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relationship problems PLEASE HELP
July 6, 2000
4:37 pm
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I have been with my b/f for over 6 months now. we had alot of difficulties in the last 3 and a half months. when we met he had a terrible drinking problem. He stoped drinking for our relationship. Now is been 3 and a half months now and i noticed he blows hot and cold and there is no inbetween. When we get along we really get along but when he is mad he puts up a wall and shuts me off. Then i let him cool down . later i will try to talk to him again about how i feel and he gets angry all over again. He thinks i blame him for every problem we ever had. i dont know how to communicate with him anymore. Any suggestions?

July 7, 2000
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Do you live together? Is this a situation which is a constent, or do you have a place away from him? Has he been in a treatment program for his alcohol use, and for anger management? What steps are you taking to keep yourself above his anger? Write more, please, so others can have a better understanding. Venting, and communication are excellent tools to use when things go awry.

July 7, 2000
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We have lived together for the last 3 months.I am looking for a counselor but there expensive. He hasent went to any AA meetings or support groups. He feels like there a waiste of time.

July 7, 2000
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Your fellow thinking meetings, help, support groups are a waist of time I believe is a form of deniel. Issues, life issues are quite common behind alcohol, drug abuse and just abuse in general. If he would give it a try, and get honest with himself, he'll discover that what he hears and see's is an image of himself, then the healing in recovery can begin. Deep seeded issues often follow when one gets sober and has the willingness to continue growing in healthy ways, something we all need in our lives.

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