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prayers and updates
March 16, 2006
3:27 pm
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Well here I am again. As you all can probably tell in the difference ffrom my last posts to the current, my overall mental stability and thinking has greatly improved. I've come to the realization of my problems, depression, alcohol, codependance. Between meetings, The Big Book, and co-dependant no more, and through all the support and help you all have givin me things are progressing nicely for me. I Thank You ALL. the positive and negative comments have all been a great help in making me realize that I was one of the most controlling, insensitive and angry people I could have ever met. I had kept the abuse that I suffered as a child repressed, and never talked about it at all, sometimes to my wife but never really came to terms with it to myself. Its a long battle and I'm taking things one step at a time. I've come to realize the hurt and damage that I may have done to my son just as my father had done to me and I dont want that, I'm useing that as a learning experience and example of how not to raise my child. I only hope it's not to late. He is 13 and is now really liking the way dad is turning out. Its been 16 days now and the improvement is slowly sinking in. Self realization and education has been a God-send. and I am really glad I found this site. I've stopped obsessing over my wife and the seperation and those thoughts have decreased. I cant MAKE her want me back and would not want to cause her the grief we had in the past unless all is right, after all who wants a relationship based on someone forced to try to love someone. by the time I've recovered hopefully I wont cause that previous pain to some new love in the future. I dont know how to express this to my wife (maby I'll let her read this sometime in the future. Once again I would like to thank all. I dont know what the future has to offer in the way of Life, Love and happiness, all I know is that everyday I become more and more happy with myself and can deal much better with the day to day grinds. Pray for me, my son and my wifes healing. Once again Thanks.

March 16, 2006
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((((((Pugs))))))))) Congrats for all the hard work you have been doing to get your life on track! I don't know your story, but just reading this post is so encouraging. I will pray for you and your family. I also have a 13-yr old son who is the love of my life. And no, it is NEVER too late to turn things around!

Keep us posted, and way to go!!!!

Love, plz~

March 17, 2006
12:29 pm
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plz, here alittle bit of the story.
My first time here so here's my story and question. I've been married for 15 years, currently seperated for 4 months because of my codependency. we have done this cycle several times through the years, seek counseling, and get back together. Untill now no counseler had been able do "diagnos correctly" till now. I'm in counseling and feel my life changeing for the better. My wife says she loves me but isn't able to let me now if divorce is out of the question. is there something I can say or do to find out where she stands, and do you think I'm just rushing this. I really would not want to loose her and would like her to see the real me. (i do have relapses to the controlling, smothering behavior) but those times are becomming fewer and farer between. any suggestions.

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