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Poll: What do you think about this?
July 20, 2007
4:07 pm
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"when we try to release our anger through the means that you have described, it not only doesn't get rid of the anger, it actually helps to reinforce it and make it stronger."

That is exactly what I had heard.

They've even conducted some scientific experiments, comparing one group of angry people who were just left alone to "stew" and another angry group who were told to punch pillows. The group that punched pillows stayed angry longer and wanted to extract more revenge. The ones who were just left alone, got over it a lot faster.

July 20, 2007
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Loralei,

you really needn't instruct me on how that kind of behavior can be destructive and threatening. I have indicated that already. i sure am not proud of the fact that I put some holes in some dry wall, but I have owned it, learned, grown, and moved on.

Slamming doors is ok? How hard? I know a guy who fractured the safety glass in a steel door when he slammed it . I had to fix a door jam once from a slammed door. both were destructive. IMO, the steel door slamming was fury, the wooden door jam was cheap wood.

I broke a drawer, albeit a cheaply made one, once by slamming it. I didn't intend to break it, just wanted to slam it shut. So I learned not to slam those drawers.

hmm..the experiment you described seems to suggest that we are better off suppressing anger - 'stewing." However, the other party may have stayed angry longer, but i wonder in the long run who benefits the most?

being told to punch pillows is not the same thing as "wanting" to punch them. Not everyone wants or needs to punch pillows. there's a difference I think between rage and anger.

July 20, 2007
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glittered, I didn't mean for that entire post to be directed at you. I was speaking in generalities in the middle portion. Sorry if it sounded like it was only to you. I should have just left your name off of it altogether. I was going to respond to you and then got carried away. Didn't mean to offend.

July 20, 2007
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I don't think anger is the same thing in everybody's life, and I don't think all physical expressions of anger are bad.

For one person, expressing anger physically...punching a punching bag for instance,... might be loss of control, or infantile behavior...It depends on what they've lived through, and where their emotional and social maturity are.

For others, and I'm one, there's a problem of having been pretty violently repressed as a kid. I had the tar beaten out of me, literally, if I showed anger, fear, sorrow, desire, independent opinion, etc.

I've had to learn to show those feelings. And that means on the surface, physically. There are wells of old frustration and feeling that you have to do something about or they'll corrode your relationships and wreck your health. Announcing to your spouse, "I'm angry honey," won't do you much good if you're tapping into repressed anger.

For me showing feelings has been a two step process: first let the emotion come out in full enough force that I could see it, and believe me, they don't come out nice and tidy and socially groomed; and only then could I begin to learn to handle it: modulate it, discipline it.

The people who spoke up for venting anger by punching a punching bag or bouncing around a padded room were talking about safe situations, in which the anger wasn't being flaunted or indulged in front of others, like road rage or blowing your stack while you're waiting in line. They were doing it away from any situation in which a viewer would be offended or upset. I thought they came up with pretty good solutions to the social concerns of needing to blow off steam.

I think the problem is self indulgence, not physical anger per se.

Anger isn't always the same event for everybody.

July 20, 2007
5:33 pm
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Loralei,

no prob - just wasn't sure.

at any rate..the original question was do i think there is a market for anger depot? I assess markets often for my job and my litmus test for these things is 'would i invest my own money (ahem, if I had extra laying around ) in it?" The answer here is I would not invest in this because there are less expensive alternatives. One could:

1. break their own junk
2. exercise
3. install their own punching bag/pillows.

as such i don't anticipate a heavy volume and nor would i expect frequent repeat buyers. We are looking at a very small segment of the market who would use such a service..as such we'd need large profit margins to make money..this would raise the price and I'd suspect that this market would be very price sensitive. how much would you be willing to pay to punch some pillows?

But don't stop thinking of these ideas TBT...no sin to consider a business idea. innovation is good..keep that noodle turning : )

July 24, 2007
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Thank you all for your responses.

It is truly food for thought.

Note to fanta's July 19th post: Do you remember anything else about that other country, Japan or China that uses the vases? Thanks.

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