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SAD BUT TRUE
November 28, 2001
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MY SON HAD COURT TODAY AND HAS TO SERVE 6 MONTHS IN THE COUNTY BUT IT COULD OF BEEN ALOT WORSE AND HE SUGGESTED IT AND I DID OKAY UNTIL HE CALLED ME AND SAID GEE I WILL BE IN HERE FOR XMAS, MY BIRTHDAY AND MY GIRLFRIEND'S BIRTHDAY THEN I LOST IT AND STARTED TO CRY. I HAVE TO BE STRONG AND YES I KNOW IT WAS HIM WHOM GOT HIMSELF INTO THIS AND YES MOM CAN'T FIX IT THIS TIME.

November 28, 2001
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So what if you lost it and cried, got an e-mail this morning that its a mom's right to cry. So you have Christmas in June, tree and all in your new town home. Is he going to be close enough to visit on Christmas day, can he have a visitor? You and daughter could maybe check the rules out and take him a cake with a file in it, I mean cookies. 🙂 When you think about things, and I know this isn't the greatest,or even easy, but its only 6 months, and its only jail, he will be ok, and so will you.

November 28, 2001
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Thats right mom you can't fix it this time just love him. Molly I love the cake ideal.

November 28, 2001
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Geez...he does know how to pull your heart strings, doesn't he? Well, he needs to be the one crying, not you. Evidently, he's done this with you for some time now. He feels guilt or sadness and he calls you up - so you can feel it for him and he doesn't have to. I wouldn't be so eager to volunteer to be his pin cushion anymore. I'd resist all those tears and let him cry them for himself. Until he does that and means it - he won't be changing - a lick. He will just manipulate you all over the place to be there the next time he gets into trouble. He's working you. Pure and simple. So...little lady....YOU take care of YOU and let the big boys take care of themselves FOR ONCE!!! Stop wiping their noses and their butts. They do it themselves. You....get into a healthy scenario yourself and that means - not being in the middle of everyone else's stuff. You have enough trouble keeping yourself straight here! (smile) time to keep making tracks away from all this unhealthy living.

November 28, 2001
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Well, I suppose I shouldn't just sit back and just get advice, especially since I work in the field.
Sometimes children need hard lessons to learn from. The older they get the bigger the lessons have to be to take effect. There is nothing wrong with crying, you are a mother that is going through a difficult time. Perhaps being in jail for Xmas and the birthdays will make this lesson a bigger one, and consequently one he will remember. Perhaps that message might be a good one to relay to your son. Perhaps he should feel badly for putting you through what you are going through now because of him? YOU will be the one going through the holidays with a child in jail. Perhaps you could tell him that as well. My heart goes out to you as I too have a difficult child. Others advice is often easier to give than to take.

November 28, 2001
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Pam, I want u to remember this if u remember nothing else, you hang in there it's gonna be all right I agree with Ladeska, your son is an adult & he had the free will to make his own decisions, it's only so much Mama can do. He CHOSE to go and do what he did & now he's suffering the consequences. Think about it in this aspect. When I was young & acted up my Mom confined me to my room so I would think twice the next time I thought about doing what I did. And that sort of happened with him, he is being confined 2 his room for 6 months for his misbehavior & it's necessary so he will know when he is released that not 2 ever do this again. And as always remember that this could be a whole lot worse, he could have gotten more time. I'd say just allow him to learn from this time & be consoled knowing that the judge was lenient enough to give him a minimal sentence & u 2 will b reunited very shortly.

Also if u ever feel stressed remember this saying:

STRESSED is just DESSERTS backwars.

November 28, 2001
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Oh yeah, I meant 2 send u an e-hug on the last thread, here it goes < >

November 29, 2001
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thanks all i know it will be okay but with moving this weekend and packing and he is my youngest it has been a little difficult. But God puts his hedge around us to protect us. Never Give UP. Perservance can tip the scales from failure to success. I will be fine. Thanks for the kind words they brought tears to my eyes.

November 29, 2001
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Blondie:

Thanks i know he could have gotten alot worse and i believe he realizes that also at least i was there yesterday for him to let him know that i do love him and i do care, but he said that the 6 months he would do before he even went before the judge.

November 29, 2001
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WELL GOOD NEWS MY SON WENT BEFORE THE JUDGE TODAY AND HE WILL ONLY HAVE TO DO 3 MONTHS. THAT IS WONDERFUL.

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