Avatar
Please consider registering
guest
sp_LogInOut Log In sp_Registration Register
Register | Lost password?
Advanced Search
Forum Scope


Match



Forum Options



Minimum search word length is 3 characters - maximum search word length is 84 characters
sp_TopicIcon
Roommate's Hygiene
May 3, 2007
1:36 pm
Avatar
2BHAPPY
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 41
Member Since:
September 24, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

I am having a terrible dilemma. A month ago I rented a room in my house and the lady seemed really nice and clean..good credit and all. Well, we are into the month now and I've just discovered that she doesnt take showers. Once in a while she will use a washcloth to clean herself. She gets up in the morning, brushes her teeth, dresses and leaves for work. I have been watching the bathroom for signs of water anywhere and nothing. Sometimes the washcloth is dry so that means that she doesnt even bother using that sometimes. Her bed sheets have not been changed either and I dont know how to tell her that they need washing. I have a big house so its not like she is close to me and I have to smell her or anything like that. She is going through a divorce so she keeps herself very busy and is hardly at home.

This morning she took her retainers and was washing them in my kitchen sink and I nearly fainted.

There are other things she has done that shows her lack of good hygiene which I am kind of fanatic about.

How do I deal with this problem?

 

 

2bHappy

May 3, 2007
2:15 pm
Avatar
StronginHim77
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 453
Member Since:
September 30, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

There is really nothing you can do about her lack of hygiene, other than requiring that the sheets be washed regularly, to prevent them getting yellow. If she chooses not to bathe, you can't do anything about it.

You mention that she is going thru a divorce. Sometimes, depression causes people to "shut down" in their personal appearance/hygiene efforts. Sometimes, it is due to a mental condition, such as a personality disorder or manic depression. And, it can also be due to a lack of proper training/upbringing.

Bottom line: if she is damaging your home, smells bad around you and/or your furnishings, or you have legitimate concerns about potential damage to your linens, property, etc., then speak to her about it. But you cannot control what she chooses to do for herself, if it is not affecting you.

If she is staying there without any lease, (month-to-month), and you really can't handle living around someone like that, then give her 30 days notice and tell her you have rented the room to another tenant, effective the 3lst day of your notice.

You might need some legal advice on this, since "eviction" laws vary from State to State.

- Ma Strong

May 3, 2007
2:21 pm
Avatar
risingfromtheashes
st regis falls, ny
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 14
Member Since:
September 24, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

is it her bed and linens? if so, even then you can't say anything.

But, here's a thought...could she be showering somewhere else?

Does she go to the gym? Perhaps she is showering after her workout.

Does she have a boyfriend? Perhaps she is showering there.

Perhaps she feels funny showering in someone else's home?

Her hygeine is really her business. If she is doing something unsanitary that affects the condition of your home in some way (not throwing away trash and attracting bugs or rodents in her room), then you can speak up.

There are some people that just don't bathe regularly...I can't wake up in the morning without a shower...but I know many that roll out of bed and into their clothes and out the door.

It's all personal preference...and if she was not showering, I wonder if her coworkers would notice and say something...since they ARE close enough to sniff her than you seem to be.

All in all, if it bothers you that much, maybe a new tenant is in order.

May 4, 2007
1:00 am
Avatar
smarterone
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 24, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

im thinking of getting a roomate too, but there are concerns also. besides cleanliness, privacy is a big issue. good luck.

May 4, 2007
10:35 am
Avatar
lettingo
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 30, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

I am dealing with something so similar!! I know it can drive you crazy. I rented a furnished sheets and all to a sweet young girl. Great side, she is rarely at home, pays on times but is a totally pig! Her room smell and I am almost postive although she does take showers, she hasn't once washed the sheets. I had a huge fight with her to put a mattress pad on the bed because she didn't have one and I know it was going to ruin my mattress. Her room actual has an odar that runs into the hallway. She has only once in six months ran a vaccum, sweep the floor or did ANYTHING. The only thing she had contribted to was buying a pack of paper towels. I've asked her to pick up other items, like zip lock bags, foil, etc. (all stuff she uses) but she just doesn't. ARRGHHHHHH The good thing is we only signed a six month lease and she moves out at the end of the month. I still need a roommate because I do need the money BUT I won't be so naive next time. My interview will clearly state they must be neat. I try to weight the good with the bad and like I said I do need the money and we hardly see each other so I was able to live with it for the most part. I am glad she is leaving.

Like someone stated, her hygiene is really her business unless it is affecting your home (i.e. odor, etc.). It sucks because you take it for granted people are clean and neat.

May 4, 2007
10:58 am
Avatar
gracenotes
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 24, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

I don't know if this is of any help, but I have had 5 roommates in my house over the past 5-6 years. Most were clean, most used the kitchen rarely (I guess they ate out a lot), and I did not have to deal with smells. But one would have never vacuumed.

My second roommate, had a housecleaner who she had at her previous home, and she asked me if I would like her to come to my place. I jumped at the chance, because I am always so busy with work and school. Even when the roommate left to buy her own condo, I continued to have now my housecleaner come in once a month and clean. My housecleaner does not change my sheets, but she used to change my roommate's sheets. That was part of what I offered my roommates and they all were okay with this. Housecleaner charges $60 a month, but it is worth it.

May 4, 2007
2:01 pm
Avatar
lettingo
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 30, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

That is a great idea. I've actually thought of getting a house cleaner but I am on a budget and I KNOW my roommate would NEVER pay anything towards it. Like I said, her only contribution in six months was a large pack of paper towels. Keep in mind she did use stuff just didn't think she should have to repace it. 25 days left til she leavse and counting!!! LOL

Forum Timezone: UTC -8
Most Users Ever Online: 349
Currently Online:
46
Guest(s)
Currently Browsing this Page:
1 Guest(s)
Top Posters:
onedaythiswillpass: 1134
zarathustra: 562
StronginHim77: 453
free: 433
2013ways: 431
curious64: 408
Member Stats:
Guest Posters: 49
Members: 111048
Moderators: 5
Admins: 3
Forum Stats:
Groups: 8
Forums: 74
Topics: 38581
Posts: 714357
Newest Members:
nickvoz, jron1945bas, juliaopty, uoi, jamescortes, rickymorgan3165
Moderators: arochaIB: 1, devadmin: 9, Tincho: 0, Donn Gruta: 0, Germain Palacios: 0
Administrators: admin: 21, ShiningLight: 572, emily430: 29

Copyright © 2020 MH Sub I, LLC. All rights reserved.
Terms of Use | Privacy Policy | Cookie Policy | Health Disclaimer | Do Not Sell My Personal Information