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Repeated Domestic Violence?
October 21, 2001
6:04 am
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CaronCar
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I sympathise (having been in various "addictive" relationships, two of which were violent). But you had the strength to divorce him. You have made the leap from victim to being in control. You children will eventually thank you for that: mine did. I struggled financially for years but managed to get my kids through university and they are happy and successful now. Don't ever forget that you have shown enormous strength of mind. I don't suppose he has changed: it will only take a setback to trigger his abusive behaviour again. He has probably chosen someone who doesn't have your courage. I wish you well.

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October 22, 2001
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People who are in denial, (especially for some reason in the South and regarding abuse issues) they will always - paint this picture for you, in order to do - what it's doing to you...make you question yourself and your choices.

They can't accept responsibility for what's really up with this man and how they contributed to it, allowed it, or do it themselves, etc. - so now that you are on the outside - all the b.s. starts flying. Weak people hate strong people, so expect this. I know this human trait quite well. I was born and raised in the south. I know the game. It's crap. The slick coat of snot over what's really up. Yeah, yeah, whatever...

9.9 times out of 10 - that's not what's up - what they tell you. And she may be the little princess for awhile - but usually - it doesn't last long with someone like this. And, she may hide her bruises, her heartbreak and put up "good face" for quite some time. Control freaks get off on that, too. She dances for him, until he breaks her and then he's on to the next conquest.

Don't spend one minute of your precious time - buying into this. What they are doing is called - enabling, denying, and scapegoating everything off onto you....You were the one that made the marriage bad - by insinuation here. Some people are so good at this and do it with such a cute little smile...

I'd just laugh when stuff like this is said and go - Well, good for them, and time will tell, it always does. Or better yet, just laugh and say nothing. It really doesn't dignify a response and you shouldn't waste your time even thinking about it. Thank God you're away from him!

October 22, 2001
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Change, ha ha ha ha ha. Nope don't even think so. Let it go, say a prayer for her, her time is comming Be grateful, that it only cost you 75K, most people not only loose their souls, but some their life. I am sure it has been real hard for you, but it is over. Celebrate what you can, count your blessings, forget about his family, and him, keep moving foreward.

October 22, 2001
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Blondie...I've been there....completely understand. Not much people can do though when they come up against - confidence. It just bounces back to their court and slaps them in the face. Like I say alot...for some people to approve of you - is quite the insult.

Insecure people always play these stupid little games. Reminds me of being in 3rd grade. Leave them there. They will have enough to do - devouring each other.

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