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Risingfromtheashes, hope you are well
October 22, 2006
6:33 pm
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lovingmom
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I haven't seen any posts from you lately and was just wondering how you are. How is the new job? Hope things are going well. Hope you and your daughter are adjusting well to your new place also.

October 28, 2006
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Bumping this up for you, rising. Thanks again for responding. It was great to hear from you. Let me know how YOU are.

October 28, 2006
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hey sweetie.

This is the first night I have had time to myself - well, not that I don't have me time, but people are always buzzing around me and I don't have privacy. I don't want others here to know about my "private place", so I can't catch up without kids, boyfriend or friends seeing what I am up to.

Anywho.....

I am doing well.

Living an almost drama free life. It's kind of "boring"....but good....takes some getting used to.

The "biggest drama" right now is that I have a new rental that is ALMOST done, but now find that the tub has cracks in it and I am afraid to use it, for fear of water damage to the substructures. It's a new unit and landlord is dragging feet about what to do about it. I emailed him (and kept copy of it myself) and told him that I would be putting tape over it and not take any responsibility for water damage.

I am anxious to unpack and settle in.

The new job is WONDERFUL. I shine like a star and that makes me feel good. I was hired to do millwork sales, but the kitchen consultant quit, so I was stuck in that position. Well, in five days, I wrapped up all the projects she has taken over a month to work on. I have sold four kitchens so far. The boss is pleased. It's not exactly what I want to be doing, but it's keeping me occupied and out of trouble and will pay the bills. If my success keeps up, I am going to ask for commissions.

My daughter has adjusted to school well. During her tour of the school, she ran into a few friends she already made, who welcomed her warmly. She went to her first dance here and had fun. She is making friends and learning who she likes and doesn't like. I am proud of her because she doesn't suck up to people or pretend to like them if she doesn't. She isn't mean to them either - just steers clear of them. This is an issue, as her best friend has a love/hate relationship with a little girl who is bad news...but doesn't know how to stay away from her. I am glad my daughter can judge wisely.

I started going to church with my boyfriend and his mom. This weekend will be the second time. I really like his mom and her friends, they are very funny and kind. Mom takes us out to breakfast after church. I am the first girlfriend she likes (only met one other) and I think this is the first time my boyfriend has attended church more than once in a row.

Financially I am still in a slump, as I don't get paid until Friday and have been here three weeks without a paycheck, but I am not stressing, I know I have money coming.

My boyfriend is depressed. And for the first time in my history....I can see that it's not about me. And I am not trying to fix it either. Nor am I stressing about it. Financially he's screwed right now. And frankly, it's a red flag that I need to pay attention to. I love him dearly, but frankly, if he doesn't get his head out of his ass and figure out how to make a steady paycheck, I won't be able to stay with him. I won't support a man who is capable of earning his own way....learned that one the hard way already. His depression and finances are hurting the relationship, but I am so focused on everything else that I need to do that it's not "killing me" like in the past. So, we'll see what he does about it. Life goes on and I am not stopping my life for him.

I can't wait to get unpacked and settled in. It is nice to come home and have people in the house and have someone to share dinner with and housekeeping responsibilities, but I like my alone time and miss it. I also miss having something to do, as all my "stuff" is packed. I don't enjoy sitting around watching tv, which is all that goes on around here right now.

My dad is on his way to Florida and mom will follow on Tuesday. I am upset that he didn't say goodbye to me or my daughter. I understand that he's hurting over us moving, but that's no excuse not to say goodbye to my daughter. I understand why he wouldn't say goodbye to me and have a thick skin. But my daughter is a different story. He was a first class asshole the night before I left, and he apologized to my brother for his behaviour that night. He also claims he is going to quit drinking. Whatever...not holding my hand on my ass for that one....been there, heard that. He won't cope with all the changes without the bottle...he's leaving all he's ever known for a totally new life and having to support my mom for the first time since they were married, and that's gonna hit him hard. He won't stay sober. The only good thing is that I won't have to witness it anymore, or be the brunt of his anger.

Thanks for asking about me and thinking of me.

October 28, 2006
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rising,
I am so glad to hear from you, I miss your wisdom!!
I am glad things are going so well for you and you are settling into your new life.
Unpack, get settled and visit us often!!!

Atalose

~~Hope has a place, but not above reality~~

October 29, 2006
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Rising - So glad to hear that things are working out. It's also great to hear that even though things aren't great with the boyfriend right now, you aren't carrying that burden. How wonderful for you. That must feel great. Sorry to hear that your dad was the way he was when you left. I know you expected that though. It sounds like things are going to be just fine in your life. I sure have missed your thoughts. As you can tell, my posts have been long and needy. Thanks for reading and for responding. You've been a great friend to me the short time I've been here and I appreciate you. Keep being the strong woman you are. You sound happy!!

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