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problems in marriage
May 11, 2001
4:31 pm
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chula
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I was raped when I was a child by one of my family members and this person used to wake me up in the middle of the night to start molesting me. Now in my marriage every time my husband wants to have sex and tries to wake me up by touching my intimate parts, I feel as if I am getting rape. What can I do to get over this problem and can have a good sexual relationship with my husband?

May 13, 2001
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hi
you may try to meditate with slow music every everning.it will help in your mind tension in your past.You must start looking at your husband in the other forms as a person who loves you more then anyone.or the other way is by talking to a person that will be willing to hear your problem.you must always release problem from your hearth then only your feelings will be stabel.in the sence of takling to a person msut be te person whom you will not be worried to tak openly to him.past experience are always the things that humens always remember.
so don`t worry ,wish you good luck in your marrige live.you may write to me if you want to express your feelings.([email protected], [email protected])my name is amarjit from malaysia.

May 13, 2001
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Dear Chula
Does your husband know of your past? If you haven't told him, you should consider it. He may be supportive and try not to attempt intimate relations in the middle of the night. I would also suggest that you seek the advice of a counselor. Child molestation is a serious problem. It can be very hard to understand and come to grips with what has happened. When a family member you trust and love in a position of power over you is very hard to understand why it is they did what they did. I should know my older brother did it to me. I took me a very long time to deal with it. I trusted him and admired him and he took advantage of it. When I finnally told my parents I don't think they believed me. But thats ok I don't need them to believe me I know what happened and so does he. I finnally got him to appoligize to me for what he had done. We both were childred and I don't think he even knew what he was doing. My brother is 4 years older than me. I can understand where you are coming from. I have told my husband about what had happened and he is very understanding. You could be very surprised by the love of a spouse. He may even be willing to attend some counseling sessions with you so he may be able to understand what it is you are going threw. Drop me a line and let me know how you are doing.
lisa

May 14, 2001
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janes
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Talk to your dr or to a counselor.

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