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Rejection is a BEE-ATCH
June 16, 2004
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Karaoke Gopher
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As some of you know I have been broke up for over a month. I got over the anxiety and obsessive thinking. The one thing that seems to be lingering is the feeling of rejection, it is a deep wound. It is a feeling in the pit of my stomach and somtimes a crawling feeling up my spine. As always I am asking for all of your kind, generous help and imput. Thanks again. You guys are saving my life.

KG

June 16, 2004
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Hey KG I don't really know what to say except hang in there. I do understand how rejection feels and I know it hurst I can even relate with the feeling in the pit of your stomache..Just know you are special and when the time is right you will met and be with the right one. I realize that doesn't make today easier. I do believe that will happen and I do believe you are special.. Hang in there. Hugs to you KG.
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June 16, 2004
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kg....first off I love that saying "bee-atch" it kinda gives a giggle to the real word that it is! lol!!

Rejection, wow, I was once rejected from a many many eons ago, he was always complimenting me, and flirting, etc,,,,saw him on a friendship level for about 3 weeks, then, I decide to ask him out....and
he says NO, he was just getting out of a serious relationship and is not ready yet!! wow, I did not expect that, but trust me, I got over it.
Sometimes it sucks cuz you may think someone likes you, then bang, they
end up turning you down. I think the easiest way is when you meet a gal that you like, find out what she likes and dislikes and find out if she is looking for casual frienship or romance, and by your own insticts you could probably pick up on her vibe when you go for the kill and ask her out!!! good luck!!!

June 17, 2004
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Yeah, rejection can suck, but... never having taken a chance? That's what really makes you suffer... I remember the sting of some rejections, but what I remember more was the times that I did nothing about my feelings purely out of fear. For some reason there's more pain in that, and it's more drawn out.
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June 17, 2004
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i too can relate to rejection ( no i didnt just copy that from everyone else !)

and yeh asking someone out and them sayin no is bad, so is being told your a grunger and they dont even recognise you live. but atleasst you have experienced love and a relationship heres a quote from an email chainletter, very appropriate her i think " dont cry because it ended, smile because it happened " jus keep thinking of that, and an age old one " the glass is half full " look on the bright side, ride this like a wave on a surf board. dont let it drag you under

good luck 🙂

June 17, 2004
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Rejection can make the most confident person turn into a lost, uncertain mess.

I experience it everytime my b/f and I go thru our thing. He is really good at it too. I think he knows how it makes me feel and he uses it as a way to get back at me and "punish" me when he is feeling insecure.

Just know that you are worthy and this gut wrenching feeling will subside in due time.

Take care of yourself

Uptoolate

June 17, 2004
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thanks everybody,

I keep thinking how cautious I was when her and I started hanging out. I new she was newly divorced. It fact she even told me she was needy. I remember thinking "Ah-Ha" I can get her to fall for me" but here I am 2 years later being the one that fell for her bemoaning my mysery. Like I said in my first post, I'm over most of the symtoms. It's that bizzare, stupid feeling that is in the pit of my stomach. Yes, I think about her, but not obessivly like before, and I get sad, but not a deep depression. To tell you the truth I'm not sure what the feelings I am feeling. I just know there are times when I just don't feel good, physically, or emotionally. I think my esteem has suffured the brunt of this BS relationship. Anyway, it's over, right? I should let it go and move on. Keep busy and learn from the past. I know I'm heading down the right road. It just sucks hurting and feeling bad. I want to get to the point where I am kissing, hugging, and cuddling with my new G/F. I feel so lonely. Thanks for letting me share everybody.

(hands clasped at cheekside, head tilted looking at the sun-rise with a inspirational sigh) KG

ps sorry for the bizzare humor, I just get sick of myself sometimes,

😉

June 17, 2004
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ah KG... I'm here with ya man!! I fell hard for this man... only dated him for 2.5 months, but boy, did I fall hard. And he has since dropped off the face of the earth. I left one phone message, he did not return it. I emailed him a week ago, he has not responded. The rejection is really, really hard to take, especially because I truly thought he was SUCH a great guy!! He seemed upstanding in every way. My mind keeps going back to the things he said and did that made me feel so special... which of course makes the rejection that much more confusing and hard to take.

Anyway KG... hang in there. Without risk there is no reward. You took a risk, learned some lessons, as did I. Life has a mysterious way of working out. Even though we are stinging from this right now, eventually the reasons for our pain will be made clear to us, and we will see why we had to experience it. For myself... I am pretty sure that this was a lesson in learning how NOT to handle intense attraction for someone... to take things slowly and not try so hard to rush things to the next level. Hopefully I will have a chance to put these lessons to use in the future.

Chin up buddy... a good quote I read recently "Our thoughts control our emotions and our reality - not the other way around"... which to me means that if we can just find a way to change our thoughts, we can change our reality... I'm still working on it.

June 17, 2004
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KG!!! YOU GO BOY!!! you are doing great, take your time in getting over her and know that good things are coming your way, and eventually you will know when you find the right gal, things will fall into place, keep that head up high, keep smiling
and you'll be swamped by chicks soon
enough!!!

February 24, 2005
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im glad you mentioned that feeling in your stomach how silly of me i thought i had food poisning

February 25, 2005
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LOL

I am with you

all of you!

February 25, 2005
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Why, how did this post come up from June? Interessting, verrrry interesting.

February 25, 2005
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I just take what I can get

but yeah, it was kinda like a visit from the 3rd dimension, huh? 😉

okay, for real I am going to bed now.

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