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please, someone tell me what is wrong with me!
August 7, 2000
10:03 am
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bev
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what is wrong with me? i am so lonely. in this past year, i've overcome a lot. depression. the sudden death of my mentor. severe social anxiety. that last one i still have bouts of. i'm still wondering why i am alone. why i don't have a relationship. what is my hang up with having a relationship?! but i wonder why i can't keep anyone's attention... am i not pretty or skinny enough? am i ot smart enough? am i not fun enough? i spend so much time trying to figure out the "right formula" for finding a relationship. and i'm tired of waiting. tired of relying on faith, telling myself that the timing is not right. i'm 21. i want to be dating. i want to know what i am doing wrong... should i ask people who know me better? is that pathetic?

August 7, 2000
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I seriously doubt anything is wrong with you, life is hard, and it is difficult to get to know people, my daughter 22 has practically given up on dating, and when she does get one, he is a jerk. get out there, and mix with people,own the knowledge that you are a unique, and beautiful gift to the planet, and if the others can't take the time to see it, then it is their loss. Exercise, find an art class, sit at the coffee shop get out there and take a chance on life, it is hard, I had to do it, at 20+ years older than you, now that was scarey, but I had fun after I got into it. Death of some one close to you triggers many many things, but the living must keep on living.

August 7, 2000
2:24 pm
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dont worry bev, i dont have a relationship too..
so ur not alone.. 😐 ..
i know all my problems are due to my low self-esteem and i have to solve that first...

August 9, 2000
1:37 pm
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Hey bev,
I, too am at a self awarness stage. Although I know the origin of my problems, they can still be very overwhelming sometimes. There are some things I do to attain a sense of relief from the pressures in my life. I read----everything I can get my hands on. I love fiction because with a good love story or whatever the plot may be comes remedies that I like to call "life's little lessons." You would be surprised how a good book can help you identify the good in you and help you capitalize with respect to friends and family on your good points. Try this.... Write down everything in you life that you could and want to change in one column. Directly across from the item, write down ways or methods to start making those changes. Avoid things that you don't have control over, such as "wanting people to like you" or "what you want people to think of you." FIND YOURSELF FIRST--you're likes and dislikes and then surround yourself with people who have similar ones. A good connection with one positive person tends to lead us in a positive direction. Good luck---and remember, don't just dump on them, be a listener as well.

August 10, 2000
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bev, why don't you try personal ads? There are a lot on teh computer, and in the newspaper, and many people have met others they matched with. Also, try a dating service. It's not just for people who are desparate, it's also for people too busy to be going out themselves.

I, for one, did the whole going out and flirting adn dating thing. It's not hard. All you have to do is dress well adn look receptive and if you go out, men will swarm.

I've dated alot, and I relaly found love with my fiancee when I wasn't even looking for a realtionship. Just goes to show...

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