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Please read! For people with Low self-esteem and depression due to abuse in childhood
November 13, 2001
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I'm reading this book by John Bradshaw "Homecoming : Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child".
Atleast the begining is EXCELLENT. I would recommend this to anyone who is faced by low self-esteem or abuse (not advertising it, but trying to help out).
I have yet to start the actual 'grief' work in the book, but whatever John has said uptil now, it has struck home with me and I have understood and identified with it very well. It has helped me to see my problems more clearly.
Here's the link to buy it:
I hope I can finish the book and all the work in it. And one of John's counselor's workshop is also upcoming in February 2002 in California. I dont care how much it takes or costs, I will do whatever I can, to solve this long due problem of low self-esteem which has really crippled my life.
I know I cant be the person I want to be and do the things I want to do, unless I have high self-esteem.

And a hello to old friends, like Cici Molly and Tez definitely! (i first came to this site about 3 years ago and keep hoping in from time to time, cant leave this addiction, hehe)

November 13, 2001
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Neither can the rest of us. Good job guest guest, good to hear your doing good, you sound great. Tez is usually on the other side, hehe, but checks in here once and a while. Keep on.

November 13, 2001
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Hello Guest_Guest,
I will look at the link and maybe buy the book. I am moving back to California in April of 2002.

I can't seem to leave this place either. :-)))

I know this book will do wonders for me since I suffer al of the above.

Take Care
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November 13, 2001
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I need to move to California too! Anyone for starting a commune?

November 14, 2001
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I took a psychology class a year ago called "Identifying and helping surviviors of dysfunctional families" I orignally took it for psychology credit but realized by the end it was very heplful of a class personally! Made me understand alot fo things. Anyway my point was.. Our text for the class was " The Family" By John Bradshaw. It is VERY helpful for people like me who grew up with many siblings and divorced parents. I'll have to pick up this book you mentioned also guest. Where cn ai find information about this workshop?

Oh by the way.. the class was almost like a counseling session every week! by the end of the class We had people crying about their family problems.. speaking out about their feelings to the class. IT was great! I wish i could take it again.

November 14, 2001
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Thanks Molly. I am doing better, but lets say I was a 2/10 3 years ago and nw i'm just maybe 3.5 or 4/10. Need a lot more to do!
atleast i've gotten better i know i have thankgod. I even now beleive that even if we utter fake unrealistic words of praise to ourseleves (when we think its not working), it still works and tries to get into your bones. Its like we got bad uneeded words from our parents and now we give ourselve the good needed words, praise, encouragements from ourselves.

bel,
good luck with the book! it will make you feel like home. Before this book, I had read on depression and I had also read another man's storty about the emotional abuse he got from his parents and how he survived and now he loves his 8 yrs old daughter. When i read that for the first time, I had tears in my eyes, and they were good cleansing tears. I felt so at home.
http://www.living-library.com/.....eartMates/
(it doesnt have the full articles it had 3 years ago, but still contains the kind of stuff 'homecoming' had).
I'll try to get the full articles for you and me(i wanted to read them again too).

artist 2 enjoy ur trip to cali :).

Maribelle,
John looks like a very nic person at heart. Look at his pic here:
http://www.creativegrowth.com/.....ohnbio.htm
Atleast he looks like a kind soul and then is book uptil now is just great too. Lets hope I can do the work he gives there! This is one thing I should';'nt procastinate .. but still cant get rid of my net addiction.
Here's his website:
http://www.creativegrowth.com/
His own http://www.johnbradshaw.com/ seemed a little commercial, but neevrmind.
The workshop info you can find here:
http://www.creativegrowth.com/.....flier1.htm
Thats great! The crying must have been good for the whole group. (its something like bradshaw mentioned in this book as well).

Wish me good luck on the book!. Damn its 2.30 am again and today i did nothing as well. I'll read one paragraph of bradhshaw and go to sleep. Need to stop procastinting!
The mind is such a jungle.

November 14, 2001
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This is my philosophy of surviving,hope you can relate to it.!!
"To create a positive direction in your life,you need to create positive changes in your personal growth.To create positive changes in your personal growth,you need to create positive changes in your personal environment.To create changes in your personal environment,you need to create changes in your external environment.To create changes in your external environment,you need to help those in the external environment that need a new positive direction in their environment."(philter61 2001)
AND THERES MORE.......
SURVIVOR/SURVIVING.
The difference between surviving and becoming a survivor is in my opinion this:-
*When you are a survivor ,you are no longer struggling , you have created positive changes in your life,through yourself and those around you that have given you support and love during your crisis.
*When you are a survivor,you have grown strong,you have created so much positiveness that it automatically generates into those around you and those that you come into contact with.When you are a survivor you realise how many others are out there that are struggling to survive.You see how many just give up and slip back to where they were before.You hear and see those that just give up and can't continue.The best thing about being a survivor is that you are now capable of helping those that are surviving.By making yourself available to those that are surviving you are able to show them how to become a survivor.As the more survivors there are the easier it will become for those that are only just surviving.*I was once just surviving,sub consciously destroying myself,my personal environment,my family and my friendships.*By communicating with survivors I have become a survivor,and I know that I will be able to sharemyself with others and teach them how to become a survivor.To grow stronger you were once weak,to create strength you must do work.You can't expect to keep going to the Gym and sit there looking at those around you admiring their strength and expect to grow strong youirself.You have to go to the Gym,do some work,look in the mirror after your hard work,and admire how much you have grown.There is nothing wrong with admiring yourself,there is nothing wrong with loving yourself.but it is wrong if you just sit there and procrastinate.LOVE AND ADMIRE YOU ALL
philter61

November 14, 2001
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Hmm. I procastinate. Why ? one reason i have low self-esteem.
vicious circle, you see! even to work to get my self-esteem high, i need self-esteem. I need something(self-esteem) to help me get what I dont have(self-esteem again).
hmmmm

November 15, 2001
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I THINK YOUR LOOKING FOR EXCUSES!!!!

November 15, 2001
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heh. maybe

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