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Powerless over other's actions
October 19, 2001
8:40 pm
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ejk
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Today, I came home to a message from my alcoholic neighbor saying that I was the worst freind she ever knew and that I stepped over a boundary way too far and that she wanted nothing to do with me. I was deeply hurt.
The words stemmed from something I did for her in regards to a dog she wanted so badly- we finally had the opportunity to save a dog from its home hell at a cost that I would supplement.
I know I am powerless over alcoholism- but why does it hurt? How do you live next door to each other and ignore that person. I actually fear her wrath and I know that what I did was not a "bad" thing?
Thanks- needed to vent

October 19, 2001
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Just know its the booze talking, and its not you, don't take it personal, alcoholics, and drug addicts take any and all hostages that they can. She is obviously a deeply hurting person, that is self medicating, it has absolutely nothing to do with you, so turn your hurt into pity and love for her, reach out tell her as you see it, if you choose to get that involved,

October 19, 2001
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Thanks Molly,
It just hurts when someone says such mean things. I tried to talk with her, but she closed the door on me saying that I was way out of hand.
I know what I need to do, but it doesn't take the awkwardness away.
I know she is sick and leads a pathetic life. I have let her get away with so many things and then her stepping over my boundaries all the time. I just wished that I had had the courage to say- I don't want to deal with her. And the thing is is that I kind of got what I wanted. I didn't want her over all the time and I didn't want to worry about the safety of that little dog.
So it is a good thing- but the hurt!!
Thanks, am stuck at school so have plenty of time to dwell online when I needed an academic break.

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