Avatar

Please consider registering
guest

sp_LogInOut Log In sp_Registration Register

Register | Lost password?
Advanced Search

— Forum Scope —




— Match —





— Forum Options —





Minimum search word length is 3 characters - maximum search word length is 84 characters

sp_TopicIcon
Positive Therapy Experiences
October 7, 1999
2:33 pm
Avatar
rebate
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 30, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

I have just had the most moving Therapy session. I want to share it because so many people ask 'Does therapy really help?' Well, in my case, absolutely.

I was molested as a child by a relative. At 47yrs. old I am just now trying to resolve my feelings and what it did to my life. It has been a struggle. I have been so mistrustful all my life, it was a gut wrenching experience just to make the decision to find a Therapist and start the healing journey. I have been working with Dr. L. for about a year now.

Although I have a very long way to go yet, I have made some real progress. Recently, my Therapist was on Vacation. We met for the first time in 3 weeks a few days ago. One of the things we were working on before he left was the terrible relationship I had with my Mother. She is dead now, but the pain and guilt are still very clear for me.

My Therapist was able to help me see that I blamed my Mother all my life for not protecting me while I was being abused. I even remember her catching the boy once. Her reaction has stayed with me for 38 years.
She screamed at me " Don't ever let anyone touch you like that!" It crushed me. It WAS my fault! The boy had said if I told anyone they would blame me. He was right!

Anyway, Dr. L. suggested that I try writing my Mother a 'letter'. In his absence I did. It took several evenings at the Keyboard, and it literally made me ill at times, but I finished it. I re-read it several times and the amount of anger that showed sort of stunned me.

I have always had trouble talking about very sensative things in session, but the raw emotions I put in this letter seemed so important that I felt my Therapist had to hear them. So, I mailed it to him. He received it before our session and it was a tremendous help for both of us. He is a very kind, and supportive person. It was obvious to me that he really understood what I was going through.

This session was the deepest, most meaningful work I have ever done. I was surprising calm and comfortable discussing the content of the letter in session. I have done journaling for many, many years, but this is the first time I have allowed anyone to read such an emotional piece. I am very glad that I did.

I am sorry for the long post. This has just been like lifting a 2 ton weight off my shoulders. I would like to hear others positive experiences in Therapy.

October 8, 1999
9:21 pm
Avatar
guest_guest
Guest
Guests

Wow.. great...

October 8, 1999
9:47 pm
Avatar
Guest
Guests

guest_guest.

Welcome back. How the bloody hell have yuh been goin' mate! Haven't heard from you for some time. 🙂

Rebate.

Good for you. Now the real journey of recovery has started. Congratulations.

I bet that the past baggage has really affected your relationships with self and others.

October 9, 1999
1:31 pm
Avatar
rebate
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 30, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Tez,

Thank you. Yes, my childhood was literlly destroyed by the fallout from the abuse. It turned me into an angry, hateful, overbearing Control Freak, workaholic.

The real reason I sought help was because I was having Anxiety attacks. I finally ended up in the Emergency Room one night because I thought I was having a heart attack while I was driving home from a business trip.
My Doctor finally said "Get help before it IS a heart attack!"

Anyway, I was very fortunate that I found a good Therapist that helped me get to the real core of my problems.

Guest-Guest, Hi, how have you been these last few months? Hope you found help also.

October 9, 1999
4:03 pm
Avatar
momo
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 29, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

This is the first time I have used this service and I look forward to the information that I will be able to use and learn from. I am 46 years old and a graduate student working on my counseling degree. I am also in therapy and it has been the best thing I have given myself in my adult life. I have started counseling several times, but never stuck with it. This time I made a decision that the quality of my life was not very good and that I needed to get my act together before I was able to work with other people. It is an intense and painful journey but one that I would encourage anyone to do if there is a real need to live life in the fullest possible way. The problem that I have encountered has been with other people. As I seek to discover who the "real me" is other people become uncomfortable. I have had to deal with that. I don't blame them for being uncomfortable. For many years I have worn a mask and essentially lost myself. It is an adventure to discover who the real me is, although the real me has been there all along, I just did not see it.

October 9, 1999
4:41 pm
Avatar
rebate
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 30, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Momo,

Good to hear that someone else is having a good Therapy experience. I know what you mean about people feeling uncomfortable. I get the same thing. For that reason I don't discuss my Therapy with very many people.

In fact, I have only mentioned it a couple of times with one friend. I think part of the problem is so many people out there really want to seek help, but for one reason or another they don't. I have found that some people almost seem jeleous of our conviction to seek help and our success when we do.

I don't want to sound like a reformed smoker who preaches the evils of smoking. I am just so pleased with my Therapy right now that I want to share it.

Good luck to you. I bet you will make a great counselor.

October 9, 1999
5:24 pm
Avatar
guest_guest
Guest
Guests

Hi Tez, how is it going with you? Well, i just came back after a long time, because i had been busy and i decided not to come here frequently, because i had said many things i had wanted to say and had gotten all the responses (ok, almost all the responses) that i could have gotten.
Well, i have changed much in the way that i have changed my ideas. Sometimes i feel on top of the world the sometimes on the bottom, really, no kidding. I really experience these extremes. One day when i get the chance, i will write something which should be a help to those who grew up in negative circumstances and how they can help themselves. I dont know, i feel that it was unfair on me to experience this negative growth, since it was no fault of mine. but i beleive that its always possible to recover no matter what happens and that is my focus.
How is it going with you? I feel you are always looking from deep perspectives for everything. Have you arrived at any generalized conclusions? I beleive that everything has a simple answer to it, and that is why these answers are always available to everyone. And that is my mission, to find these answers and tell them to everybody.
When theres work pressure on me, i dont feel very good and that is the case right now. There i go again. I really dont want to say the same things i have said because i know what i have to do... i am sorting things and God help me with THAT..
Hi rebate, hows it going?
Hey I remembered what happened a few months ago (skye, joe cool, molly, monica and tez AND the site corrdinator), i have to laugh, it was quite a turmoil wasnt it? Well there are all sorts of people here.

October 9, 1999
7:18 pm
Avatar
Jaskid
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 30, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

guest_guest,

When are you going to write something to those of us who grew up in negative circumstances?.... I am curious as to how I can help myself deal with this. I also experience extremes like you are talking about. I have been praying for God to release me from this weight that I feel from my emotions. I just feel stuck sometimes.

Jaskid

October 9, 1999
7:43 pm
Avatar
guest_guest
Guest
Guests

When am i going to write? I dont know.. when i have time for it. Right now, i cant do anything, although i have so much material i have thought.. but i will definitely do it. It should be a project of my life and what i have thought is that it will be an eye opener for some people... it might be very controversial... there might be some people who will not agree with me... now some one might be saying 'o yeah right..'. but i see many things in different lights. My basic idea is the every human is completely free to do what he wants, and when he is not happy, it normally means that he is not exercising his right to be free. Most of the times, i think he does it unconciusly, without knowing that he is denying his basic right to be free. Mostly he learnt in his youth that it was not possible for him to live freely. That was what i experienced in my childhood and i was imposed many things on me, which projected that i was never allowed to be free. If you notice happy people you will see that they live their life very 'freely' without any hesitation. I think so... But i have a lot to see and to learn, and to conclude.. my mission is to arrive with some basic set of rules which should allow any human being to live his life freely (no matter what had happened to him before), because this is his basic right... right now it might seem that this is all not making sense or maybe its just common sense.. but whatever it is, i will do more research on it. I know there are so many people who are not living their lives as they could be.. mostly its not their fault but they can always recover, and they have to...
But i think the basic thing is recognizing your right to live your life the way YOU want to, not because someone else (that includes EVERYone you can think of, that ever was and is too) wants you too.. making sense? i dont know...i think so...

October 11, 1999
12:12 am
Avatar
Liab
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 27, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

guest

Sometimes we have to settle our past before we are free to go on with our future. At times it appears as if there has been many wasted years. I have come to the realization that the "wasted years" were times of learning and applying many diverse responses to situations that kept surfacing because of the past. All eventually come together if we actively seek the appropriate help we need, and eventually we are able to live a positive life in the present instead of continually looking and living the negative aspects of our past.
Liab

October 11, 1999
12:12 am
Avatar
Liab
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 27, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

guest

Sometimes we have to settle our past before we are free to go on with our future. At times it appears as if there has been many wasted years. I have come to the realization that the "wasted years" were times of learning and applying many diverse responses to situations that kept surfacing because of the past. All eventually come together if we actively seek the appropriate help we need, and eventually we are able to live a positive life in the present instead of continually looking and living the negative aspects of our past.
Liab

October 11, 1999
1:16 am
Avatar
guest_guest
Guest
Guests

thats right

October 17, 1999
11:24 pm
Avatar
Sherri
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 27, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

I suppose you're right about the past just being learning experiences, but sometimes it's hard to just let the past go, or "live & learn". I have finally decided after years of hesitation/contemplation to seek the advise of a couselor. I am encouraged by your success, rebate. Wish me luck!

October 18, 1999
8:44 am
Avatar
rebate
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 30, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Sherri,

If you go into Therapy with an honest desire for help, I have no doubt you will do well. Remember, it doesn't happen over night, but just talking to someone for the first time helps.

Good Luck in your journey

Forum Timezone: UTC -8

Most Users Ever Online: 247

Currently Online:
47 Guest(s)

Currently Browsing this Page:
1 Guest(s)

Top Posters:

onedaythiswillpass: 1134

zarathustra: 562

StronginHim77: 453

free: 433

2013ways: 431

curious64: 408

Member Stats:

Guest Posters: 49

Members: 109444

Moderators: 5

Admins: 3

Forum Stats:

Groups: 8

Forums: 74

Topics: 38532

Posts: 714179

Newest Members:

ValeryasaDazy, bujhtrDazy, ArtyomyushkaDazy, wrestlingDazy, cnfhtvbkbfyDazy, inulaDazy

Moderators: arochaIB: 1, devadmin: 9, Tincho: 0, Donn Gruta: 0, Germain Palacios: 0

Administrators: admin: 21, ShiningLight: 572, emily430: 29

Copyright © 2019 MH Sub I, LLC. All rights reserved. Terms of Use | Privacy Policy | Cookie Policy | Health Disclaimer