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Protecting your child from Sexual Abuse!
November 17, 2005
7:27 am
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Hello Friends,

I noticed many of you were abused sexually or have history of someone beloved in their family who suffered from sexual abuse. Hence, I am posting this thread hoping it will be helpful to those who need it and those who might use it as helpful tool to further protect the innocent ones!

Have great day!

~Ras~

Protecting Your Child from Sexual Abuse

Because the incidence of childhood sexual abuse is so prevalent, education and awareness of the facts and risks can help you to protect your family. Following are some tips to keep your children safe:

- Teach your child about touch. There is a difference between safe touch and touch that doesn't feel right. Make sure your toddler knows that no one should touch his private parts. Let your child know that he can say no to anybody who wants to touch him.

- Let your child show affection to friends and family members on his own terms. Don't make him kiss or hug someone.

- Let your child know early on that secrets are not okay. Most offenders try to trick children into thinking they can't tell anyone about what is happening because it is a secret. If your child knows that keeping secrets is not okay, he will know that something is wrong.

- Trust your child. Children don't lie about abuse. If your child tells you that someone touched him and it didn't feel right, believe him!

- Remember that most perpetrators are people that you or your children are familiar with. The statistics show that it is not strangers we have to be aware of, but people who our children are taught to trust.

- Teach your child the proper names of body parts. You can begin by using the words vagina and penis during diaper changes. Having the right words to use makes communication between parents and children easier.

November 17, 2005
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Ras,
Unfortunately all the talking, while good, does not protect your kids from abuse. I had done all this and it still didn't keep my 3 year old from being molested, by another child no less.

What happened though, was that he was able to articulate to me what had happened and I was able to keep him away from this particular child and not allow anything further to happen. So talking did help some, it kept a bad situation from getting much worse, but it did not "protect" him.

Sometimes, no matter how hard we try, or how much we pray that something will never happen to our child, it still happens.

November 17, 2005
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Mamabear,

Sorry honey for what happened to your precious son. At least you've done your homework toward your child and taught him what to do/expect and how to behave.

Remember it could have been worse than than.

My niece got incited to have b/f in her church by the pastor who instigated her to have b/f and have some fun while her mon, my sister, went to run some errands.

When my sister confronted that pastor, he denied. My sister did something very wise by running away from that church, she lost trust and faith in that church and pastor. Imagine when you trust your church's day care center to take care of your child so that you can do some errands.

No place is safe even churches. So, perhaps MamaB this is an opportunity for you to learn to forgive this child and ask your son to forgive him, and be more vigilant and change his school.

~Ras~

November 17, 2005
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Ras,
I've already forgiven the child, he is a victim too.

And they don't go to school together, we live by them. They are not allowed to play near one another any more.

I am definitely more vigilant since this happened!

Mamabear

November 17, 2005
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MamaB, Well-done, very wise and sensible behavior. If I were you, I would do just the same. Yes, I agree most people who do it are victims, esp if they are kids.

Wishing you kid and all the other kids safety in their life!

~Ras~

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