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October 12, 2006
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I got this e-mail from my sister. I don’t want to burden any of you, but if you can think of any questions we should be asking, I’d appreciate your insight.

Also, prayers for my mom's health and salvation appreciated.

"Dr. Riachi wants to talk to both Mom and me, but because none of us has three-way calling, he will have to talk to us individually. Mom wants me to call Riachi (after 1 p.m. when his hospital rounds are over) and then call her with the information.

So, without knowing what I'm going to hear, any questions you want me to ask? Jill, you wanted to know whether or not Mom had a full body scan to see if the cancer had metastasized anywhere else. I'm also going to ask about bringing in an oncologist. If you can think of anything else, e-mail me before 1 p.m.

October 12, 2006
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Hi jastypes, I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this with your mom and family. Cancer is such a frightening word these days. Do you know what type of cancer she has?
I can only suggest that you research online the type and maybe from reading about it you will come up with questions that you have. My thoughts to you and yours.

October 12, 2006
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My mom was diagnosed with cervical cancer last year. She had a complete hysterectomy. She hates doctors, and had been bleeding for 2 years before she went to one. The cancer was advanced, but they felt they had gotten it all. They suggested she see an oncologist for follow-up radiation and/or chemotherapy. She told us she did, but we have since learned she did not.

We know that the cancer is back, at the top of her vagina, with infiltrates into her colon. She had another test last week to determine the extent of colon involvement, and I guess he will be giving us those results today.

The doctor was talking about a surgery that would remove her bowel and bladder. She's 73 year old, and I'm not sure she would or even should put herself through that. She lives alone and is used to being completely independent.

October 12, 2006
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hey jastypes....

type "questions regarding cancer" in yahoo search and there are many many to choose from. Scroll down till you see one that pertains to your mom's type and i'm sure you'll find all kinds of things you'll wnt to ask the doc.

Hang in there.

October 12, 2006
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too much information. my head is spinning. i'm seriously thinking of calling my doctor to refill my xanax, but I think that's probably an escape plan.

October 12, 2006
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Wow, that sounds pretty rough for you and your mom and family. I don't like doctors either so I can sympathize with your mom on that.

It does sound like an onocologist who specialized in this type of cancer is a good start.

Have you ever did three way calling? My daughter is the one who starts it. Because she knows how to do it I let her do it. I thought everyone had the capacity of three way calls? I am no expert on that as well but wouldn't it be helpful for all to listen together. I am no good at relaying conversations. I am more a visual person. Some people are audio. Anyway, you said that wasn't an option so sorry to expand on it.

My heart goes out to you. My mom is 75 and I know the envitable does happen eventually for all of us. Is your mom still capable of making decisions for herself? Her mental capabilities are sharp? My father was told he had prostate cancer in 95 and he decided to do nothing. My step father as well. Research is extremely important in making informed decisions. My Best to you.
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October 12, 2006
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I just read your post. Information and the internet can spin your head. I am just thankful it is so much easier than in the past.

Maybe you can let it go and take a walk and recharge your battery.

October 12, 2006
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If she opted for surgery and had to have her bowel and bladder removed would she have to have a permanent bag? TS has some personal knowledge of what her dad goes through from a botched surgery. You might want to talk to her about it.

October 12, 2006
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Yes, she would actually have a colostomy bag and a urotomy bag. Somehow I can't imagine her taking care of all of that.

October 12, 2006
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Here’s what my head does.

Best case scenario: Sorry, it was all a mistake. There is no cancer, never was. She has a yeast infection. Can you beat that? No hospitals, no surgery, no chemo, no radiation. Take this pill and you’re cured!

Worst case scenario: There is nothing more we can do for your mom but make her comfortable for the next couple of months that she has to live.

And everything in between. I do tend to drive myself crazy.

October 12, 2006
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Hugs, jastypes. I don't have any suggestions but I understand to an extent what you're going through.

I've had so many relatives with cancer I'm left with the belief that it's a matter of when, not if, it happens to me too. However, I think only two family members actually died from it. The others are either still alive, beat it, or in my grandmother's case, managed it so well that she lived until 90 before an unrelated stroke took her instead.

My FIL had to have a colostomy bag for a while because of diverticulitis. He was able to manage it fairly well. Part of aftercare is training the patient or a caretaker how to manage ostomy bags. I would imagine if your mother has a hard time with this and nobody else close can do it, that they might have someone come out and do this for her.

It's hard not to go between extremes of what could happen - I do it all the time. I think it's our mind's way of trying to be prepared for anything.

October 12, 2006
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I've got "mother" issues coming up out of nowhere and taking my mind everywhere.

October 12, 2006
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You can call your local phone company, number on your bill and see if you have 3 way, or tell them to put it on. you dont need it but the person who does have it only has to call you.
I dont see why you shouldnt fill xanax, unless you are abusive with it. I dont see why you shouldnt feel ok, during this. You have to be real, there is only one other thing to do, pray for strength. Your mom will not be able to handle it if she sees you hurting. God bless you

October 12, 2006
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Im hoping for the best for your mom, Jastypes! This is gonna be a family call. You shouldnt have to face it alone. It looks like your mom is pretty decisive having given up on chemo and all. She may have an advanced cancer but even so many years ahead and some surgery may be worth it.

My mom had advanced colon cancer and quit on chemo but lived well for six months due to pain administration. My grandma who passed away at 91 had a colostomy and a bag for a couple of her last years. She hated it because she had been very independent and had to rely on help for main changes of the patch. She finally gave in to have someone living with her.

Hope you have just a few but good questions to start with if the doctor is not an oncologist.

Wishin you well and looking forward to hearing good news!

October 12, 2006
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jastypes -

Yes. I will pray for your mother, for her salvation and -- very importantly -- your peace and strength during these difficult days. You have so many decisions to make and it is hard to choose which "path" to follow when you are addressing ANY type of cancer. My heart really goes out to you. Please don't feel alone. We are all here for you. Keep us posted?

God bless and encourage you and your mother today...

--StrongInHim

October 12, 2006
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Thank you for your prayers. The news from the doctor is not horrible. Her full body scan revealed that her cancer has not metastasized. She will have to have pretty extensive surgery, and will end up with a colostomy, radiation and chemotherapy, but she seems to be willing to put up a fight for her life. She has an appointment with another surgeon next week, as the one she has is not allowed to touch the colon.

October 12, 2006
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Jastypes, Im so glad for you and your mom. Living with the bag is not fun but I knew a girl that had to wear one. She grew up to be a doctor and the only thing she complained was that she wanted to wear a bikini so I guess she took it off cuz she wore a bikini. She also lived alone. Now its different at your mother´s age but its doable. I also know people who took out the colon besides my mom. They did in time to be out of the woods (guess 5 years) and work at a gas station. Hey, another great story. A woman wanted children but had ovarian cancer. Before she took the last ovary she collected some ovules (sp?) and had a woman generate her two babies. So medicine did come a long way. All the best!

October 12, 2006
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Thanks for letting us know. Take Care of Yourself and know that you are cared about.

October 19, 2006
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Jastypes -

Please keep us posted on your mother's progress and how well you are holding up to all this worry and heartache?

- Strong

October 19, 2006
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Strong, thank you for checking in. My mom has her appointment today with the surgeon. Prayers appreciated. I'll update when I hear something. I hope she likes this surgeon and gets her surgery scheduled quickly before any further spread.

As for her faith, she told me when I saw her on Sunday that she might be able to believe in Jehovah,"the Jewish God," but can't believe that God would send his son to die on the cross. She also said she can't believe that a loving God would condemn people to eternal torment. I couldn't argue with her because I'm just too emotionally close. But admitting to praying and believing in Jehovah is a HUGE step for my mother. Prayers are having an effect.

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October 19, 2006
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The surgeon my mom say today said he couldn't tell her what the extent of the surgery would be until he had her on the operating table. That's Partial bowel resection vs. extenteration (removal of EVERYTHING, including entire bowel and bladder). So... it's more waiting. She's going to see a doctor in New York that my sister recommended.

October 19, 2006
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jastypes -

God is right there with you, in the midst of this. I will keep praying. He is Jehovah Rapha - "God The Healer."

October 20, 2006
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Prayers up for you and mom.

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