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POLL: How much of our misery, do you suppose, is due simply to pride?
October 27, 2006
5:56 pm
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Not quite sure how to answer this one myself. Not to EVER excuse those who really raked me over the coals...but my innate sense is - that my own pride just MIGHT be getting in my way of even considering the possibility of happiness.

Really gut-wrenching to consider this. Hmmmm.

Any thoughts from those whom have tasted and digested a slice of humble pie????

October 27, 2006
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PRIDE is a huge factor for me, and I just hate it because it just sneeks in sometimes when I don't even know it. Pride was defined to me one time as "self-reliant". I am fairly self-reliant, and it has kept me "safe"...but not really.

Bottom line? It sucks big time.

Good question tBt. But what about you, why would you be happier if you let go of some of your pride?

October 27, 2006
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Truth,

Interesting that this should come up today.

Earlier I was talking to my mother and telling her about some of the things my xso said to me. She said that I never told anyone so no one knew what was going on. She also said I must not have been too proud of him because I didn't keep a picture of him on my desk.

I guess I didn't say anything about the remarks he made because I didn't want anyone to pity me. That's pride.

I'd say a good 3/4 of my issues have to deal with pride. The other quarter is simply denial, which may very well be a part of pride.

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Cyndra

October 27, 2006
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on my way,

I guess my biggest crux is that I was the "baby" of the grossly dysfunctional family...so I "Pride" myself on not having to ask for help from the "grown-ups" even though I am 46 years old...perhaps, to my own detriment.

But, I am realizing - that in the process of protecting myself with this great wall - that perhaps I am also shutting out those whom have a sincere wish to be a part of my life.

But I don't know how to distinguish between the two!!!

I guess the bottom line is that I was hurt so badly growing up...that I have not put my "pride" on hold long enough to just simply "let love in" from those that really do care about me - because love...growing up...was a four-letter word - you know?

I have not, as yet - been able to distinguish real love from the awful connectations that "love" was associated with growing up.

(I've been drinking a little tequila...so this may not make sense....)

October 27, 2006
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LOL on the tequila! I hardly drink at all...maybe twice a year...I keep telling myself I should drink more than I do...PATRON! But alas, I do not.

I remember reading on here a few months ago, someone was describing taking down the wall. It was described as taking down one brick at a time, and laying it down as part of a foundation to stand on. I just thought that was so cool. And it made perfect sense....strong foundation...less need for walls, and it is easier to take down one brick at a time than the whole wall for most.

Sounds like you associate love with hurt from your childhood, is that right? So 'fear' is a part of that recipe as well. What happens to you when you when you let people love you?

I am just asking questions from what I interpreted in your post. I could be totally way off base.

October 27, 2006
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On My Way,

You are not off base.

You asked what happens to me when I let people love me?

I dunno yet.

I suppose my pride (protection) gets in the way.

I'm a real hard nut to crack!

October 27, 2006
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i am going to start another thread title...only in a little while i won't be able to check back in until Monday....here goes!

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