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Put Cats To Sleep-Depressed
December 16, 2001
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Since my son was born 4 years ago, I didn't take my responsibility to care for my 6 cats. My Mom comes over and feed them since she know I'm not doing any responsibility. I don't know why I'm not taking care of them. Before I had my child, I used to love my cats so much that I treat them like my children. I often take them to the cat show and won some. I groom and treat them like a royal family. But now, I don't understand myself why I don't care about them. Just this afternoon, I took them to humane society and I just still couldn't give up because I was crying so hard that I threw up. I changed my mind and took them back home with me. But they're still in my van, inside their cage. A few mins ago, I just went over to my mom's house and told her to be please take care of my cats and gave her my check for vet to put them to sleep. Now I'm sitting on my desk, typing to you, and feeling like a murderer. I feel so awful and depressed. Tell me why I went from good to bad person? I don't understand myself anymore.

December 16, 2001
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please dont worry, dont feel alone, we're with you, ok.
hmmmm. Wha about donating the cats to a shelter? Or keep your favourite one and put the rest to sleep. or donate some and keep the one you like.
a child is a responsibility, so its ok .. u probably didnt have enough time for the cat, thats fine!
if you already put them to sleep, even then its not a proble,. they're going to die anyways one day .. right? putting to sleep is just "putting to sleep". just imagine they're now in cat heaven.
good luck :). dont feel alone please, we're with you. *hug*

December 16, 2001
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Gigi, I can't answer why the sudden change in your attitude towards your cats. I'm wondering a couple things though. Like, are you caring for your son responsibly? Is he getting the care he should be getting? Are you in a depressed funk and not taking care of the cats or your son? If you are caring for him, then maybe 6 cats is just too much for you. Is it possible to give say, 3 or 4 to your mom, or to friends, and you keep 2?
I hate to see them put to sleep, but I also hate to see them abused because you don't care for them anymore.

Depression can make you not want to get out of bed, eat, care for yourself, let alone cats. Even though you loved them. And that's why I ask about your son...he definitely needs to be cared for and loved, he can't suffer the consequences of your depression. You may need to see a doctor, try to get to the bottom of your lack of interest. I'm sure you still love your cats, I can understand your crying and not wanting to give them up. And I'm sure you are still a good person, but depression is a real mind bender, it just takes our brains and makes everything so fogged up and hard to explain. Depression takes what once was simple for us and makes it very confusing and just too much to deal with.

I suggest that first you take a good look at yourself and whether you need a doctor or some other help. If you can't beat the depression on your own, get help. Second, take a good look at your son and see how he is living with your depression and if he is okay. Third, try to figure out a way to let the cats survive, if not with you, with someone else.
Take care, and don't be so hard on yourself. Many of us find that depression gets the best of us sometimes and we can't seem to find the real person in us that we once knew. Get help, you'll be okay. Keep in touch.

December 16, 2001
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Wow, I'm such a cat person, but also such a kid person too. Of course your son comes 1st, but children and animals do not deserve abuse. I also don't agree with putting cats down unless they are very ill. I had a cat for 16yrs and we had to put her down 5yrs ago. It was a tough choice, but we knew it was her time and were pretty certain it was what she wanted as she was running away (never had before) and we were finding her under bushes further in the neighborhood.
It sounds like you were a major cat person at one time. I don't know if it's too late, but if they could go to a shelter that would at least give them a chance at a decent life. How is your son dealing with all of this? Are you being treated for your depression? How are you not taking care of cats. Feeding? or the litter? Cats are relatively independent creatures (at least compared with dogs and children). If they go outside, you almost don't need to have a litter inside. Maybe place an ad in the paper that you are giving them away. In the meantime, plan consistent feeding times (2x/day) and cleaning out the litter is maybe once a day or every other depending on where it is in the house. Also see someone about the depression if you aren't already. I'm sorry you are so overwhelmed. I am too lately, but in a different way. I just don't want to clean my house or put up decorations, I am not responsible for any living beings and am sad about that too.
Good Luck!
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December 17, 2001
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Possibly you felt a part of you in those cats and loved them and cared for them so much, showed them off, won prizes etc......... In a way those cats were part of your being, your soul, that when you gave birth to your child you "changed" a part of your life dissolved, like a sacrifice, but you gained something far better, your child. The mere existance of the cats were a constant reminder of your prior self. You are just putting physicality to your emotions. If the cats are'nt there than you can stop mourning for your old life and start with the new one, your child!!!! Far better things will come of this.

December 17, 2001
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They haven't put to sleep yet, as they are still in cages and in my mother's car. She was going to take them to the vet this morning today, but guess what? They are now in my home. Why did I changed my mind? I had a restless night last night - all I think is my cats I realized they were my children when I was young and they were my best friends when I didn't have anyone back then. They made me happy. Also, I realized that I will regret it for the rest of my life if I put them to sleep. I would not ever forgive myself. I did went to humane society last night and they have cages outside that I can drop them off and lock them up, but in my mind, I'm seeing "execution/death row" for them to go thru. I can't accept it and realized that if I do that, I feel like I'm a murderer and my cats have NO good reasons to be killed. As for my son, he is well-taken care of. I promised myself, as of today, that I will take better care of them. I know some of them are older and they won't lives long. Some of you said that I can keep 2 or 3 and rest to go someone's else or put to them - I can't do that because it wasn't fair to my other cats while I keep the others. I decided to keep all of them and take better care of them. Thanks, to all of you, for making me realized it. I am glad that I'm here and know that you have helped me.

December 17, 2001
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GiGi,

🙂 I'm glad that you didn't have them put down. Perhaps you can find a new home for some of them and keep just one or two? Older cats can adjust to a new home pretty well, I got mine at the age of eleven and now he's sixteen and still boss of the whole neighborhood :-).
If you can find new owners who'll take a pair of your cats then they won't feel lonly. Just give it a try.

And: having a young child is a lot of stress. All the young mothers I know have done one or the other rather odd thing. A friend of mine who is a judge (she finished 1st of her year at university) said that she competely stopped thinking sensibly for the first half year after the birth of her fist child :-). There is also this post partum depression thing. All the hormone changes make your mind go blank and some women really fall into a dark mist. Don't hesitate to talk to your doctor about that if you still feel overwhelmed and not going anywhere.

December 17, 2001
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Blondie do not be mad at me, I was under the asumption that they were at her mothers and were going to be givin away not murdered. I have a cat that is my nightwatchman and I need her for my sanity. LOL here I am the one who cannot even clean her house and is about to be committed again just have to wait for my psych appt tomorrow to see if I am still in crisis. I am scared,..........................................................................................................

December 17, 2001
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Blondie 🙂 you know i am a cat lover too. i cant wait to keep a cat
but see. i was trying to help Gigi. u have to understand, shes feeling so burdenend. i told her all the options.
putting to sleep is an option right? otherwise, why would it be there, if it was thought of as wrong? you could then fight against all vets who put animals on death row.
if you think so, you could also save *urself* from being a mass murderer: adopt all the cats that are scheduled for deathrow in your own town !!
so, come on! save their lives as well!

i was trying to help her. i told her she could give away her cats or other options: she mentioned sleep. so well i'm glad now that shes keeping them back.

December 17, 2001
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Blondie, I didn't put my cats into sleep yet. I changed my mind when I woke up from an awful nightmare while they were still in cages in my van overnight. I was dreaming that I was sent to hell for being a murderer to all of my cats, for no reason. It was terrible and frightening. I know I will regret it for the rest of my life if I had done it.

But YES, I decided to keep it because you guys made me seriously realized it. ALSO, one of my cats, inside her cage, looks SO sad and said to me "Please don't hate us, we love you". I cried. Thanks, guys, for made me saving their lives. I learned my lesson and won't ever forget this.

December 17, 2001
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well we could go on endlessly, but all i'll say that you're very kind to offer to keep the cats yourself. atleast gigi has that option now :).
dont compare the killing of humans to killing of animals. can you kill a human for food? no, duh.
you can survive on vegies, right, so why not forget eating meat? you could be saving an animal's life, right.
its not practical to let chickens lead "normal" chicken lives. It'll take a lot of time, space and money to do that. Millions of chickens are slaughtered everyday. just like you cant afford to adopt all the cats in *your* town, in the *same* way, the chicken industry cant afford to let chickens lead normal free lives (which are not in a box).
If you are all for animals rights, then stop eating stake. Its not going to kill you.
I just talked yesterday to a girl who is a vegie.

December 17, 2001
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🙂 hehe. ok cool. yea the cats are free now

December 17, 2001
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hehe. ahaan, sorry to hear u ate garbage, but u know what. ur just as healthy as madonna, i bet even more healthy!
as for me, i'm so used to being hungry all the time.
its 6 pm and what have i had till today? a bowl of cornflakes, and 2 cups water. haha.
now i'm gonna have 2 burritos, for 66 cents, and that'll be my dinner! i have no more food left, will buy tonight.
ofcourse i;m underweight, 130 pounds for 5'8 male, thats low! i;m waiting for a job so i can eat all i want to
hehe. yea i was thinking u;d say vegies are also living creatures.
so hmmmm, whats left than! i could cook up my old computer. or could i hehe.
i see ur holding on tightly to ur stake! heh

December 17, 2001
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I am amazed also, I thought I was talking to a girl.

Blondie... you garbage eater!!;}

I did flash one girl in the "bin" I snuck her a peek at my rings when the desk people were not looking. I was not going to let them take my new rings away. They did take away all the other stuff though.

psst. my cat is not really a cat, ahe is a Katarina and she is one of me. I am a foursome! SHHHHH it is a secret.

December 17, 2001
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whoa, you thought i was a girl! WAAAAAAA

December 18, 2001
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hehe. i was'nt offend, just kidding. 🙂 but wondering how i was a girl to you. ur right, most ppl here are girls.

December 18, 2001
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December 18, 2001
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GiGi, Blondie, gypsygirl and guest_guest--

What a wild and rambling thread!!!

First, GiGi--I too offer a home for your cats if ever you feel the need:
[email protected]; Too many animals are considered disposable down here but we have shelters here that DO NOT euthanize and I know people that work with the shelters as foster parents until critters are adopted!!

There are a lot of things that are legal BUT that doesn't make them moral.

I sometimes wish everything was black and white--these shades of gray really CAN drive you crazy--you just have to follow your heart, kids--eat meat or not--eat garbage or not--all that is out of necessity--we all gotta eat--but we have an obligation to take a moral stand when it comes to harming intentionally--we were left in charge of this planet and we are required to be responsible and do the best we can under the circumstances--if we are in a situation that we have just got to get out of--we follow the kindest, most humane path out of that situation.

OK, NOW I'll lighten up. So, it seems that we really are going to have a masquerade party after all. As, the Kinks once sang--"girls will be boys and boys will be girls". They didn't say anything about aliens.

Artist:)

December 18, 2001
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Hey,

over here our laws say that it is forbidden to hurt or damage any mammal (unles you have valid reasons for doing so...). So putting down cats just because they are inconvenient would be considered illegal. Wereas slaughtering a cow to eat is would be considered legal because this is a valid reason.

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