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Relation Trouble
April 20, 2001
3:41 pm
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chanty
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I have been with the same man for 8 years and we are not married. I have two boys with this man. In the last 6 months we decided I would quit my job and stay home with the boys. I am a college graduate and have alway worked. Now I feel like such a maid and he treats me like on as well. I like my home clean and my child clean. But, I don't like pick up after him. Is that unrealistic? Also, I have no money he makes GOOD money, We have a nice home & nice vehicles. But, He think $50 a week should be enough for all the household and personal necessities (groceries, diaper, gas for my car....) I have got to a point where I feel I have told him how I feel so many times. I just want to get away from him. My complaint do not mean anything to him. I suggest I go back to work. But, that was not a good idea to him. I suggested couselling no not that either. He said, "Maybe you need couselling, but not me!" I almost hate him. and he thinks I should think everything is wounderful! Maybe I would be better off alone!

April 20, 2001
4:00 pm
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Ladeska
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Chanty......WHY are you staying and taking this? Can you think of any real good reason why? Do you like being treated like dirt? He's a bully - get the heck away from him. Nagging and whining and complaining - don't mean anything to him except aggravate him. He's got what he wants, now he just wants you to shut up and enjoy being his slave. So, uh......again.....whyyyyy??? are you taking this?? I don't feel sorry for you because I can tell - you know better, so DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!!

April 20, 2001
5:53 pm
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Next time you need grocieries and all that stuff...send him.

Be strong here. YOU KNOW you are not a maid. And NO it is not unfair for him to pick up after himself....sets a good example for the boys, you aren't his mom and he's an adult.

I agree with Ladeska...don't take the bullying. WIth a college degree you don't need to, do you.

Set your boundaries and stick to them.

If you allow him to crush your self esteem...he will just keep it up.

If you think all the love is gone leave. If you think you want to try to rescue the relationship you will need to stick to your guns and be strong.

April 20, 2001
6:31 pm
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If he won't go to the store alone, then you suddenly can't handle the two kids alone and get groceries. Make the list and take his ass for a reality check. There are plenty of ways to jerk his chain, and if that doesn't work, while he is at work, start interviewing sitters and day care, even part time work would help you. I think you should look into covering your self financially, these guys that like to stick around and not get married, even after the kids scare me, if it doesn't scare you. Are you on any joint accounts???? it could be all about covering his butt, in case ??????? or controll. Just don't cave in, he will walk all over you if given the chance.

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