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q for the ladies -what keeps a man intrested in a marriage
February 16, 2006
1:55 am
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just curious iam trying but not getting no where with hubby and my u know life is down the drain so now what i think its my weight that bothers him but with not really doing anything about it its been really hard and iam depressed

February 16, 2006
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chloey---i can't tell you what keeps a man interested in marriage. but i can tell you that if he has a problem with your weight, that is HIS problem. a lot of men use that as an excuse to not be faithful or to get out of a situation. i'm not going to bash men on here because there are a lot of great men out there. i will, however, say that it is all about the committment. just as many women use weight as an excuse as men, but if he is committed to you and your marriage, it won't make any difference. as for you being sad or depressed about it---if your weight bothers you--it's up to you to do something about it. you can't lose weight to keep a man........you have to do it for you. and yes, i'm speaking from experience here. and i'm trying to lose weight myself. my fiance keeps telling me he loves me just like i am--i keep telling him that it isn't about him--it's about me.

February 16, 2006
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I think maybe you should direct this question to the men.

February 16, 2006
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my bf loves me the way i am, and i am not skinny by far, and not fat, maybe a few pounds extra........he even told me if i weighed 300lbs he would love me.......

Chloey.....maybe YOU think he doesn't like it cuz you have a few extra pounds...you don't know for sure, talk with him and let him know and talk about your marriage, you may find out some surprising info.

good luck, love, Camer

February 16, 2006
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Chloey,

there are many men out there that are misguided enough to love a person because of what they look like.

there are many more who see the beauty of the person on the inside and love them for that.

physical beauty is only skin deep. your physical looks could change at a moment notice - have an accident - get sick and have surgery - get old and lose your hair or it goes gray - get dentures....the list goes on....age ALWAYS changes a person's looks....we can't stay young and blemish free, wrinkle free, and skinny all our lives.

Perhaps the insecurities come from inside you. Perhaps your husband has issues that have nothing to do with your weight - but because you are worried about your weight - you assume that's what he is worried about too. You need to talk to him and tell him you feel like there is a problem and want to know what he is thinking and feeling. YOu can tell him that you think it's cuz of your weight - but listen and hear HIS answer - it may be related, it may not be.

The only way to know how he is feeling is askign him and being open to the answers.

and for the record, I am 230 lbs and my boyfriend loves me at any size - he sees the person inside and that's what he wants to marry - not the cover of the book.

February 16, 2006
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What I've heard from my male friends who are happy in their marriages (and yes, there are a few!) is that they find that their wives keep on surprising them. No, not like baking cakes or buying them presents. But in continuing to take an active interest in the world, in having their own opinions about things, in being curious, in having other interests besides the home and the children. Having outside interests keeps a woman sparky, and it's that sparkiness that continues to keep a husband wanting to be a friend and partner. 🙂

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