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12:39 am
September 24, 2010
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anyone home?
1:16 am
September 30, 2010
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hey nesh. i am here. i got the alcoholic vs. sobriety thread going. am still wining about my dad....
1:17 am
September 29, 2010
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hello nesh how are you?
1:26 am
September 24, 2010
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hey, I am a bit down, but I am okay, it will pass
1:27 am
September 29, 2010
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why are you so down hun?
1:32 am
September 24, 2010
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just am...miss my abusive friend, i will get over it. Here is a great book I found
"Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft
1:37 am
September 30, 2010
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nesh, i miss my dad....know how u feel. i am going to get over it eventually. i am just admitting tht it hurts like the dickens to set a boundry and watch someone say the heck with ya.
1:39 am
September 30, 2010
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i can't believe u. today is your brother's bday? today is my mom's bday.
1:45 am
September 24, 2010
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yeah, it will be okay, i think it is just a combination of not feeling well today and stuff... I could have called this different guy I am going out with tomrw, but I decided it is not his issue. I see him about once a week, usually on Sat nites (but he was tired from a big work event) and we made plans for tomrw. I am not that into him, even though he is cute and fun. I just don't feel anything. I think I need time to heal from the past...so, I decided to just be alone.
Anyway, when I miss my abusive friend, I have to read the boooks and remember that he is bad news, regardless of how charming he could be. When you accept them, you are taking all of them, the charm and the bad stuff. So, he isn't getting another chance.
1:45 am
September 30, 2010
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i'm sorry u feel bad tonight...big hug((((((((((nesh)))))))))))))))
1:53 am
September 24, 2010
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thanks lost. I have the munchies.
1:54 am
September 24, 2010
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i have the munchies, and i am too lazy and tired to fix something to eat.
1:56 am
September 29, 2010
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lost, i don't think your dad may be able to admit he is off base, without admitting he is wrong. and if he admits he is wrong, then he will have to admit other things about himself as well...and only he knows what they might be. i think out of ignorance he says what he does, and sounds like he has lost respect for himself as well. the alcoholic personality is in denial until they are ready to stop drinking.
i am so sorry, i really feel what youare going through. my dad was an alcoholic...he would call me and talk to me and i did becasue i loved him. I was in my teens then. he was abusive as well. he is now 83 has not had anything to drink in a long time, and is a very loving kind man. but it didn't happen until he quit, and recognized he needed to...but he had to reach his bottom...it broke my heart for several reasons which you probably know as well and can relate too.
hugs,
omw
2:02 am
September 24, 2010
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i made beans and cheese! yummy.
OMW, that was such a cool response to lost. You showed a lot of empathy. Lost and I both grew up with childhood arthritis.
2:03 am
September 24, 2010
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OMW-
I wrote to you on the other post.
2:17 am
Hello everyone!
Can I ask some advice about a friend of mine?
2:19 am
September 24, 2010
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hi ella! go ahead. I will be up a bit longer.
2:21 am
September 27, 2010
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can't stick around but did want to say hello!
2:25 am
September 24, 2010
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hi CPT!!!
2:26 am
September 27, 2010
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sorry to hear you are feeling down tonight, nesh, but it sounds like you have it in perspective.
2:27 am
I think one of my friends is acting really weird with me, she stopped emailing and stuff.
2:28 am
September 27, 2010
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Mzrella, don't jump to conclusions, it could be something else---is she doing or not doing anything else out of the ordinary?
2:29 am
September 27, 2010
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gotta run for a minute---my dogs are whining to go outside. brb
2:31 am
September 24, 2010
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good question, cpt...so, ella what say you? Could it be something else? Did you try calling her?
2:33 am
We had a couple of work meetings together, went to lunch both times with two of her friends. She said she was sick after the third meeting. Then the third day the two of her friends left early claiming to have a "weird schedule" that day, and I guess avoiding eating lunch with me. Which doesn't make sense b/c they and I go in the same direction to work after the meeting.
I was going to see if she was okay after she called in sick to work and walk with her to the train. She dipped around a corner and was taking a while (on her cell) and I came to tell her I was leaving but that I hoped she felt better. Just weird that she hid around the corner (not in private). I'm not exactly describing it right but it was like she was avoiding me.
I"m pretty angry, yet I don't want to make a big deal over it because I could be wrong.
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