy,

I really appreciate this thread and your courage to admit to what you did and take an ownership of your behaviour. You are setting a great example!

Forum Timezone: UTC -8
Most Users Ever Online: 349
Currently Online:
24
Guest(s)
Currently Browsing this Page:
1 Guest(s)
Top Posters:
onedaythiswillpass: 1134
zarathustra: 562
StronginHim77: 453
free: 433
2013ways: 431
curious64: 408
Member Stats:
Guest Posters: 49
Members: 110976
Moderators: 5
Admins: 3
Forum Stats:
Groups: 8
Forums: 74
Topics: 38561
Posts: 714258
Newest Members:
nina1985, February, lisabaker, robertwalker, Why.., Why.
Moderators: arochaIB: 1, devadmin: 9, Tincho: 0, Donn Gruta: 0, Germain Palacios: 0
Administrators: admin: 21, ShiningLight: 572, emily430: 29

Copyright © 2020 MH Sub I, LLC. All rights reserved.
Terms of Use | Privacy Policy | Cookie Policy | Health Disclaimer | Do Not Sell My Personal Information