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July 21, 2005
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Why is it that when reading about characteristics of survivors of childhood sexual abuse an aversion to water on the face and higher rates of asthma are listed?

July 22, 2005
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I am not sure i think with the whole asthma thing see with me i get it bad when i am intamite so i think it might be partly a physological thing. and with the water I have had my ex step father do his thing and go on my face so thats where that comes in at least for me

July 22, 2005
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(((((((((((RW2))))))))))))))))

July 23, 2005
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Could also refer to a feeling of sufficating or drowning (both asthma and aversion to water), such as when a guy is on top of you and you can't breathe, or when he is kissing you and you can't catch your breath or maybe if he forces your face into him or forces something into your mouth.

Not everyone who was sexually abused will have these aversions or feelings. It all depends on what the abuser did to you.

July 23, 2005
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Because the action(s) can suck the life out of you; the life of breath, freedom, violation of your privacy and inner spirit are suffocated.

Every person I know who has had some experience that was described here suffers in some form of respieratoru ailments and/or allergies.

Interestingly, when trying to research the parentage of my mother who was adopted, the orphanage listed four health items that were asked of the natural mother upon releasing the infant up for adoption. These were; TB, (tuberculosis), asthma, allergies, and cannot recall the fourth item. These were asked for medical reasons for the adoptive babies back in 1930s, as they believed they could be inherited.

Also, interesting, is abuse inherited with this? My family has both, the medical problems of asthma and allergies and abuse from my mother's side, who was abusive, in all four categories of abuse; (verbal, mental, physical and sexual).

Generation after generation, abuse is passed down. STOP THE CYCLE! is now a National saying. There truly needs to be more earnest research in this arena.

July 23, 2005
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Oh, now I remember. The fourth item the orphange asked was did the mother suffer from any skin disorders as psoriasis or exzema....and several members or my famiy have this, at least four generations.

I have read that there IS a correlation with asthma and severe abuse.

July 23, 2005
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I always wondered and couldn't figure out why the water on the face bothered me so much...I may have just been enlightened...Thank you!

July 23, 2005
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And do not EVER put your hand in my face or around my throat.........I will freak out and come out fighting! I used to have that "startle " effect if someone came up behind me unknowingly, or put their hand on my shoulder......that one I have pretty much overcome.

I wonder if the aversion of water also includes; embarrassment of body image, like not wanting to wear a bathing suit to expose too much skin or the fear of drowning when in a body of water like a pool that is too deep?

Pretty heavy thread here. Been trying to Google some research and articles. Not much so far. I did find this link:

http://health.ivillage.com/men...../mhabuse/0,,wbnews_7qzb0cmh,00.html

as interesting that one study found 38% perpetuators as female. This makes sense as my mother abused both the females and the males. Just not information about the female perpetuator, is mostly about the male perpetuators and female victims.

July 23, 2005
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Capt1212,

I'm not really sure. I am an adult survivor and neither of those things are a problem for me. However, without being too graphic, what Random described is a huge problem for me or anything else that I deem disrepectful.

I would have to agree with TheWall in that I think it depends on what was done to the person being abused.

Lolli

July 24, 2005
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My therapist noted that persons who were aboused also sometimes gag when brushing their teeth, especially if oral sex was "required". Also a fear of suffication is very strong with me.
NO,playing under the covers for me! 🙂
I too have the "startle effect" and X2 got a kick out of coming up and scaring me.I too will fight to the death someone to put their hands near my throat or a "neck lock". Some is from that and some from working in a prison system for over 5 years. I tend to have a larger than average "personal space" and highly resent anyone in it. I also HATE for someone to talk to me while I'm sitting and they are standing, sorta towering over me so to speak...I get really defensive and nervous about that.

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