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Sad but Here's a Thought for Us
October 8, 2005
10:18 am
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Longstreet
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Hi Group,

I'm trying to work through my sadness and anger over my ex of 1.5 years that was alternately wonderful to me or very passive-aggressive and controlling. She exhibited a lot of borderline behavior that I didn't understand and always felt like I was going crazy because I could never seem to make her happy. I was alway "neglecting" her in some way, failing some test of love in her mind. Yet on the flip side, she said she loved me, showered me w/gifts etc... When I tried to suggest she get counseling for this behavior and an abusive childhood, she dumped me saying it was MY issues and that she was "very self aware" and "didn't need to be disassembled and reassembled". So I am dealing with this loss and bewilderment over what just happened to my life and the future I thought we might have. I am even considering a job change out of state, just to make a clean start for a while. But I was listening to one of my tapes yesterday and heard a good quote. It was, "It's not that bad things don't happen to you. It's not that you should or can forget them. It's just that you have to make your life big enough to absorb them". I figure that bad feelings and hurt are really just chemicals in our body. We have to counteract those bad chemicals with good ones to dilute the effect. So I am going to try and find good things to make my world big enough to swallow up this hurt inside. Just my thoughts today. I am still really sad and heartbroken, but I still believe in me. God bless everyone on this site.

October 8, 2005
10:42 am
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hunny you have the right to be sad and hurt your girlfriend dumped you because she was in denile. You tryed your best and either she is not ready to face herself her past her present or she just wont you did what you could. Dont fill yourself with too much cause you will regret that sometime too because you will have no time for yourself. Give yourself time to feel the hurt and pain if you dont it will just wait for you and it will come to you when you least expect it. Things like this take time to heal from and i do suggest counseling to you to help get over this hurt and anger. and God bless you to sweetie
I hope you have a great day.

love
Julie

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