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Question -codependency
October 27, 2008
6:15 pm
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sarahheather
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I am codempended. I am in a relationship for a while now and this has caused issues in the past. I thought that i had resolved it but recently i found it is rearing its ugly head again. My other half argues different from me, he is a man and he does the silent treatment and disapearing thing. I am the roarer and get it off ya chest person. I have changed that as i realised that it is not a good way to act. however he has not changed the way he gets when upset. before i just waited out till he calms down. But for some reason now, when this happens, i start to feel like it is the end of the relationship and i have to prepare for it. and when he is silent, it is agonising, when he goes to his friends without saying goodbye on a weeknight, it is agonising. I know this is codependency, i shouldnt feel so lost and frazzeled at this but these feelings are tearing me apart and I dont know what to do. Its not the actions he takes that i am concerned about, its my reactions to it. Why am i not stronger to be ok with this instead of feeling the rug has just been pulled out? how do i fix myself?

October 27, 2008
9:34 pm
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Why not just tell him how his silent treatment makes you feel. Explain to him that when he neglects to say goodbye it hurts your feelings and leaves you feelings confused.

I’m sure you will feel better prepared to handle those feelings after talking with him.

Atalose

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